"Profound truths are not readily understood, nor are their aims comprehended."
Bondage Clubs are slowly, but most definitely acquiring an established claim in our present society. It is not a question of acceptance or rejection on our part, but a matter of total awareness and complete understanding.
CHAPTER ONE
BONDAGE
"We were the first ones to arrive," explained Cynthia W., a petite, attractive, twenty-five year-old New Jersey housewife. "Hal is one of those men who has a bug about being on time. I guess it's part of his business training, or something. When we're invited to a party, we always get there right on time and then sit around for an hour, waiting for the other guests."
"On this particular party, everyone showed up right after we did. Sex parties always seem to be more punctual than regular cocktail parties anyway."
"Joan and Bill were holding the party in their apartment over in Manhattan, so we went over in the afternoon to avoid some of that stupid traffic. We parked the car, had a few cocktails and dinner and then went up to Joan's."
"In all, there were four couples. We knew Joan and Bill well, but the other two couples were strangers. Joan and Bill had met them through a correspondence club and invited them to one of our parties."
"We had a few drinks together and relaxed. The talk was all about bondage and sex, and everyone became anxious to get started. Joan asked if there were any volunteers for being tied up. Hal and I offered to be the ones, because we really enjoy being the slaves. We stood up and the others stripped our clothes off. Bill brought a straight back chair and placed it in the middle of the living room."
"They tied me to the chair. I stood with the back of the chair against my stomach and bent over, so that my head was almost on the seat of the chair. Then they tied my ankles to the back legs of the chair and my wrists to the front legs. A little cushion was placed between the back and my stomach, so that it wouldn't bruise me."
"Hal was made to he on the floor, and they tied him in a spread-eagle fashion between the piano and the couch. From where I was, I could see everything that happened to Hal. The back of the chair was open and I looked straight between my legs. That was the whole idea. I could see everything that was done to me perfectly."
"After we were tied up, everybody took their clothes off and walked around inspecting Hal and me. It was sort of like an octopus all kinds of hands, playing with my breasts, vagina and anus. It wasn't just the men on me, at least. The women walked up and inserted their fingers in my vagina and anal canal. For Hal, it was just the women."
"Then things started to get underway. Joan brought out a long feather, and the girls took turns tickling my clitoris with it. They had my cheeks spread, and everything I had was in plain sight and easy reach. The feather is something that drives a girl wild. At first it tickles, and then it gets you excited. You want to climax, but you can't! I begged them to make me climax, but they wouldn't pay any attention. My begging cost me. You see, the slave is never supposed to speak to the masters. If you speak, they can punish you. I was told I'd be punished, but that came later...."
"Bill told Joan to bring out her vibrator. One of the girls put it on my clitoris, and I about jumped out of my skin. That's one of the most delicious feelings in sex, but a girl can only take so much of it. I had an orgasm pretty quickly, but the girl just kept it there. I broke the rules and spoke again, telling her to please let my vagina rest. She refused and kept right at it. There was no way I could stop her, and I reached another orgasm. I almost passed out with that one, it was so good!"
"The girls were making Hal do things. I watched them on the floor. One of the girls was straddling Hal and copulating with him.
Another girl I think it was Joan was sitting on his face, making him perform cunni-lingus."
"When the gal finally took the vibrator off me I was weak by then, but I couldn't move one of the men I couldn't tell who because I couldn't see his face walked up behind me and grabbed my hips. He wedged himself between my upper thighs. Then he drove it in, and I felt like I was going to split in two. He hurt me, but in a minute or two I was flying high again! I reached a climax while he was working on his, and was on my way to another when he made it. He groaned, shoved against me until we almost tipped the chair over, and then withdrew...."
"I watched him step aside and another man took his place immediately. This one wasn't content to go straight, he (Cynthia describes how this man inserted his penis in her rectum and performed anal intercourse on her.) I thought he was going to kill me he was built so big and I actually cried while he was doing it. After a few minutes, it stopped hurting and felt good. I reached another climax, and that's one of the very few times I have ever had it that way."
"One of the men kneeled by the side of the chair and made me perform fellatio while another man performed sexual intercourse on me."
"The girls took turns working on Hal, and when he went soft, two or three of them would work on him together, until he was ready again."
