Joan's MFM Threesome Notes: The following letter was written on July 20, 1996, by a lady who had first written for counsel as she considered pursuing her first threesome. She wrote under the name "Curious About Threesomes." Two weeks later she sent this piece. MY FIRST THREESOME By "Ann"nonomous... Well, my first threesome happened! Not exactly as I had planned, though. Last weekend my boyfriend... whom I'll call Chet... and his best friend, whom I'll refer to as Gene... went off camping. They called me Friday night from the campgrounds and invited me up Saturday morning. Gene fixed lunch over an open fire for us and we then we decided to call around to make motel reservations nearby for our future encounter. We picked out something that sounded nice and secluded, so we decided to take a drive to check it out. Chet and I went into the office to make the reservations and found that we could get a room with a kitchen , double bed and waterbed for only $60 per night. And, the best thing was that since we were staying on a Sunday night, there was only one other room reserved besides ours. So there would be mucho privacy. Anyway, I digress from my main topic. We drove back to the campground and sat outside the cabin and bs'd with some other campers... and drank some beer. Chet and I drove over to a nearby beach and went wading. Meanwhile Gene had gone to take a shower. (The cabin did not have running water.) When we came back from the beach, Chet excused himself to take a shower. When he returned, he asked for us (me and him) to have some time alone together. So we went into the cabin, closed the door and pulled the shades down. I told Chet that under the circumstances I didn't want to "go all the way" but just give him a blow job. Frankly, I was in a hurry to get back home. While I was going down on his cock, he started asking me if I would suck Gene's cock, I thought that this was as good a time as any but played "hard to get" at first and made Chet talk me into it. Chet pulled his pants back on and went outside to find Gene, Gene was just then driving off in his car. I put my top back on and Chet and I took my car to find Gene. We found him where he had pulled off at the beach. Before Chet went over to tell him what was going on, I asked him to make sure this is what Gene wanted to do too. We all went back to the cabin. Chet took his pants back off and I started back into sucking his cock. Gene watched for a while but kept his clothes on until I took my top and bra off and he saw what a nice pair of tits I had. Well, then you should have seen how fast his clothes came off! Chet asked me to start sucking Gene's cock, and soon we three were all on the bed. Gene kept telling me how beautiful my breasts were and playing with them and sucking on them. I started taking turns sucking their hard, stiff cocks. I would use my hand on the dick I wasn't sucking. Chet came first, in my mouth and then sat back to watch Gene and me. I would have like them to eat my pussy, but I hadn't taken a shower like they had, so that would have to wait for another day! Gene told me that he was a pussy man and wanted to fuck me so... off went my shorts and panties. By that time, Chet was getting horny again, so while Gene was fucking me I started sucking on Chet's cock.. Gene used his fingers on my clitoris to make me come, and then shortly after that came himself. He put his clothes back on and left the cabin so Chet and I could finish up in private. Chet put his by-then rock-hard cock into my cunt and told me he wished he could fuck me for hours. Needless to say, he climaxed soon after we started! The three of us had another session the next afternoon at the guys' house. This time, I had bathed before going over there, so I felt more sexually confident. Gene brought out a vibrator which Chet gently ran over my pussy while I sucked Gene's cock. Then as Chet was eating my pussy, I asked Gene to suck on my tits. WHAT A GREAT SENSATION! Chet told Gene to "come have a taste of this" so Gene took over the pussy-licking activity. I couldn't get over the shit-eating grin on Chet's face! He looked like a kid in a candy store! Well it wasn't too long until I came from Gene's tongue so the three of us went into the bedroom. Gene entered me from, behind (vaginally, I don't really care for anal sex) and I started sucking Chet's cock at the same time. They traded places several times, or one guy would take a "breather" just to watch me with the other one. Gene came first while fucking me "missionary style," while I was giving Chet a blow job. Gene then excused himself and Chet and I fucked each other until he came. Would you believe that only after only about fifteen minutes Chet started getting horny again! The two of us resumed our activity later that night at my house. All in all, it was a pretty exciting experience. Both men made sure I enjoyed myself and treated me with tenderness and respect. I did tell Chet later that we should wait until Gene brought the subject up again before we got together again. I don't want Gene to think we're using him or putting pressure on him. I kind of felt like we were three little kids playing doctor. I guess that was because of what we did is "forbidden." Sometimes those naughty forbidden things are the most fun, as you probably well know! But as Chet and I told each other, no one was cheating on anyone, and we all had a good time. The three of us care about one another in many ways. I don't think I could have done this with Gene if we hadn't established a friendship first. I have to hand it to Chet... he picked out a very attractive