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 Author: Mr.Ocontrol
Title: Building passion for women
Keywords: Mf Female Orgasm Denial



   Building passion for women

   I know, strange title, however bare with me for just a bit and I will
hopefully build a case for how this can and does work.  Think about your
sex life for just a bit, after the initial beginning romance of new love /
lust starts to wear a bit thin, the enthusiasm for sex also begins to do
the same for many.  What if you could rebuild not only that strong desire
to enjoy sex, but make it even better than before, would you be interested
in giving it a try?  If you are willing to make just a few changes, you
will be amazed at how much pleasure you could have, and how much you were
missing before.  Now be forewarned, this is not an instant jump into bed
and see the difference tonight, however if you are willing to try for say
sixty to ninety days, in the end you will wonder why no one told you
sooner. The bond between you and your partner will become much stronger,
the pleasure you feel being with your partner will increase by a magnitude
of at least two fold, and you will find yourself ready and not only willing
but longing for time together daily.  Now you may be thinking sure, what a
load of crap, if something this good worked why would it not have been
discussed before now.  For one, because there is no money to be made by
laying out the information to make such pleasure possible between loving
partners.  You do not need any special potions, or toys to make this work.
Second, most people are not willing to give something a try for the few
weeks it takes to make this work.  This takes not only patience to allow
time for your body to adjust and learn what can be, but also requires trust
in each other, trust in your lover, trust that your needs and desires will
be taken care of.  However this can only happen if you are willing to place
your pleasure in the hands of another.

   Now broaching this subject with your lover can be a bit difficult for
some, however I think most would be more than willing.  For many women,
planning an evening to begin can be the most difficult part, however again
with some forethought this taking time to plan things out can be make it
even better.

   To begin with, if you're going through a bit of a rough spot where you
haven't been together for a while, this can be an amazing point to begin.
The biggest sticking point for most ladies though is overcoming the thought
of how things must begin.  For this to work, you will need to do just the
opposite of what your mind and body is telling you.  To allow yourself and
your lover to reach the greatest possible heights of pleasure and desire,
you will need to be willing to set aside your immediate release of pleasure
for just a few days.  What!  You say.  Trust me, it will make all the
difference, that's part of why you haven't read about this before. 
Everyone wants to experience pleasure and fulfillment now.  Again I can
tell you if you can wait just a few days, put aside what you know to be
true, and be willing to step out into the unknown and give this a try,
you'll be totally amazed at what will happen.

   Now to explain what must take place to make this exercise in trust and
intimacy work for you.  First, again there must be trust, trust that what I
am telling you will work, and even more importantly, trust in your partner.
For many women, leaving a note for your lover is the easiest way to begin.
Just explain that you want to try something that has the potential to
greatly enhance your sexual pleasure, passion, and intimacy.  Tell your
lover for this to work you will be placing yourself into their hands and
need their commitment to help you through the first few weeks as this will
be the most difficult part.  At this point you will have your lovers
attention and you need simply begin to explain what you would like to try.
I would venture to say 99% of the men out there would be more than willing
to give this a try.

   Imagine the following, it will explain what I have been discussing as
well as lay out what can happen.



   To begin: Having read about this enhanced pleasure Susan decides she
wants to give this a try.  Having had a long week of work without much time
or thought about their sex life, she has just dropped into bed going to
sleep, not needing, wanting, or even desiring a physical relationship with
her husband.  However after stumbling across an article online earlier in
the week, she has been turning this over in her mind for several days now.
Getting home early today, she knows it will be several hours before her
husband gets home.  Having contacted her mother earlier, the children are
with their grandparents for the weekend.  First taking time to set out some
wine and light snacks in their bedroom, she begins to get things prepared
for tonight.  After getting their bed ready, she decides it would be better
to take a bath before writing a letter to her husband, knowing once she
gets started on the letter her body will begin to react, and as was
explained in the article she read earlier, that is not something she should
try to wash away now that the evening is about to begin.

   Having prepared everything else, Susan now lights a few candles in their
room, as well as the bathroom.  First taking time to shower, she decides to
also trim herself.  Having always been raised to be modest, she feels
tonight it would somehow be alright to be more exposed than ever. 
Nervously she begins to remove her womanly cover, exposing her vulva more
than at any time since she began to grow hair.  Leaving just a tiny patch
of hair she begins to worry about what James may think, about if this is
taking things too far, about....  Finally remembering that everything she
has ever read says most men love this look, she begins to relax a bit.

