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She Expanded The Horizon of Her Feminine Pleasure Potential
(Her report of her personal experiences... 18 months after her first MFM
experience)  By Beverly from Michigan  -  Received by Joan during November,
1999.  This is one of over 50 FREE "extra guy" stories available from Joan. 
E-mail me if you want a listing of stories abailable.


Dear Joan (JJJ3313260@AOL.COM)...

You have been so kind, sharing your advice and stories over the past two years,
I thought I would bring you up to date on my life.

Like so many other husbands that I have read about, for the past several years
my husband has enjoyed engaging in wild fantasy talk while we make love. 
Surprise, surprise!  During those pillow-talk sessions, he often mentioned that
he would love to have another guy screw me while he watched and/or
participated.

Well, for years I just tolerated his talk as something men had to do to get
turned-on.  Then, over the years he brought home X-rated videos and various
magazines that featured three people having sex together.  I finally started
reading many of the letters about threesomes in Penthouse, Forum, etc., and
wondered if the writers were really telling true stories... or was it all just
titillating fiction.

About two years ago I stumbled onto one of the stories you had posted on the
Internet, and your listing of available personal experience stories... about
women who had allowed themselves to experience MFM threesome sex.  As you know,
I started corresponding with you via e-mail, and you began sharing many of your
stories with me.  At first, I still thought some of the stories that purported
to be “true experiences,” were really just fiction.

However, the more I read, I began to sense that most of the stories you were
sending did read as being reasonable representations of what other real couples
were doing to add spice to their shared sex lives.  After much thought and
re-evaluation of some of my long-held value systems, I decided that maybe
recreational sex between me, my husband and others was not such a wicked or
far-out thing to do.

Believe me, reaching that conclusion was no small feat for a woman of my
upbringing!  I had been taught that sex was something ONLY done with one’s
married partner... and preferably just for the purpose of making babies. 
Recreational sex was an oxymoron not unlike ‘military intelligence.’

I guess one of the things that helped me overcome my earlier inhibitions was
the
recognition that I had already rejected the notion that ALL sex outside of
marriage was sin (my husband and I enjoyed some great sex before we got
married)... and that any form of contraception was sinful.  Clearly my husband
and I enjoyed considerable sexual pleasure that was not intended to result in
additional children.

Sexual affairs are still totally out of the question for me, because they seem
to require violation of a trust and openness that I hold dear in my marriage. 
However, I concluded, if my husband and I could genuinely come to terms with
the notion of each other having intimate relations with others just for the
sake of shared sexual fun, then MAYBE such things as MFM and FMF experiences
could be possible for us.

One night after I had mentally wrestled with my growing sexual interests, and
my
husband’s continued pillow-talk about inviting others to share in our bedroom
fun, I finally decided to talk with my husband and let him know that I MAY
finally be open to trying some new things with him.

For the first time I told him about the many stories you had shared with me,
and the candid advice you had shared via e-mail.  As you might guess, my dear
husband was elated!  Over the next several nights, we even read several of your
stories together (I have saved everything you have sent on a special file in my
computer).

I told my husband that of all the things I read that you had sent, the story by
Sandy and Jim (J3-103) and the one by Ken and Sue (J3-102).... were the most
persuasive to me that three-way fun was not perverse.  Then your J03-WHY helped
me understand a bit more about why my husband might want to have me experience
another man or men.

Lucinda’s story (J3-105), and Annette’s story (J3-107) gave me insight on the
fun and special joy other husbands and wives were sharing as they opened
themselves to the sensual potentials of this kind of recreational sex. 
Frankly, the letters written by women had a bigger impact on me than most of
the ones written by the men.  Some of the things that some of your writers have
ventured into are not likely to ever appeal to me.  But other writers gave me
some great new ideas.


FEARS:  Jealousy, Prudity, Nudity and Confidence About My Body -

Well, over the next several weeks my husband and I enjoyed some really great
sex together as we talked about actually giving threesome sex a try.  We talked
about some of the issues... or potential fears... that I would guess other
women have considered too.  

