Joan's MFM Threesome Notes:

The following letter was written on July 20, 1996, by a lady who 
had first written for counsel as she considered pursuing her first 
threesome.  She wrote under the name "Curious About Threesomes."  
Two weeks later she sent this piece.


MY FIRST THREESOME

By "Ann"nonomous...

Well, my first threesome happened!   Not exactly as I had planned, 
though.  Last weekend my boyfriend... whom I'll call Chet... and 
his best friend, whom I'll refer to as Gene... went off camping.  
They called me Friday night from the campgrounds and invited me up 
Saturday morning.  Gene fixed lunch over an open fire for us and 
we then we decided to call around to make motel reservations 
nearby for our future encounter.  

We picked out something that sounded nice and secluded, so we 
decided to take a drive to check it out.  Chet and I went into the 
office to make the reservations and found that we
could get a room with a kitchen , double bed and waterbed for only 
$60 per night.  And,
the best thing was that since we were staying on a Sunday night, 
there was only one other room reserved besides ours.  So there 
would be mucho privacy.

Anyway, I digress from my main topic.  We drove back to the 
campground and sat outside the cabin and bs'd with some other 
campers... and drank some beer.  Chet and I drove over to a nearby 
beach and went wading.  Meanwhile Gene had gone to take a shower.  
(The cabin did not have running water.)

When we came back from the beach, Chet excused himself to take a 
shower.  When he returned, he asked for us (me and him) to have 
some time alone together.  So we went into the cabin, closed the 
door and pulled the shades down.  I told Chet that under the 
circumstances I didn't want to "go all the way" but just give him 
a blow job.  Frankly, I was in a hurry to get back home.  While I 
was going down on his cock, he started asking me if I would suck 
Gene's cock,  I thought that this was as good a time as any but 
played "hard to get" at first and made Chet talk me into it.  

Chet pulled his pants back on and went outside to find Gene,  Gene 
was just then driving off in his car.  I put my top back on and 
Chet and I took my car to find Gene.  We found him where he had 
pulled off at the beach.  Before Chet went over to tell him what 
was going on, I asked him to make sure this is what Gene wanted to 
do too.

We all went back to the cabin.  Chet took his pants back off and I 
started back into sucking his cock.  Gene watched for a while but 
kept his clothes on until I took my top and bra off and he saw 
what a nice pair of tits I had.  Well, then you should have seen 
how fast his clothes came off!  

Chet asked me to start sucking Gene's cock, and soon we three were 
all on the bed.  Gene kept telling me how beautiful my breasts 
were and playing with them and sucking on them.  I started taking 
turns sucking their hard, stiff cocks.  I would use my hand on the 
dick I wasn't sucking.  Chet came first, in my mouth and then sat 
back to watch Gene and me.

I would have like them to eat my pussy, but I hadn't taken a 
shower like they had, so that would have to wait for another day!  
Gene told me that he was a pussy man and wanted to fuck me so... 
off went my shorts and panties.  By that time, Chet was getting 
horny again, so while Gene was fucking me I started sucking on 
Chet's cock..  Gene used his fingers on my clitoris to make me 
come, and then shortly after that came himself.  He put his 
clothes back on and left the cabin so Chet and I could finish up 
in private.   Chet put his by-then rock-hard cock into my cunt and 
told me he wished he could fuck me for hours.  Needless to say, he 
climaxed soon after we started!

The three of us had another session the next afternoon at the 
guys' house. This time, I had bathed before going over there, so I 
felt more sexually confident.  Gene brought out a vibrator which 
Chet gently ran over my pussy while I sucked Gene's cock.  Then as 
Chet was eating my pussy, I asked Gene to suck on my tits.  WHAT A 
GREAT SENSATION!

Chet told Gene to "come have a taste of this" so Gene took over 
the pussy-licking activity.  I couldn't get over the shit-eating 
grin on Chet's face!  He looked like a kid in a candy store!  Well 
it wasn't too long until I came from Gene's tongue so the three of 
us went into the bedroom.  

Gene entered me from, behind (vaginally, I don't really care for 
anal sex) and I started sucking Chet's cock at the same time.  
They traded places several times, or one guy would
take a "breather" just to watch me with the other one.  Gene came 
first while fucking me
"missionary style," while I was giving Chet a blow job.  Gene then 
excused himself and Chet and I fucked each other until he came.  
Would you believe that only after only about fifteen minutes Chet 
started getting horny again!  