   Drying herself, she again remembers the warning not to use deodorant or
sprays over her body due to the bad taste they can leave, however she can't
resist using just a bit under her arms.  After getting herself dried she
again forgoes the usual makeup for just a bit of lip gloss, relying instead
on her now building passion for everything else.  Choosing an easy to
remove, yet still elegant lite covering she decides it's time to write her
letters.

   Her first note left on the front door:

   Dear James

   I have a surprise for you, it is a good one...  The kids are with mom
for the weekend.  I'm in our room waiting for you, however before you come
back, please use the other bathroom to shower and get ready, after your
shower, please read the letter on the kitchen table, then come to our room

   Love Susan

   Now, for the more sensuous note:

   James, My one true love

   I know this is a bit different, unlike anything I've done before, but I
want this to be a special evening, one we can both look back on,
remembering how wonderful life together can be.  I do realize lately that
our sex life has not been what you have been wanting, with work and the
children it's just been difficult getting into the mood to want to do
anything more than just drop into bed.  For that I'm sorry, and hope this
evening can be just the start of a rebuilding of passion for the two of us.
There is something though that I will desperately need your help with in
this area.  After doing some research into building passion for women, I've
come across some information that seems worth a try.  For a long time now
I've wanted things to be better for you, for us, in this area, but haven't
known how to begin.  Now I have an idea that if it works will be more than
worth the effort, however I need you to know up front that it scares me,
that is to say I am going to be placing even more of myself into your
hands, in ways that before I never would have thought possible.  Tonight, I
want your to know to begin with that I need you, my body needs you, my
heart needs you.  However there is something I will need your help with to
make this work.  For at least the next few weeks I am asking you to take a
bit of extra time to take me to the very edge of my orgasm at least a
couple times before your begin to enter my body.

   Please, don't take me wrong, you feel wonderful whenever we make love,
it's just that I need to give you something I've never offered anyone else
before.  Instead of taking me to orgasm tonight, I'm asking that whatever
happens you will gently remind me that I must try not to allow orgasm to
overtake me.  I know this sounds strange, being the kind-hearted lover that
you have always been it may be difficult for you to say no as well.  But
please, I'm asking for your help in this, it's not that I don't want to
feel that pleasure, but that for me to be the lover you want, I need you to
take control of my pleasure.  What I'm asking is that if I'm willing to
give myself to you and if you would like me to need you inside me, that you
would begin allowing me to cum only when you know I'm ready.  Now knowing
you, and myself, I already know I'm ready now, but this must take place no
more than once every few weeks.  I'm not talking about us making love only
once during this time, but that I need you to help me give you my passion
in such a way that I learn to surrender myself so my pleasure is only
fulfilled through your orgasm the majority of the time.  Yes, it scares me
to ask this of you, knowing I still desperately need to feel the pleasure
of orgasm overtaking my body, however from what I've read, keeping the
woman on edge, only allowing one or two orgasms each month, even while
still maintaining an active relationship will not only flip the switch
igniting the female passion, but if done with a loving partner will also
build a stronger bond as the pleasure for both parties involved then comes
only when they are together.  This also allows the female, no matter how
strong she normally may be to be able to enjoy a submissive side that many
are afraid to even approach.

   For your part if I ask you to make me cum, if I beg you, even if I cry,
I need you to just hold me, not only keeping me on that edge, but pressing
me toward release while reminding me to remain just this side of orgasm. 
As for my part, I will try to take some of the burden from you in asking
you not to make me cum, or not to let me cum, that way I can still plead
with you, beg you, cry, and know you are truly giving me what I am asking
for.

   You must know by now how very much I trust you, and how I feel about our
love for one another.  I'm placing my desire and my pleasure into your
hands and asking that you to please protect and care for what I'm offering
you.  I never before wanted to give so much of myself in such a personal
way, but now, need to know what it's like, to learn the pleasure of giving
myself in this way, to know the longing, the desire, the need, and the
desperation of being ready to cry for my orgasm, all the while knowing it
will only be given when you know the time is right.  Please, and I'll only
ask this one time, please take care of me, of my desires, of my needs, but
also please be sure I ache for you before allowing my pleasure.  I need to
make a commitment to this, and need you to hold me to it.  For now, I'm
asking you to hold me to this for at lease the next 90 days.  I know I'll
struggle with this, I may even get upset, but I promise not to give myself
pleasure or release without your express permission, and only ask that you
help me in this time.