JEALOUSY:  During that time, my husband and I talked a lot about the
possibility of jealousy coming up between us if one of us saw the other
receiving or giving sexual attention (that could be construed as loving
attention) to another person.

My husband assured me that if he were allowed to see me enjoying recreational
sex with another guy... rather than him having a jealous reaction, he would
regard it as a special extension of our loving relationship that he would be
giving me... and I would be allowing him to share with me.  But, he said, if he
ever did experience any form of jealousy, he promised to immediately tell me.

On the other hand, I was less confident that jealousy would not result, if I
saw him having sex with another woman.  I wanted to say that I would not be
jealous, but in all honesty, I could not be sure that my ‘womanly instincts’
would not kick in.

To avoid dealing with my possible jealous reactions, we decided that (at least
early on) we would not invite another woman to our bed.  My husband assured me
that his preference was for MFM experiences anyway.

PRUDITY:  As mentioned above, I had already had to deal with my own potential
prudeness issues... sex outside of marriage... sex for other than procreation,
etc.  My husband and I had already developed a great ‘taste’ for oral sex...
both giving and receiving.  We both love it.  No prudity there.  However, I
felt that anal sex for me was clearly out.  It is not so much a prudity issue
as it is a pain issue.  The few times we have tried it, it had hurt... lots! 
So, at this point, prudity was not a big issue to us.

NUDITY:  I would think that the thought of appearing nude in front of a man
other than one’s husband might be a big road block to some women who have
considered trying MFM fun.  I know the thought went through my mind.

Fortunately, I have always had a positive self-image.  My body is far from
perfect
(remember, I have had three kids... and I have a few stretch marks, etc.), but
I thoroughly enjoy being a woman... a being ‘designed’ to attract and stimulate
male attention and desire.  I take great pride in knowing that my husband (and
other guys) seem to find me attractive.

Even around the house, I try to dress in as feminine a manner as possible.  I
avoid frumpy old clothes except when serious cleaning or remodeling work
requires it.  When I go out... even to the grocery store... I make sure my
appearance is clean, neat and tasteful.  I get my share of favorable ‘looks’
and eye contact from both men and women... even though my looks are really
quite average.

On the beach I often wear skimpy swim wear... particularly when we are away
from our community.  I admit it, I enjoy showing off my female body!  But, I am
not generally an exhibitionist either.

An exception was two occasions when my husband and I visited a nudist club. 
Once was several years ago (a year after we were married), and the second time
was about three years ago.  These were NOT sexual experiences.  Just
volleyball, swimming, socializing and dining... all in the nude.  At first I
was self-conscious... but that soon went away.  I think these two experiences
helped me avoid a fear of being nude in front a of new guy. 

The truth is, I totally enjoy being a FEMALE female.  My guess is that to the
extent a woman enjoys her femininity and finds pleasure in exploring its
potential... to that extent she will have less barriers to trying MFM fun.

As we found ourselves moving closer to really trying an MFM experience, we
decided to set down some rules between ourselves.  


The Rules We Adopted -

First, we agreed that if we started by having another man join us, we would
follow that sometime in the future by inviting a woman to join us.  I have to
admit that this was my suggestion, albeit a hesitant suggestion.  I wasn’t as
confident as my husband seemed to be that jealousy need not get involved.  And,
I had no interest in sexual interaction with another woman.  But then, my
husband really had no interest in overt sexual contact with another guy either.
 It just seemed fair.  If I was going to experience “doubled attention,” then
he should too.

Second, we agreed that we would restrict sexual contact with others to times
when we could both be present... no outside “affairs”... and not what one would
call an “open marriage.”  We wanted this to ALWAYS be a sharing thing.  Neither
was to ever be left out.

Third, we would jointly decide how extra partners would be selected and
“screened.”  While we might not be together in person while the other made
arrangements with a prospective guest to our love life, we would agree on
guidelines for selection.