The two of us resumed our activity later that night at my house.  
All in all, it was a pretty exciting experience.  Both men made 
sure I enjoyed myself and treated me with tenderness and respect.  
I did tell Chet later that we should wait until Gene brought the 
subject up again before we got together again.  I don't want Gene 
to think we're using him or putting pressure on him.  

I kind of felt like we were three little kids playing doctor.  I 
guess that was because of what we did is "forbidden."  Sometimes 
those naughty forbidden things are the most fun,
as you probably well know!    But as Chet and I told each other, 
no one was cheating on anyone, and we all had a good time.  The 
three of us care about one another in many ways.  

I don't think I could have done this with Gene if we hadn't 
established a friendship first.   I have to hand it to Chet... he 
picked out a very attractive and younger man (9 years younger than 
me!) for our first threesome.

Well, there you have it... my first threesome.  If the three of us 
don't get together sexually before, I'm really looking forward to 
our motel getaway.  Which reminds me of a question.  How do you 
discretely manage to get a third party into a motel room?  Or 
would you go ahead and pay for another person?  

Please reply

"No Longer Curious"
"Ann"

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The following is my reply to her...

Dear "No Longer Curious," or "Ann"...

It sounds like you had a very favorable initiation into the 
pleasures of MFM threesomes.  Please keep me posted on future 
developments with "Chet" and "Gene."  It may be that Chet will 
introduce you to another guy who will be the second guy sometime.

Some observations.  

It was interesting to note at the end of your report that the 
extra guy was nine-years your junior.  No doubt that added a 
special "kick" to the whole scene.  Sometime you and Chet will 
want to try this scene with an older guy, or a guy of another 
race, or a guy with equipment that is different than Chet's 
(longer, shorter, fatter, etc.).  You will find that "different" 
is not better.... it is just different... and the opportunity to 
experience different cocks and different approaches can be very 
satisfying.

You mentioned that you don't think you could have done this with 
Gene if you hadn't established a friendship first.  That's 
understandable for your first time.  However, many women have a 
mental block against inviting a friend to join in a first 
threesome.  In such cases, the women prefer finding a nearly-
anonymous male for the first threesome experiences.  Whatever 
works for you.  Sometime, you and Chet may want to go bar-
hopping... mutually "on the prowl" for a nearly-anonymous guy that 
one of you will invite to join in a relatively spontaneous 
threesome.  This kind of "naughty forbidden" experience can be fun 
too.

Finally, you mentioned that you don't care for anal sex.  Many 
women do not.  Personally, I find it to be very pleasant... 
particularly when I am sandwiched between two guys and one has his 
cock buried in my pussy while the other guy (after getting well-
lubed) slides into my back door.  What a feeling of fullness... 
for all of us.  If anal sex does not hurt for you, you may want to 
give this a try sometime.

However if anal sex really hurts, there is another variation of 
the "sandwich" that can bring a special pleasure to all of you.  
Consider having "Gene" lay on his back with his legs dangling off 
the bed.  Put a couple of pillows under his ass to raise him high.  
Get him rock hard, and then lower yourself onto him.  Raise 
yourself up and down a few times so you both enjoy his full 
penetration.  Then, spin yourself around so you are facing away 
from him.  Invite "Chet" to come over and neck with you, while you 
slowly raise and lower yourself off and onto "Gene's" pole.

Meanwhile, use your hand to get "Chet" as hard as possible.  When 
he is hard, pull him close to you, and press his cock against 
"Gene's" as it slides in and out of your pussy.  Then, when "Gene" 
is thrusting in, pull the tip of "Chet's" cock up against "Gene's" 
and under the hood of your pussy.  Let the two cocks rub together 
like that a few times, and then whisper into "Chet's" ear that you 
want to feel him inside you while "Gene" is also inside.  Lean 
back a bit, letting "Gene" reach around to play with your breasts 
so "Chet" can straddle "Gene's" legs (and be between your legs), 
so he can get real close and insert himself into you along with 
"Gene."

