------------------------------------------------------ The Art of Male Masturbation (From a sex therapist) ------------------------------------------------------ Three techniques for Teenager's to Octogenarians. Plus a little about menopausal women and their men. OVERVIEW: --------- Any male reading the above title would initially think, "what a stupid subject, it doesn't take a manual to know how to masturbate." They would be correct in that assumption of course. But it takes time and experience to receive the full joys of self manipulation. As an example, The average boy when first discovering this new-found past time, will jerk-off many times each day. Just the feeling of release is enough to satisfy his needs. This state goes on for many years. But as the boy grows into a man and begins to have sexual relations with other human beings, the tendency is to search for technique and quality of experience rather than just 'getting off'. The following are three of the most popular ways that men masturbate. Read these techniques carefully, they can be used in combinations that will give much plea- sure for years to come. PREPARATION: ------------ It is suggested as a preparation for masturbation, that the participant obtain external stimuli (ES). The most popular form of (ES) is written pornography. The advan- tage to (ES) material is that when reading about sexual situations your masturbitory experience is heightened ten-fold. There are many good authors erotic stories. They can be readily obtained on the internet, or at any adult orientated store. (you must be at least 18 years old to legally obtain these materials) Before going into manual techniques, let me say a cou- ple of things about preparation. Take your time. To receive full enjoyment from your experience find a time and place where you can masturbate without fear of interruption. Also have the materials easily at hand for clean-up afterwards. This may sound obvious to everyone, but I mention it, only because you need to remove any outside worry's. To fully enjoy your coming orgasm, it is best to turn your thoughts inward, with as little external stimuli as possible. Lay completely unclothed on your bed. Begin to read an erotic story. Do not touch yourself until you feel the first drop of pre-cum drip onto your skin. (This is important as preparation to technique One especially) At that time you are full prepared to begin your manual manipulation. ------------------- TECHNIQUES: ------------------- ONE: (Slip N' Slide) (SNS) Once your pre-cum has begun to flow, (Without manual manipulation) The male should begin to slowly spread his semen over his erect penis with thumb and fingers. Taking the penis loosely be- tween his fingers and thumb as if writing a letter. Let the head of the penis gently rub against your the valley between thumb and fore-finger. The combination between the slickness of the distributed pre-come, and the erotic story you are reading will give the closest experience to sex with a woman as possible. Again, in this technique it is important not to hurry. If the male performs the (SNS) technique correctly, the orgasm should 'sneak' up on him. There should be the thought in the back of the man's mind that is something like, "Wow, I'm going to come any second, and I could- n't stop from doing so, no matter how hard I tried." The male should slow his manipulation down at this time, and let the sensation build slowly. He should have a very slick erection fingers rubbing his shaft effortlessly. NOTE: To increase the intensity of a (SNS) orgasm, just when the male begins to ejaculate, he should raise his legs from the waist, while continuing to lay flat on his back. Legs should be either just a few inches off the bed, or pointing toward the ceiling. (Each male will find his preferred position) The added strain of the stomach muscles will greatly intensify the orgasmic spasms. TWO: (Stand N' JerK) When a man stands while mastur- bating his cardiovascular system is at a heightened level. This will change the overall intense feeling of his experience. Reading erotica or visual stimuli is still recommended for this style. The best place to perform Stand N' Jerk (SNJ) is in the participants bathroom. The advantages are obvious, privacy, mirrors, and easy clean up. The average male should begin the (SNJ) technique by viewing pictures or reading erotic stories. (Of course it's not necessary, but it will heighten the orgasm) The same suggestions apply as to position and style of 'hand manipulation' as described in technique ONE. As the male reaches his orgasmic state, (if he performed his masturbation as out lined) will feel a tightness in his legs, most markedly in the thighs. Just as the participant's orgasm is almost upon him, he should stop manual manipulation, but continue to hold his erect penis. (The right moment for this is just as he feels the spasms being forced from the prostate gland.) If the participant did every step correctly, he should, at the final moment before ejaculation, see clear sea- man spurt