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 Advice From An Experienced Extra Guy

   The following thoughts are being shared by a 46-year-old guy who has
been the extra guy for many couples.

   To those of you who want to share your wife or partner with another man,
remember when you approach her that you are asking her to do something that
she has been taught since she was a child is wrong, and you will have to
introduce her to this slowly.

   All women are not the same, just like men are different.  Some ladies
will take less time thinking about it, and go for the lifestyle eagerly
when their partner suggests it.  Some will have to be shown a lot of extra
love and devotion before they open themselves to this lifestyle.

   I am not saying that women in this second group don't fantasize about
other men, they just think differently than men do.  Most women think of
sex being tied to romance, where men have more animal instincts, seeing sex
as a way for adult humans to experience great levels of pleasure.  Ladies
have such instincts too, but most don't realize it until it is brought out
in the open.

   The chances are good for you to transform your lady into a shared wife
or MFM participant, but you need to first approach her with your desire to
see her have sex with another guy.  Then be prepared for her reaction.  At
first her reaction will probably be to call you a pervert or something like
that, and not talk to you for a while.  But if you let the storm ride out,
tell her you are sorry if you offended her, tell her that you really do
love her, and tell her "its just that I think it would be so sexy to watch
you fuck another guy...  maybe a well-hung guy" Tell her that sometimes
when the two of you have sex you feel that another guy could help you give
her even more pleasure.

   Then, while you two are having sex, repeat the above thoughts.  After a
while you will notice that she will start to get a little wilder and wetter
as you talk about how sexy she would look fucking another man with a big
cock.  Don't be pushy, just talk to her.  Then start buying her sexy
panties and bras, and encourage her to wear them while shopping or out with
you at bars, etc.  I think you will see her become a little more open, and
maybe even flirt some with men that she talks to.

   Then tell her how proud you are that other men find her attractive, and
encourage her to be more daring.  But keep bringing up that you would
really enjoy watching her fuck another man, "Because you are too sexy for
only one guy."

   It may take many months, but eventually you will find that she will
bring up the subject if you don't.  While you two are making love she may
ask just what you would like to see her do with another man.  You can say
that you want to watch another guy's cock slide into her pussy as you hold
and neck with her, or maybe tell her you want to watch her suck his dick,
and see her swallow his cum.

   At this point you should try to get her to tell you what she would like
for a man to do to her, and encourage her to let her imagination run wild.
She will start to have better orgasms as she considers those thoughts
(remember, the brain [mind] can be the best source of great sexual
stimulation), and you will both have some of the best sex ever.

   If she agrees to read some about MFM sex, actively join her.  Show her
how many men feel as you do.  Then she will see that you are not some
deranged man.  Talk to her, and help her plan how she might want this thing
to happen.  After all, it's her body, and she might want something
different than you.  But if she does it once, and you pick a man who
doesn't get too aggressive...  one who treats her with respect, and gives
her a good orgasm...  she will later give you your fantasy.

   After you get your wife actively participating in your fantasy by
talking about sex with another man, you will still have a very big
hurdle... getting her to agree on a particular guy.

   At this point a lot of ladies have been having sexy thoughts of their
own, and are really considering it.  For some women the thought of actually
letting some strange man fuck her might still be a put-off.  You need to
sit her down and explain to her how much it will mean to you.  Or maybe
bring it up while you are having sex and she is getting ready to cum.

   A thought to keep in mind: In this day and age, most women recognize
that the modern woman will not have just one sex partner during her life.
Many gals had multiple partners before being married (regardless what they
admit to).  They just might not expect their husband to permit/encourage
them to have sex with other guys while they are married.  That's the
mindset that you need to penetrate...  giving her abundant assurance that
you WANT her to play with other cocks, and be fulfilled by other guys, and
that it will not negatively impact your marriage.

   This is the time you should let her know that you really want to see
this happen.

   Then she will need more time to think about it.  You will need to talk
to her more.  Repeatedly tell her how much you love her, and let her know
how much she means to you, how sexy she is, and that you can't think of
what life would be like without her.

   Remember, this a very big step for her, and she will need your support,
but by now the thought has been planted, and she is at least curious.  She
will probably ask who you wanted to watch her with.  Then there may be a
discussion about health and secrecy.  Those things can be worked out with
the help of the county health center, and carefully planning the seduction.

   I would recommend planning to involve a stranger, because even good
friends can turn on you, and soon all of your friends would know.  Several
online dating groups have listings.  CraigsList is a great source for such
contacts.

   When you finally locate a guy you both thinks sounds interesting, talk
to the guy.  Let him know what you expect.  Don't choose the first guy. 
Shop around.  Then let your wife talk to him on the phone, and plan a no
activity meeting to get to know each other.  Your wife may want to meet
with several men before she chooses one.

   If she won't agree to meet with a man, try to get her to sit down and
talk with him in an Internet chat room or by phone.  If she worries about
being identified, you can always buy cheap phones where you just buy
minutes.  You don't want to give your real phone number to a stranger.

   Find someone who will talk to her in a respectful manner.  You should
contact him first and tell him things about your wife (like her hobbies or
cooking or anything he can talk to her about to make her relax a bit). 
Those are things that will help him to make your wife feel more
comfortable. Believe me, she needs assurance, all the love you can give
her, and all the warm fuzzies the other guy can give her.

   Although by this time some ladies are ready to play, each woman will
have her own buttons you may need to push.  But if you are willing to do
the things necessary for this to happen...  trust me, it will be a
mind-boggling experience for you.  More importantly, can lead to amazing
experiences for her...  experiences of sexual fulfillment she has yet to
know.

   There are many men out there ready to be your wife's extra guy...  ready
to join you in treating her like a queen.  Whoever you choose, just
remember your wife will need for you to give her a lot of support and love
along the way.

   Once your wife has had a good MFM experience (you, she, and a respectful
additional guy), she will wonder what took her so long to agree to give it
a try...  and thank you for giving her that experience.  And, you will have
the pleasure of watching your loving wife get doubled pleasure.