and younger man (9 years younger than me!) for our first threesome. Well, there you have it... my first threesome. If the three of us don't get together sexually before, I'm really looking forward to our motel getaway. Which reminds me of a question. How do you discretely manage to get a third party into a motel room? Or would you go ahead and pay for another person? Please reply "No Longer Curious" "Ann" ****** The following is my reply to her... Dear "No Longer Curious," or "Ann"... It sounds like you had a very favorable initiation into the pleasures of MFM threesomes. Please keep me posted on future developments with "Chet" and "Gene." It may be that Chet will introduce you to another guy who will be the second guy sometime. Some observations. It was interesting to note at the end of your report that the extra guy was nine-years your junior. No doubt that added a special "kick" to the whole scene. Sometime you and Chet will want to try this scene with an older guy, or a guy of another race, or a guy with equipment that is different than Chet's (longer, shorter, fatter, etc.). You will find that "different" is not better.... it is just different... and the opportunity to experience different cocks and different approaches can be very satisfying. You mentioned that you don't think you could have done this with Gene if you hadn't established a friendship first. That's understandable for your first time. However, many women have a mental block against inviting a friend to join in a first threesome. In such cases, the women prefer finding a nearly- anonymous male for the first threesome experiences. Whatever works for you. Sometime, you and Chet may want to go bar- hopping... mutually "on the prowl" for a nearly-anonymous guy that one of you will invite to join in a relatively spontaneous threesome. This kind of "naughty forbidden" experience can be fun too. Finally, you mentioned that you don't care for anal sex. Many women do not. Personally, I find it to be very pleasant... particularly when I am sandwiched between two guys and one has his cock buried in my pussy while the other guy (after getting well- lubed) slides into my back door. What a feeling of fullness... for all of us. If anal sex does not hurt for you, you may want to give this a try sometime. However if anal sex really hurts, there is another variation of the "sandwich" that can bring a special pleasure to all of you. Consider having "Gene" lay on his back with his legs dangling off the bed. Put a couple of pillows under his ass to raise him high. Get him rock hard, and then lower yourself onto him. Raise yourself up and down a few times so you both enjoy his full penetration. Then, spin yourself around so you are facing away from him. Invite "Chet" to come over and neck with you, while you slowly raise and lower yourself off and onto "Gene's" pole. Meanwhile, use your hand to get "Chet" as hard as possible. When he is hard, pull him close to you, and press his cock against "Gene's" as it slides in and out of your pussy. Then, when "Gene" is thrusting in, pull the tip of "Chet's" cock up against "Gene's" and under the hood of your pussy. Let the two cocks rub together like that a few times, and then whisper into "Chet's" ear that you want to feel him inside you while "Gene" is also inside. Lean back a bit, letting "Gene" reach around to play with your breasts so "Chet" can straddle "Gene's" legs (and be between your legs), so he can get real close and insert himself into you along with "Gene." This may result in a three-high sandwich, or, after "Chet" is inside with "Gene," you may roll to the side for a side-by-side- by-side sandwich with the cocks of both men inside your pussy. You will find yourself feeling VERY full, with a whole new kind of wonderful sensation coursing through your body. The guys will find it to be a highly erotic experience too. I'll bet one or both of the guys will shoot their load inside you very quickly. When I have had two guys do this to me a few times, I have found that they eventually gain control over their cocks, and can pump me for quite a time... often with alternating strokes... bringing me to numerous orgasms and a fantastic high... before they come. Please keep me posted on your upcoming experiences. I am going to share your first threesome report with other ladies who are considering opening their sex life to such pleasures... but I will NOT share your name or ID. I am sure they will want to know how things go for you and "Chet" hereafter. By the way, you asked how you should plan to get the extra guy into a motel room. You cab admit there will be three people, and pay for him in advance... or simply bring him in. That's a question that has to be answered on a case-by-case basis. Often motels are set up so that the front desk has no way of knowing who comes and goes from your room. In those cases, we seldom reveal that we plan to have an extra person stay with us (either for a few hours or overnight). Sometimes that is also true at motels where the front desk can monitor motel room doors. Remember, you have a right to have guests visit for a few hours... no questions asked. Just have the extra guy arrive a short time after you do... or have your guy go and get him while you stay at the room to "freshen up." That way he will know which room. Joan in Denver A Later Letter from "Ann"... Hi, Sorry I haven't been in touch lately. Between work and other commitments, I've hardly had any time for myself. Thank you for the e-mail with your comments and your observations on my "first time". For right now, both Chet and I feel the most