   Love, Susan

   Now, for a moment, think about what she just offered.  Susan, loving her
husband, wanting to make their relationship better, more fulfilling, even
more pleasurable to both of them has just ask her husband, her lover, her
best friend, to enjoy her body, her pleasure, her desire, her desperation,
and has even taken it one big step further by surrendering her very orgasm
to his control.  She has done this knowing much of the time she will be
left in a highly aroused state, with her body not only primed for orgasm,
but pushed well beyond where she could have enjoyed her fulfillment of
pleasure.  She has just placed her need for that most wonderful pleasure
behind the desire she has to develop a relationship with her lover so
together they can gain something that goes well beyond the instant
gratification of her orgasm, building toward an even more intimate moment.
This act of surrender on her part will help her to completely surrendered
herself, her body, and her pleasure to her lover.  Now when he decides the
time is right they can experience what happens when her fountains of
ecstasy are finally released and together they feel her flower of
femininity quivering with joy after she has again received his eruption of
rapture within her body.  As difficult as it is to put your needs and
desires aside to find this pleasure, it is even more wonderful and
fulfilling once you finally learn to let go, to give yourself in this way.
If the woman is able to totally relinquish control of her orgasm placing it
instead willingly into the care of her lover, providing he is not only
caring but attentive to her needs, they will both begin to experience a
closeness and bond that is way beyond that of two people having sex.

   The most difficult part for the woman is getting past the "But I wan to
cum too" stage and realizing there is a much deeper feeling that can only
be found through the female submissively surrendering of herself.  And for
you guys, if you look past the animalistic quickie, at the deeper level of
what is happening each time she allows you to make love to her you will
begin to see just what is actually being offered.  If you truly think about
it, in a loving relationship where your lady, your lover, your wife invites
you into her body, she is actually asking you to become a part of her. 
When you ejaculate into her body, you are actually leaving part of yourself
within her.  The mixture of seminal fluid and sperm, even when it doesn't
impregnate her, still work their way deep into her body, being absorbed
deep withing her core.  And moreover for those of you wishing to become
pregnant, the pelvic congestion she is experiencing due to her heightened
arousal and the denial of her orgasm allows her vaginal canal to remain in
a distended state for a much longer period of time allowing an even greater
chance for the semen to find their way into her cervix.  And if this is not
a sufficient list of benefits multiple studies have found that in a
monogamous relationship a constant supply of fresh semen in the vagina (as
in at least every other day) being absorbed by the female not only help
stabilize emotional and chemical fluctuations, but have also been shown to
help prevent certain cervical problems.  A few studies have even shown that
once the female body becomes accustom to the chemical composition of her
mates semen her body actually begins to become somewhat addicted to the
presence of theses compounds, to the extent that abruptly halting the
relationship can cause withdraw symptoms in extreme cases.  It seems the
deeper we look into the way the body works, the male and female
relationship bonding can be seen to be not only as love in the
psychological sense but we can now see there is even a physiological
bonding to the pair as well.

   Finally think about where this could lead.  Having a woman giving
herself in this way, knowing she may only experience an orgasm once or
twice a month, even though she is feeling her lover explode with pleasure
within her body on a daily basis.  She now must learn to enjoy the pleasure
of the build up, of how excited she is, of how her body is wanting to be
filled, and how wonderful it can be to just concentrate and enjoy the
feeling of her man flooding her insides each night.  How exciting would it
be, not knowing when you would be told to have your orgasm, only knowing
that it may happen sometime this month.  Leaving the option open to be told
to cum multiple times over several days should your lover so desire, and
knowing that you could even be ask to go five or even six weeks without
experiencing your orgasm.  The possibilities are endless, the reactions
even more interesting, going from an unexpected orgasm forced from your
body exploding with such force your literally shake uncontrollably from
head to toe, to even allowing yourself to be tied down and pushed to
multiple releases where you loose consciousness, to being edged and told to
cum while your lover continues to move within you, absorbing some of your
pleasure for themselves.

   Although it may sound like your giving something up, in reality, you
will be gaining so much more.  Yes, you may be asked to give up a few quick
orgasms, however, in do so you will be experiencing a pleasure that most
never realize is even there.  You will be able to taste the deeper passion
that can be ignited within the female body, on that once set ablaze and
continue to build, and when the release of this passion finally happens,
well all I can say is hold on and enjoy the moment.  Once you become
accustomed to this deeper level of what can be, you will likely never want
to return to what was.  For most, I think they find trying to go back after
learning how things can feel leaves them feeling empty, like they were
robbed of what a life of love can feel like.

   Now, would you ladies consider giving this a try.  If so, please tell me
not only what you think, but how it works out in the end.  If not, what
would prevent you from trying?  If anyone is willing, keeping an online
diary of your life while beginning this experience would be wonderful. 
Finally, how do you think this should continue, how should it work out, do
you want to read more?  For further discussion, please feel free to drop me
a note at mr.ocontrol at yahoo dot com