"After about an hour and a half, they untied us. Then Bill and Joan were tied up the same way we had been. Hal and I got to rest for a few minutes. Then it was my turn to be punished. They made me kneel down behind Joan, who was tied to the chair, and perform cunnilingus and analingus until she climaxed. After that, they tied my wrists together behind my back and made me do the same thing to every girl there. They led me around the room and forced me to kneel down in front of each one of them. One girl took quite a while, but I was forced to take her all the way."
Hal and Cynthia are members of several bondage clubs and attend regular parties, like the one she described above. These meetings take place as often as twice a week, and the sex practices are sometimes far more bizarre than those described at this particular party.
While it may seem almost unbelievable to most people, there are many such bondage clubs all across the United States, and experts feel that the number of people who engage in one form of bondage or another is in excess of 100,000 in this country alone.
In New Jersey during 1966, for example, the authorities raided the headquarters of a bizarre sex club. The club was located in a large home, and operated by two attractive women. The national newspapers reported that the investigators discovered a number of ropes, whips and chains on the premises. Some of the rooms were equipped so that members could be chained to the walls and beaten, while the image of the activity was reflected from well-placed mirrors all over the room. Club files disclosed that there were over 1,000 members, and the club operated a mailing list with over 8,000 names from coast to coast.
A New Jersey newspaper reporter gave this account of an exclusive interview with one of the male members of this club:
Q. "How long did you belong to the club?"
A. "Almost a year."
Q. "Were there a lot of members?"
A. "I'm not sure, but I'd say there were, yes."
Q. "How often did you go there?"
A. "Maybe once a month."
Q. "So you've been at the club in all, about 12 times. Why didn't you attend more often?"
A. "Well, for one thing, it was pretty expensive. It would cost you from fifty to one hundred dollars every time you attended."
Q. "What did you get for this money?" A. "A beating."
Q. "You paid to be beaten? Who did the beating?"
A. "One of the women. You'd take your clothes off and they would tie you to a wall, then whip you." Q. "Was the girl who whipped you naked?" A. "That was up to you. She would be, if you wanted." Q. "Did you receive sexual gratification out of this?"
A. "That's the only reason I went."
Q. "You said that there were several reasons why you didn't attend more often, money was one what else influenced you?"
A. "The girls were good at their job, and sometimes it would take a month or more for some of the welts to heal."
Q. "Were there other members present, when you were there?"
A. "Usually. Most of the time you had to make an appointment in advance; about a week ahead. You could get in if you were willing to pay a little extra, and if you were a good regular member. Several times it was crowded and I had to wait. Sometimes they would let you see what was being done to others while you waited."
Q. "Were all the members men?"
A. "Oh no! There were plenty of women members. Some of them were young, some were a little older. I couldn't say for sure, but I really believe that half of the members were women."
The identity of this member was concealed to protect him from embarrassment and prosecution. His story was substantiated by other members, however. Not long after the raid, the club was closed and the owners prosecuted. This, however, was just one of literally hundreds of bondage clubs in the country.
In a number of interviews with followers of bondage, we learned that the average disciple of sexual sadism spends an average of $5.00 per month on material relating to his or her sexual philosophy. This money goes for books on the subject, photos, club memberships, correspondence forwarding fees, and the purchase of special equipment such as whips, handcuffs, rope and even special clothing. Many argue that this figure much more realistically approaches $200.00 per year, but let's use the $5.00 per month, or $60.00 per year. If the estimated number of people involved is 100,000+, then the annual expenditure for sexual gratification through bondage is six million dollars plus. That's big business in anybody's books!
A number of the bondage clubs are organized by individuals in a certain area. The majority of these differ from the club in New Jersey cited earlier, in that they are informal and non-profit. Generally, these clubs are no more than a group of friends, who enjoy bondage as a sexual stimulant and as a means for sexual expression and satisfaction. For the most part, these are neighborhood or sectional groups.
There is no financial aspect to the club, and the members meet for sex parties where bondage plays a major part in the activity.
Just such a group is the one which Hal and Cynthia belong to.
"There are nine couples who are the basic members," Hal said. "Every now and then we will initiate a new couple, if we know a little something about them. It all began with three couples. We've added eight new couples since then, but two have dropped out or moved away. We meet once or twice a week, but only three or four couples show up. It's damned difficult for everybody to make it to a meeting every week; too many things come up."