Fourth, we both agreed that total discretion would be critical.  Neither of us
wanted our family members, existing friends or co-workers to know of this new
aspect of our sexual relationship.  Thus, we agreed to use “pen names,” and to
communicate through e-mail, a post office box, and a private phone line we had
installed in the closet of our bedroom.  By the way, your J02-HIM file was
helpful on these issues.

Fifth, we knew that our new ventures would involve some health risks, but we
concluded that they would be minimal if we were picky about who we decided to
have join us.  So, we decided to stay away from men and women who boasted of
‘hundreds’ of swing or threesome partners (although we decided that it would be
helpful if our future partners had some experience prior to joining us
neophytes), to avoid having sex with people who gave evidence of poor personal
hygiene, had questionable lifestyles (active gay lifestyles, drug use, etc.),
skin rashes or obvious medical problems.

My husband has never enjoyed sex when he had to use condoms.  Actually, I
experienced less enjoyment at those times too.  So, I had my tubes tied after
the birth of our third child (3 years ago).  While we recognized we stood a
slightly increased health risk, we decided that condom-free sex would be
acceptable for any males we invited to join us.  Besides, a big part of my
pleasure comes from feeling that gush of male juices against my pussy walls...
and we sure didn’t need to worry about me getting pregnant.

We decided to deal with the condom issue on a case-by-case basis relative to
any women who joined us.  My husband agreed to honor the wishes of such women. 
Also, we agreed that if I or any other woman ever said “No” to something, we
would honor that wish without any questions or cajoling.  “No” was ALWAYS to
mean NO!

Sixth, we decided to avoid inviting any of these ‘extra partners’ to our home. 
Our income level allowed us the luxury of hiring child care when we wanted to
“go out,” and paying for a decent hotel/motel room as a place to play.

Seventh, my husband agreed to insist to any male ‘extra partners’ that they
should not try to have anal sex with me.  Contrary to what several of your
writers have written, the only anal sex I had experienced to this point was
accompanied by substantial discomfort and/or pain.  I just didn’t enjoy it.  I
had occasionally allowed my husband that luxury, but I didn’t want any other
guy to try to take me that way.

Our eighth and final rule was that we would ALWAYS honor each other’s wishes
having to do with stopping a given activity, asking an ‘extra partner’ to
leave, taking periodic breaks from our ventures, or totally terminating our
ventures into extra partner sex.  Oh yes, and as part of this, we agreed to
always watch out for the other’s well-being (avoiding rough stuff, getting rid
of drunk or disrespectful people, etc.). 


Planning Our First Threesome -

As you can see, once we decided to give threesomes a try, we spent a lot of
time together thinking through all the ramifications.  We wanted our future
adventure to be characterized by heightened sexual pleasures and shared fun...
not problems.

By this point... some two months after deciding we would give MFM a try... I
was
actually getting excited by the prospect of what we were going to try.  I am
not one to masturbate, but I would occasionally find myself in the shower using
the hand-held spray to stimulate my clit... or stroke myself to pleasant levels
of sexual tension as I lay in bed in the morning, waiting for my husband to
awaken.

During our weeks of planning, my husband and I found ourselves enjoying some
really intense sexual pleasures with each other.  We would almost always
fantasize about another guy being with us.  When my husband would cuddle up
behind me (with me on my side) and enter me from behind, he would whisper into
my ear that he was “Sam,” or “George,” or “Bill,” entering me for the first
time.  He would tell me how great it was to be inside my pussy... how warm it
felt.  Meanwhile, I would let my mind wander, wishing my husband was laying in
front of me so I could neck with him and cuddle with him while this “other guy”
was screwing me from behind.

I found myself treating my husband to oral sex more often.  I would bring his
cock to my lips, kiss it, study it and fondle his balls while wondering how the
masculine “equipment”



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first-person stories), no-strings attached.  I DO NOT have anything to sell!
-Joan- 

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