This may result in a three-high sandwich, or, after "Chet" is 
inside with "Gene," you may roll to the side for a side-by-side-
by-side sandwich with the cocks of both men inside your pussy.  
You will find yourself feeling VERY full, with a whole new kind of 
wonderful sensation coursing through your body.  The guys will 
find it to be a highly erotic experience too.  I'll bet one or 
both of the guys will shoot their load inside you very quickly.

When I have had two guys do this to me a few times, I have found 
that they eventually gain control over their cocks, and can pump 
me for quite a time... often with alternating strokes... bringing 
me to numerous orgasms and a fantastic high... before they come.

Please keep me posted on your upcoming experiences.  I am going to 
share your first threesome report with other ladies who are 
considering opening their sex life to such pleasures... but I will 
NOT share your name or ID.  I am sure they will want to know how 
things go for you and "Chet" hereafter.   

By the way, you asked how you should plan to get the extra guy 
into a motel room.  You cab admit there will be three people, and 
pay for him in advance... or simply bring him in.  That's a 
question that has to be answered on a case-by-case basis.  Often 
motels are set up so that the front desk has no way of knowing who 
comes and goes from your room.  In those cases, we seldom reveal 
that we plan to have an extra person stay with us (either for a 
few hours or overnight).  Sometimes that is also true at motels 
where the front desk can monitor motel room doors.  Remember, you 
have a right to have guests visit for a few hours... no questions 
asked.  Just have the extra guy arrive a short time after you 
do... or have your guy go and get him while you stay at the room 
to "freshen up."  That way he will know which room.

Joan in Denver


A Later Letter from "Ann"...

Hi,  
Sorry I haven't been in touch lately.  Between work and other 
commitments, I've hardly had any time for myself.  Thank you for 
the e-mail with your comments and

your observations on my "first time".  



For right now, both Chet and I feel the most comfortable with only 
having Gene as our third party.  We know he's "clean," safe, and 
we're all compatible outside of bed as well as in bed.  I have 
serious concerns about picking up a stranger.  He could turn out 
to be a pyscopath at the worst... or just be a blabbermouth.  

We live in a town of about 15,000 in the Midwest... so folks 
around here are pretty conservative.  Obviously, discretion is of 
the utmost importance.  Although I'm not a public figure, a lot of 
people know and respect me in my community.  I'm probably one of 
the last people anyone would suspect of being a "swinger."  My 
long-range plans are to get involved in local politics after I 
retire, so I can't really take a chance of having my sexual 
activities being revealed.   

It's really ironic that society ties one's sexual practices with 
their moral character as a whole.   I consider myself to be 
honest, fair-minded and empathetic... but many people would 
consider me "immoral" if they found out that I had engaged in sex 
with two men at the same time.  

Yet there are people who lie, cheat and emotionally hurt others... 
but because they seem to lead a relatively chaste life, they're 
considered to have a good moral character.  I know I'm 
oversimplifying, but I believe that except for the sexual 
practices that exploit people (like child molestation or rape), if 
the activities involve consenting adults who conscientiously 
practice safe sex, those practices shouldn't mark a person as 
being "immoral".  

Our threesome ran into a snag about a week and half ago.  We all 
had gone over to the guys' house (Chet lives with Gene who owns a 
home) for a cookout and what was suppose to be a passionate night 
for the three of us.  

Well, Chet got pissed because he wanted to grill the barbequed 
chicken and Gene started doing it.  He went outside the house back 
to the woods (they live out in the country) to pout.

Both Gene and I tried to talk to him... but to no avail.  He told 
both Gene and me to "have a good time" without him, so we took it 
as a green light to go ahead and make love without him.  In fact 
he had told both of us a few days before that it was all right if 
Gene and I got together sexually without him.  

Anyway, I was in the middle of giving Gene a blow job when Chet 
came back into the house.  We tried to get him to stay, but he 
stormed back out.  The two of us finished our love-making, and 
then I went home.  

Chet called a day or so later and told me he was really pissed 
that I would go and fuck Gene when I was suppose to know he was 
upset that night.  I told him that he had told both Gene and me to 
go ahead.  Well, I guess I was suppose to be a mind-reader 
according to Chet, because Gene and I were suppose to figure out 
that we weren't suppose to have any fun... because Chet happened 
to be in a bad mood.  