out. The feeling at this moment should be extremely pleasurable. This is called 'Pre-Orgasm'. After several spurts of clear semen, the full orgasm should begin. At this point the 'milky' semen will begin to spurt, bringing on another even more powerful set of orgasmic spasms. The (SNJ) technique, if per- formed correctly, will give the participant a 'double' orgasm, lasting twice as long as normal manipulation would allow. THREE: (Chinese Position) Called "Chinese" only because in the 19th century when this position first became popular in opium dens in England, the participant's would say, "Giving a little life to China." This may sound rather obscure, but let me explain. The Chinese Position is basically where the man lays on his sto- mach while masturbating. This position takes a little imagination on the man's part, because he must find the props to allow him to lay face down and still be able to 'jerk-off'. In the nineteenth century men who visited the opium dens had a choice, they could have a privet pallet to enjoy a little solo action, and when they came their sperm would shoot toward 'China - the other side of the world' hence the name 'Chinese Po- sition". They also had the option of having a Chinese woman under their specially constructed pallet, who would give them oral stimulation. (Another and more meaningful reason to call it the "Chinese Position") The best way to situate ones self in this position has been to use a couple of chairs, or if twin beds are available (such as in a motel room) to move them close enough together to allow the man to lay over the 'crack'. The hand should act as a vagina (held steady while the male performs humping motions) The advantage to this position is that the male can 'hump' and more closely imitate actual sex with a woman. Also, (after placing a towel on the floor) he can reach orgasm and release without having to worry about aim or clean up. This position gives the male a since of freedom of release, very similar to that of the orgasmic release he gets with a woman. There are another 234 known techniques and positions for male masturbation, but the ones outlined here are by far the most popular among men worldwide. It is a normal progression for men as they grow older to take longer to reach orgasm. The reason for this is both physiological and psychological. On the one hand as the body matures semen production slackens, also the male organ, although just as sensitive at in the teenage years, responds differently to external stimuli. And psychologically, a desensitizing effect takes place with experience. Anything, even sex can become routine. The average American couple at age 25 will have sex 300 times a year. At 45 this same couple will only be experiencing sexual relations 75 times a year. During the initial menopausal years for the wife (50-55) the sexual contact can drop to as low as 12 times a year. During this time masturbation becomes important to males in this category. The typical male even at 60, needs regular sexual release. It is one of the best cardiovascular exercise available. (recent tests show that males who have at least two orgasms a week live 30% longer that males who don't) A ray of hope for those men experiencing the menopausal stage. It usually only lasts during transitional stages. The post menopausal woman can have a more forceful and inventive sex drive than she did in her 20's. Be patient, and keep in mind that, 'all good things come to those willing to wait'. FEMALE MENOPAUSE ---------------- "Good Sex". Anything worth doing takes effort. The same thing applies to a good sex life. Don't treat your partner as if she's a vestal virgin. Share your feelings, wants, and needs with her. If you are reading sexy stories to masturbate to, bring your woman into it with you. You just might be surprised at her posi- tive reaction. (You will know how fast to do this, some women will not respond, but most will surprise you.) A suggestion. If your sex life is non-existent, try wear- ing nothing to bed. And when you wake up with that erection in the morning, bring your partners hand to it. Get her used to touching it, try to make it a morning tradition. If she loves you, she'll start doing it more and more, you just have to get her used to the idea. This is a good way to get her thinking about sex during the day. Another suggestion, whenever the mood strikes (and you have an erection) and when it seems right, expose it. Let her see you erect. A good time is at night, when you are going to bed. She's brushed her teeth and is laying in bed while you're in the bathroom. Get hard, then walk to your side of the bed sporting your lust for her to see. At the very least you'll get a comment, and at the very best you'll get sex. Remember, you are the one that (during this period in her life) who must be the instigator. One last note: Give her an orgasm. That will do the most to get her 'back in the saddle' again. Let her be on top, so she can control her own manipulations. ------------------------------------------------------