"We don't have any dues, or anything like that. Each member is required to hold two parties a year in their home. Of course we all hold more than that, but you have to host at least two affairs."
"Guests from out of state can come, if the member will vouch for them. We have to be pretty careful. Some of the local puritans, who stick their noses in everybody's business, would just love to have the police and newspapers break up one of our meetings. Also, we don't go in for whipping, or any of that stuff. We're just a simple bondage club, so we take care that some of the whippers and spankers don't get in on our parties."
"The outside guests are usually some couple one of the members has met through one of the correspondence clubs. The party we were just telling you about had two couples Bill and Joan had met through (name deleted) Club."
Since this interview, we have learned that there are clubs like this in almost every large city in the country. In New York alone, there are twelve clubs devoted to bondage.
Each of the thirty-three "swinging" correspondence clubs, operating in this country today have bondage groups within the club. These are not organized groups, but splinter movements within each of the clubs made up of individuals and couples who advertise for, and correspond with other members whose interests include bondage. The ads are circumspect, but the meaning is clear. Here are several sample ads of this nature from current club bulletins:
DOMINANT WOMAN Illinois woman, late 30's, attractive, with a strong personality which demands absolute obedience. Would like to meet submissive men with understanding of handcuffs. Photo and explicit letter, please. (Club Code number)
TIED TO LOVE Young couple, he 27, she 23, attractive and personable. We need to be tied to love, and are anxious to meet our masters. Couples only, and prefer college grads. Write us and tell us all about yourselves. (Club Code number)
Here is an ad which makes no bones about the bondage aspect:
TEXAS BONDAGE GROUP Small group of four couples in Houston seeking new couple members. Our interests center around bondage and the bizarre. Present members all in late 20's and early 30's. Send photos and detailed letter, please. (Club Code number)
The above ad is an exception, in that small private groups seldom advertise for new members.
In the preparation of this study, the authors examined the current monthly bulletins from ten correspondence clubs and found 73 ads for individuals and couples interested in bondage. Generally, these people correspond, meet, and form small private clubs in their area. From the evidence we have in hand, we would estimate that there are close to one thousand of these small clubs in the United States. Each club has between ten and thirty members, and this would definitely substantiate the experts' estimate of 100,000+ individuals involved in practices of bondage.
The average person asks, "Why in the world would someone want to be tied up or beaten to enjoy sex?" The answer is much like the individual involved complex. The practice of sadomasochism in sex is not new. Acts involving pain and sex are recorded throughout history. Psychologists deal with sadomasochistic personalities each day, but the average person understands little of this particular personality phenomenon. As there is a fine line between hate and love, there is an equally fine line between pain and pleasure. In the minds of some, these two basic human emotions cannot be separated; and it is these minds, that we will endeavor to examine in this study, with the hope that we can help shed the light of understanding in a delicate, but basic, area of human activity.
Both sadistic and masochistic traits are present in every individual who practices bondage. We will discuss each of these basic drives in the succeeding chapters. First, however, let's take a closer look at Hal and Cynthia, whose description of a bondage party appears at the beginning of this chapter. What makes them tick? What brought them to the point of practicing, enjoying and participating in bondage?
Hal was born in Trenton, New Jersey, where his father was a night watchman for a large industrial plant.
"We lived kind of an upside-down life," he said. "Dad went to work at ten o'clock every night and came home about six-thirty in the morning. He had dinner while the rest of the family was having breakfast. My brother, sister and I all left for school at eight, so we didn't see much of Dad. He'd usually go to bed at ten or eleven in the morning and sleep until six or seven. By the time he dressed and had some eggs, it was time for him to leave for work."
Because of this schedule, Hal's mother had to take the responsibility for raising the family. She was a stern disciplinarian and made the children toe the line.
"The rules were fair," Hal said, "but if you broke one, you got a good spanking with that damned old hair brush of hers."
Hal states that his sister, who was two years older, took after her mother and disciplined her young brothers. It was his sister, who caught Hal masturbating when he was twelve. She gave him a spanking for indulging in the act.
"Why in the hell I ever let her spank me I'll never know," Hal said, "but I was used to taking orders from her and she got away with it. The funny thing was that I caught her masturbating a few months later, and she begged me not to tell Mom."
Hal was not allowed to date until he was sixteen, and he had his first sexual contact when he was seventeen.