Things were kind of tense for a few days, but we're getting it 
straightened out.  I apologized to Chet for hurting his feelings, 
but I also told him he has to be clear on what his feelings are... 
and to stop giving Gene and me mixed messages.

I strongly suspect that Chet wants to be in control of our three-
way sex parties... and if he's not into it, he doesn't believe 
Gene or I should be either.  I asked him if he was jealous of Gene 
(who is younger, better looking... Chet is cute, but Gene is one 
of these guys that women look twice at, he's gorgeous!).  Chet 
assured me he was not jealous.

One of our problems is that Chet hurt his back at work last year 
and is on workers comp... and is very limited to the work he can 
do.  So Gene has been mowing my lawn, painted my house, does 
housework for me, etc.  Of course I'm paying him for it (cash not 
sex!), but I think Chet feels somewhat inadequate... but won't 
admit to it.
    
So for a few days there, I thought our threesome was kaput.  But 
we all got back together last Sunday and had a great time.  But, 
before I tell you about that, I have to tell you that before the 
temporary setback, the three of us ended up one night with me 
sucking Chet's cock while Gene fucked me from behind as Chet ate 
my pussy. 

Talk about sensory overload!  Chet could watch Gene's dick go in 
and out of my pussy while he tasted me getting closer and closer 
to orgasm.  I really don't know how the two of them held off as 
long as they did.  I got off like gangbusters.  Soon Gene said his 
knees were giving out, so he and I went into the traditional 
missionary position and fucked while Chet watched.  

Gene finally shot his come inside me, and then Chet climbed aboard 
and pumped his dick in and out... and soon he came.  All three of 
us were exhausted but happy! 

The last two times we've gotten together, I've put the heads of 
both their cocks into my mouth at the same time.  Have you ever 
done this?  And, is there a way to get more of both penises in 
your mouth at once?  This seems to really be a turn-on to both 
men... and to me too.  

Gene and I sixty-nined for the first time as Chet watched and 
encouraged us along.  Of course I reached orgasm fairly quickly, 
and then a few minutes later, Chet and I ate each other while Gene 
watched and played "cheerleader."  Chet was so turned-on that he 
came in my mouth as Gene was telling me to suck Chet's cock real 
hard.  

It was then time for a rest for Chet.  So Gene and I went into the 
bedroom (we had been in the living room on the rug), where it was 
more comfortable... and we fucked until he got off.  I went back 
out into the living room, and by then Chet was ready to go again, 
so we fucked and he climaxed a second time in about a half hour.  

In fact Chet has been hornier since we started involving Gene in 
our sex life.  Chet and I are even making love more by ourselves 
than we did before!

Well that's my update.  I have some questions for you now?  Have 
you ever videotaped your sexual activities?  The three of us have 
briefly talked about this.  But, none of us has a video camera, so 
we might have to settle for Polaroids for now.  Of course I would 
insist on having possession of the pictures... so I could lock 
them up for safe keeping.  

My biggest fear would be that someone would find them.  If I 
should die... I wouldn't want my family to find pictures like 
that.  But taking the pictures would add another dimension to our 
sex lives.  Have you told any of your women friends about your 
threesomes?  Frankly, I don't have any female friends who are that 
liberal... and besides the three of us promised each other to keep 
everything among ourselves.  That's why it's nice I can 
communicate with you through e-mail.
  
Take care, and I hope to hear from you soon..

"Ann"  

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Joan's Answer...

Dear Ann...

As the woman in a threesome, it is VERY important that you avoid 
something that I sensed (from your note) that could become a 
problem.  Most women equate great sexual fulfillment and the 
warmth of sexual sharing with emotions akin to love.  That is why 
MOST women won't allow themselves to enjoy more than one man at a 
time.

I went through those emotions in the early years of my sexual 
development... and particularly in the earliest experiences of 
enjoying more than one male partner during the same time period 
(even when it was not involving group sex).  Men seem less likely 
to experience these sex=love feelings.  Percentage wise, more men 
tend to be able to enjoy sex for itself... and keep the pleasure 
of those experiences separate from their emotional relationships.