comfortable with only having Gene as our third party. We know he's "clean," safe, and we're all compatible outside of bed as well as in bed. I have serious concerns about picking up a stranger. He could turn out to be a pyscopath at the worst... or just be a blabbermouth. We live in a town of about 15,000 in the Midwest... so folks around here are pretty conservative. Obviously, discretion is of the utmost importance. Although I'm not a public figure, a lot of people know and respect me in my community. I'm probably one of the last people anyone would suspect of being a "swinger." My long-range plans are to get involved in local politics after I retire, so I can't really take a chance of having my sexual activities being revealed. It's really ironic that society ties one's sexual practices with their moral character as a whole. I consider myself to be honest, fair-minded and empathetic... but many people would consider me "immoral" if they found out that I had engaged in sex with two men at the same time. Yet there are people who lie, cheat and emotionally hurt others... but because they seem to lead a relatively chaste life, they're considered to have a good moral character. I know I'm oversimplifying, but I believe that except for the sexual practices that exploit people (like child molestation or rape), if the activities involve consenting adults who conscientiously practice safe sex, those practices shouldn't mark a person as being "immoral". Our threesome ran into a snag about a week and half ago. We all had gone over to the guys' house (Chet lives with Gene who owns a home) for a cookout and what was suppose to be a passionate night for the three of us. Well, Chet got pissed because he wanted to grill the barbequed chicken and Gene started doing it. He went outside the house back to the woods (they live out in the country) to pout. Both Gene and I tried to talk to him... but to no avail. He told both Gene and me to "have a good time" without him, so we took it as a green light to go ahead and make love without him. In fact he had told both of us a few days before that it was all right if Gene and I got together sexually without him. Anyway, I was in the middle of giving Gene a blow job when Chet came back into the house. We tried to get him to stay, but he stormed back out. The two of us finished our love-making, and then I went home. Chet called a day or so later and told me he was really pissed that I would go and fuck Gene when I was suppose to know he was upset that night. I told him that he had told both Gene and me to go ahead. Well, I guess I was suppose to be a mind-reader according to Chet, because Gene and I were suppose to figure out that we weren't suppose to have any fun... because Chet happened to be in a bad mood. Things were kind of tense for a few days, but we're getting it straightened out. I apologized to Chet for hurting his feelings, but I also told him he has to be clear on what his feelings are... and to stop giving Gene and me mixed messages. I strongly suspect that Chet wants to be in control of our three- way sex parties... and if he's not into it, he doesn't believe Gene or I should be either. I asked him if he was jealous of Gene (who is younger, better looking... Chet is cute, but Gene is one of these guys that women look twice at, he's gorgeous!). Chet assured me he was not jealous. One of our problems is that Chet hurt his back at work last year and is on workers comp... and is very limited to the work he can do. So Gene has been mowing my lawn, painted my house, does housework for me, etc. Of course I'm paying him for it (cash not sex!), but I think Chet feels somewhat inadequate... but won't admit to it. So for a few days there, I thought our threesome was kaput. But we all got back together last Sunday and had a great time. But, before I tell you about that, I have to tell you that before the temporary setback, the three of us ended up one night with me sucking Chet's cock while Gene fucked me from behind as Chet ate my pussy. Talk about sensory overload! Chet could watch Gene's dick go in and out of my pussy while he tasted me getting closer and closer to orgasm. I really don't know how the two of them held off as long as they did. I got off like gangbusters. Soon Gene said his knees were giving out, so he and I went into the traditional missionary position and fucked while Chet watched. Gene finally shot his come inside me, and then Chet climbed aboard and pumped his dick in and out... and soon he came. All three of us were exhausted but happy! The last two times we've gotten together, I've put the heads of both their cocks into my mouth at the same time. Have you ever done this? And, is there a way to get more of both penises in your mouth at once? This seems to really be a turn-on to both men... and to me too. Gene and I sixty-nined for the first time as Chet watched and encouraged us along. Of course I reached orgasm fairly quickly, and then a few minutes later, Chet and I ate each other while Gene watched and played "cheerleader." Chet was so turned-on that he came in my mouth as Gene was telling me to suck Chet's cock real hard. It was then time for a rest for Chet. So Gene and I went into the bedroom (we had been in the living room on the rug), where it was more comfortable... and we fucked until he got off. I went back out into the living room, and by then Chet was ready to go again, so we fucked and he climaxed a second time in about a half hour. In fact Chet has been hornier since we started involving Gene in our sex life. Chet and I are even making love more by ourselves than we did