I bring this up because of your comments about Gene... and a 
certain attraction I sense you have developed toward him since 
your threesome experiences have begun.  He no doubt is 
"gorgeous"... with a "great build"... and "sensitive and caring."  
BUT, be careful.  At this point your objective is (1) to expand 
your capacity to enjoy two or more men at one time, and (2) to 
develop an aura of "oneness" between you and EACH of the other 
participants in your sex life.  AND, (3) your objective should be 
to gain a certain control over the situation... so you can enjoy 
experiencing threesome sex more often, and more when YOU want it.  
To accomplish these objectives, YOU MUST NOT ALLOW YOURSELF to 
develop any type of infatuation with the extra guy, or extra guys.  

Clearly you and Chet had/have some type of primary relationship.  
Also, it was because of him that you were enabled to experience 
the special pleasures of doubled-male-attention.  You MUST do all 
you can to support Chet's male ego... and demonstrate your 
"fondness" toward him in a way that is above any "fondness" you 
may demonstrate for Gene or any other extra guy.  That is, unless 
you happen to be as fortunate as me... and have the two guys 
HARMONIOUSLY share your love.  Mine is a very unique situation.  
There is NO jealousy between any of the three of us.  But, it 
wasn't that way right from the beginning. 

Remember, the male ego is a fragile thing.  I don't know how long 
you and Chet have been going together... or how long before the 
first threesome that you had known Gene through Chet.  But, I will 
bet that your demeanor toward Gene is much different today than it 
was pre-threesome-sex.  Right?!?!?  

Chet no doubt senses this change, and may feel as though he is 
less important to you than he was before.  Remember the age 
difference, attractiveness difference, etc.   He probably feels 
less attractive than Gene too.  That is no doubt why he pretends 
to be "in charge" of your threesome sex life.  It is his way to 
restore power to himself.  It is a natural male reaction.

You need to do two things to get beyond this "fractured-ego" 
situation.  First, you need to shower Chet with MORE attention, 
attentiveness, passion and Chet-centered-sexual pleasure than in 
the past... and certainly more than he sees you shower on Gene.  
He needs to be convinced (through action, not words) that he is 
more important to you than Gene.  

As sexist as is may seem, you need to make him feel like "your 
main man" upon whom you are sexually dependent.  You may even want 
to encourage him to have a few sexual "flings" with other women... 
"so you can come back and tell me what it was like."  If that 
happens, BE VERY SUPPORTIVE... and be eager to learn how her body 
was different, what she did for him, what he did to her, how he 
liked the experience, etc.  Then give him the orgasm of his 
lifetime.

Second, in spite of what I just said, you need to take charge of 
your sex life.  As you reach a point where you feel that Chet's 
fractured ego is beginning to heal, you need to ASSERT yourself... 
the sexual you.  You need to let him know that your threesome 
experiences have taught you that you enjoy having two guys make 
love to you at the same time.  And, you have discovered that you 
enjoy the variety of more than one sexual partner.  

Remember, real soon you need to let him know that it is NOT "his 
position on the future of (your) threesomes" that is controlling.  
Rather, it is yours... and you want to experience MORE.  If he 
offers the slightest resistance, you could remind him that it was 
HE who awoke this new sexuality within you. 

DON'T INSIST that Gene always be the additional guy.  Because of 
your small town situation; by default, Gene may usually be that 
extra guy.  BUT, be open to experiences with new second guys.  
Keep Gene thinking that he wished he were as lucky as Chet who has 
you as his "main woman."  

Maybe you and Chet can occasionally travel out of your area for 
"encounters."  With this option, Chet may decide that it is in his 
best interest to organize something away from your town so you can 
enjoy threesome sex without the participation of Gene... so that 
when you both get together with Gene, he (Gene)is just one of the 
guys (not the guy who has caught your eye).

Tell Chet what kind of experiences you have fantasized about... 
what you may like to try.  Let his imagination run wild.  Let him 
know you see him as the man who can enable YOUR sexual experiences 
to grow.  If he balks, then re-evaluate.  However, don't you be 
the one to cast him aside in favor of Gene or anyone else!  THIS 
IS VERY IMPORTANT.  

After you have done all you can to heal his fractured ego, and 
made him feel that he is in charge of your sex life (while you 
grow to become more sexually-assertive and in-charge of your sex 
life), you should tell him you would like to try a "sexual fling" 
of your own.  