before! Well that's my update. I have some questions for you now? Have you ever videotaped your sexual activities? The three of us have briefly talked about this. But, none of us has a video camera, so we might have to settle for Polaroids for now. Of course I would insist on having possession of the pictures... so I could lock them up for safe keeping. My biggest fear would be that someone would find them. If I should die... I wouldn't want my family to find pictures like that. But taking the pictures would add another dimension to our sex lives. Have you told any of your women friends about your threesomes? Frankly, I don't have any female friends who are that liberal... and besides the three of us promised each other to keep everything among ourselves. That's why it's nice I can communicate with you through e-mail. Take care, and I hope to hear from you soon.. "Ann" ****** Joan's Answer... Dear Ann... As the woman in a threesome, it is VERY important that you avoid something that I sensed (from your note) that could become a problem. Most women equate great sexual fulfillment and the warmth of sexual sharing with emotions akin to love. That is why MOST women won't allow themselves to enjoy more than one man at a time. I went through those emotions in the early years of my sexual development... and particularly in the earliest experiences of enjoying more than one male partner during the same time period (even when it was not involving group sex). Men seem less likely to experience these sex=love feelings. Percentage wise, more men tend to be able to enjoy sex for itself... and keep the pleasure of those experiences separate from their emotional relationships. I bring this up because of your comments about Gene... and a certain attraction I sense you have developed toward him since your threesome experiences have begun. He no doubt is "gorgeous"... with a "great build"... and "sensitive and caring." BUT, be careful. At this point your objective is (1) to expand your capacity to enjoy two or more men at one time, and (2) to develop an aura of "oneness" between you and EACH of the other participants in your sex life. AND, (3) your objective should be to gain a certain control over the situation... so you can enjoy experiencing threesome sex more often, and more when YOU want it. To accomplish these objectives, YOU MUST NOT ALLOW YOURSELF to develop any type of infatuation with the extra guy, or extra guys. Clearly you and Chet had/have some type of primary relationship. Also, it was because of him that you were enabled to experience the special pleasures of doubled-male-attention. You MUST do all you can to support Chet's male ego... and demonstrate your "fondness" toward him in a way that is above any "fondness" you may demonstrate for Gene or any other extra guy. That is, unless you happen to be as fortunate as me... and have the two guys HARMONIOUSLY share your love. Mine is a very unique situation. There is NO jealousy between any of the three of us. But, it wasn't that way right from the beginning. Remember, the male ego is a fragile thing. I don't know how long you and Chet have been going together... or how long before the first threesome that you had known Gene through Chet. But, I will bet that your demeanor toward Gene is much different today than it was pre-threesome-sex. Right?!?!? Chet no doubt senses this change, and may feel as though he is less important to you than he was before. Remember the age difference, attractiveness difference, etc. He probably feels less attractive than Gene too. That is no doubt why he pretends to be "in charge" of your threesome sex life. It is his way to restore power to himself. It is a natural male reaction. You need to do two things to get beyond this "fractured-ego" situation. First, you need to shower Chet with MORE attention, attentiveness, passion and Chet-centered-sexual pleasure than in the past... and certainly more than he sees you shower on Gene. He needs to be convinced (through action, not words) that he is more important to you than Gene. As sexist as is may seem, you need to make him feel like "your main man" upon whom you are sexually dependent. You may even want to encourage him to have a few sexual "flings" with other women... "so you can come back and tell me what it was like." If that happens, BE VERY SUPPORTIVE... and be eager to learn how her body was different, what she did for him, what he did to her, how he liked the experience, etc. Then give him the orgasm of his lifetime. Second, in spite of what I just said, you need to take charge of your sex life. As you reach a point where you feel that Chet's fractured ego is beginning to heal, you need to ASSERT yourself... the sexual you. You need to let him know that your threesome experiences have taught you that you enjoy having two guys make love to you at the same time. And, you have discovered that you enjoy the variety of more than one sexual partner. Remember, real soon you need to let him know that it is NOT "his position on the future of (your) threesomes" that is controlling. Rather, it is yours... and you want to experience MORE. If he offers the slightest resistance, you could remind him that it was HE who awoke this new sexuality within you. DON'T INSIST that Gene always be the additional guy. Because of your small town situation; by default, Gene may usually be that extra guy. BUT, be open to experiences with new second guys. Keep Gene thinking that he wished he were as lucky as Chet who has you as his "main woman." Maybe you and Chet can occasionally travel out of your area for "encounters." With this option, Chet may decide that it is in his best interest to organize something away from your town so you can enjoy threesome sex without the participation of Gene... so that when you both get together with Gene, he (Gene)is just one of the guys (not the guy who has caught your eye). Tell Chet what kind of experiences you have fantasized about... what you may like to try. Let his imagination run wild. Let him know you see him as the man who can enable YOUR sexual experiences to grow. If he balks, then re-evaluate. However, don't you be the one to cast him aside in favor of Gene or anyone else! THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. After you have done all you can to heal his fractured ego, and made him feel that he is in charge of your sex life (while you grow to become more sexually-assertive and in-charge of your sex life), you should tell him you would like to try a "sexual fling" of your own. Tell him that you would like to have a night of sex alone with some other guy, so you can come back and tell him all the details. I can even share some stories with you that you can give to him... written by guys who love to have their women come back to them after they have had a night of sex with another guy. Many guys find this to be a real turn-on! In any event, you need to keep your elevated appreciation of Gene to yourself... unless Chet becomes a real jerk, and you decide you don't care if you have him in your life. Even then, remember that since the two guys live together, it would be very hard for you to "toss Chet" without also negatively impacting any possibilities with Gene. Keep in mind that there is always the possibility that over a period of time you and Chet and Gene could all become an integrated, mutually-supportive social AND sexual threesome. Such an arrangement could be like mine... where all three "partners" are at liberty to enjoy sexual encounters outside the group... and where all three enjoy hearing about such outside experiences. One last thought before I conclude this rather long letter. You mentioned that after reading about recent experiences I have had... you think I have more (sexual) stamina than you. I don't know if it is "stamina" or what. I just know that I really love the feel of a guy's cock inside my body... both in my pussy and in my mouth... and sometimes in my backside. I just can't seem to get enough. And, the joy of experiencing the variety of different guys... their approach, the feel of their bodies, their differing cock shapes and sizes, their hardness... I never tire of VARIETY! Lots of Love, Joan ****** Ann's Reply Joan, Sorry about the delay in my reply. I was out of town for about five days last week. My work schedule and other commitments can be pretty overwhelming at times. My job is very stressful. In fact sex is a good stress reliever for me. I don't smoke, don't do drugs (except those prescribed by a doctor but even then no uppers, downers, etc.) and I drink in moderation. I have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of people depending on me. Like I said, sex has become one of my major ways to unwind. I also enjoy listening to music, surfing the Net and reading. I appreciated the advice you gave me about my situation. I have made more of an effort to "favor" Chet and show my preference for him. The three of us got together a week ago last Sunday night. I surprised the guys by wearing my black lace panties and bra. I wanted to wear some black stockings with garters, but I couldn't find any. It's difficult around here to find any type of hosiery except pantyhose. In fact the first time I wore the lingerie was for Chet. I had found some black stockings. Needless to say, they got ripped during our encounter. Anyway, back to the "party." We usually start with me sitting on the couch between Gene and Chet. I simultaneously played with their cocks while they fingered my pussy and/or played/sucked on my tits. This night, Chet got on his knees on the floor and had me slide my pussy to the edge of the sofa so he could eat me. Meanwhile Gene stood up on the couch so I could suck his cock. It didn't take me very long to come. We got on the floor then and Gene entered my cunt from behind and Chet lay down. I sucked Chet's cock as Gene moved his cock in and out of my wet pussy. Then Chet took a small vibrator and ran it over and around my clitoris. I came from the combination of that and Gene's dick action. Gene came about 10 seconds later. Then I lay down on my back, and it was Chet's turn to fuck me. It didn't take him long to come. We had wanted to continue, but both guys had been under the weather that day, so one round of sex was enough! I'm looking forward to a more lengthy session soon. So far we've stopped after each guy has had an orgasm, except for the first time when Chet had two. I think that if the three of us were ever all rested up at the same time, we could have one hell of a time! Joan... you asked if Chet and I are able to travel. Unfortunately, no. The reason you asked related to the possibility of him finding other guys who could be my "extra guy." Chet and I have talked a lot in the last few weeks. He is now much more comfortable with having Gene as the third person in our threesomes (and he is considerably less moody these days). For these reasons, I think that for the immediate future, we will limit our three-way play to Chet, me, and Gene. I really enjoy both of them, LOVE having each of them fuck me, and REALLY LOVE IT when both Chet and Gene play with me at the same time. I'm glad I let myself try threesome fun. I REALLY enjoy it! Love, Ann