Tell him that you would like to have a night of sex alone with 
some other guy, so you can come back and tell him all the details.  
I can even share some stories with you that you can give to him... 
written by guys who love to have their women come back to them 
after they have had a night of sex with another guy.  Many guys 
find this to be a real turn-on!

In any event, you need to keep your elevated appreciation of Gene 
to yourself... unless Chet becomes a real jerk, and you decide you 
don't care if you have him in your life.  Even then, remember that 
since the two guys live together, it would be very hard for you to 
"toss Chet" without also negatively impacting any possibilities 
with Gene.  Keep in mind that there is always the possibility that 
over a period of time you and Chet and Gene could all become an 
integrated, mutually-supportive social AND sexual threesome.  Such 
an arrangement could be like mine... where all three "partners" 
are at liberty to enjoy sexual encounters outside the group... and 
where all three enjoy hearing about such outside experiences.

One last thought before I conclude this rather long letter.  You 
mentioned that after reading about recent experiences I have 
had... you think I have more (sexual) stamina than you.  I don't 
know if it is "stamina" or what.  I just know that I really love 
the feel of a guy's cock inside my body... both in my pussy and in 
my mouth... and sometimes in my backside.  I just can't seem to 
get enough.  And, the joy of experiencing the variety of different 
guys... their approach, the feel of their bodies, their differing 
cock shapes and sizes, their hardness... I never tire of VARIETY!

Lots of Love,   Joan


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Ann's Reply

Joan, 
Sorry about the delay in my reply.  I was out of town for about 
five days last week.  My work schedule and other commitments can 
be pretty overwhelming at times.  

My job is very stressful.  In fact sex is a good stress reliever 
for me.  I don't smoke, don't do drugs (except those prescribed by 
a doctor but even then no uppers, downers, etc.) and I drink in 
moderation.  I have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of people 
depending on me.  Like I said, sex has become one of my major ways 
to unwind.  I also enjoy listening to music, surfing the Net and 
reading.

I appreciated the advice you gave me about my situation.  I have 
made more of an effort to "favor" Chet and show my preference for 
him.  The three of us got together a week ago last Sunday night.  
I surprised the guys by wearing my black lace panties and bra.  I 
wanted to wear some black stockings with garters, but I couldn't 
find any.  

It's difficult around here to find any type of hosiery except 
pantyhose.  In fact the first time I wore the lingerie was for 
Chet.  I had found some black stockings.  Needless to say, they 
got ripped during our encounter.  Anyway, back to the "party."  

We usually start with me sitting on the couch between Gene and 
Chet.  I simultaneously played with their cocks while they 
fingered my pussy and/or played/sucked on my tits.  This night, 
Chet got on his knees on the floor and had me slide my pussy to 
the edge of the sofa so he could eat me.  Meanwhile Gene stood up 
on the couch so I could suck his cock.  It didn't take me very 
long to come.  

We got on the floor then and Gene entered my cunt from behind and 
Chet lay down.  I sucked Chet's cock as Gene moved his cock in and 
out of my wet pussy.  Then Chet took a small vibrator and ran it 
over and around my clitoris.  I came from the combination of that 
and Gene's dick action.  Gene came about 10 seconds later.  

Then I lay down on my back, and it was Chet's turn to fuck me.  It 
didn't take him long to come.  We had wanted to continue, but both 
guys had been under the weather that day, so one round of sex was 
enough!

I'm looking forward to a more lengthy session soon.  So far we've 
stopped after each guy has had an orgasm, except for the first 
time when Chet had two.  I think that if the three of us were ever 
all rested up at the same time, we could have one hell of a time!

Joan... you asked if Chet and I are able to travel.  
Unfortunately, no.  The reason you asked related to the 
possibility of him finding other guys who could be my "extra guy."  

Chet and I have talked a lot in the last few weeks.  He is now 
much more comfortable with having Gene as the third person in our 
threesomes (and he is considerably less moody these days).  For 
these reasons, I think that for the immediate future, we will 
limit our three-way play to Chet, me, and Gene.  I really enjoy 
both of them, LOVE having each of them fuck me, and REALLY LOVE IT 
when both Chet and Gene play with me at the same time. 

I'm glad I let myself try threesome fun.  I REALLY enjoy it!

Love, Ann