"I suppose that every boy goes through this, but it was pretty miserable," he continued. "You know, you have this big image created of what sex will be like. Then, it falls short of the image and you're disappointed. I certainly was! I had been dating this one girl for a long time, but when I was passin', she wasn't receivin', if you know what I mean. So, I dated the 'easy lay' gal in our class. A lot of the guys had been out with her and they all said she'd go down for anything in pants.
"I took her to a movie and then went out and parked. I put my arm around her and started kissing her. That part was okay, but she didn't do one damned thing. She didn't move or anything! I got my hand up under her sweater and played with her breasts. After a while she asked me, 'Say, do you want to make love to me?' She kind of caught me off guard, but I said yes. We got in the back seat and she pulled her panties off and lifted her skirt. Believe me, that's the most action her muscles got all night long! She just laid there; she didn't do anything, she didn't say a word.
"When I penetrated her, I couldn't feel a thing. I later learned that she had an abnormally large vagina, but at the time I believed that all girls were like that. I didn't have an orgasm that night, at least not until I got home and masturbated. The whole problem was that I couldn't feel anything when I was inside her."
This experience dulled Hal's enthusiasm for heterosexual contact.
"If I had leaned that way, I'm sure that girl would have turned me into a homosexual," he said.
Hal says that his mother's domination of the family was absolute. She chose and bought all the children's clothes, even when they were in high school and college. She chose the college Hal was to attend, and even got him a summer job to help pay his tuition.
"I don't know what we all would have done without Mom," he continued. "She was bossy, but she was all we had to lean on. Dad died when I was eighteen. He was shot by some burglars at the plant one night. Mom handled everything. At the funeral, I was sad because I was looking at a man I didn't know. We just were never very close to him. Even after he was gone, we really hardly missed him."
His father's insurance kept the family in funds and Hal finished college. It was in his senior year at college, that he had his second coital contact.
"It was a lot better than the first time," he said. "I'd been going with this girl for two semesters and she finally agreed to spend a weekend in the mountains with me. I borrowed a friend's car and we left on Friday after classes. I was a little embarrassed that first night, but she put me at ease. She bought a cheap wedding ring at the dime store, and even called the hotel for reservations, telling them that 'she and her husband' would arrive late."
"I guess I was afraid that it might be like the first time, because I just sat there in the room and talked and talked. Finally, she came over and put her arms around me and kissed me. She said something like, 'Aren't you going to make love to me, or do I have to seduce you?' I laid back on the bed and said, 'Rape me!' I was kidding, but she did! She laid on top of me and kissed my lips, my ears, and everything. Then she started putting pressure on my groin with her knee. I was excited and it showed, so she unzipped my pants and took it out. She kept kissing me and playing with my penis."
"Then she reached up and unbuttoned my shirt. Before long she had me undressed, and she slipped out of her clothes. 'So, you want to be raped?' she said, and then she climbed on top of me and we made love that way."
"It was a wonderful weekend for both of us. Unfortunately, she started dating one of the football players the following month and we broke up. It that hadn't happened, I'm sure I would have married her."
Hal described a number of sexual experiences he had before marriage. In each instance, the girl was rated good by Hal only if she was the aggressor,. In any contacts where he was expected to take the aggressive role, Hal reports that he failed to reach climax, and often was impotent.
Cynthia was born and raised in Newark. She met Hal in college and they were married not long after they both graduated. Cynthia's parents both worked; her mother as a clerk in a bank, and her father as a machine operator at a local manufacturing company. The family occupied a large apartment in a modest neighborhood.
Her description of her relationship with her parents gives us an understanding of Cynthia's early life.
"My parents were weak," she said. "I don't mean physically, but mentally and I don't mean to imply that they weren't intelligent because they were very smart ... The problem was that neither one could make a decision, nor face responsibility. They would come home from work and Mom would say, 'What do you want for dinner, dear?' Dad would reply, 'Oh, I don't know, what would you like?' Then she'd say, 'It really doesn't matter to me, whatever you would like.' They would go on like that for 30 minutes! Lots of times they would fail to even go to a movie simply because neither one would take a stand on what to see. I'd listen to this all the time, and it drove me crazy! When I was older, I'd just blurt out something and that's what we would have for dinner. Or I'd say, 'Let's go to such and such movie,' and we'd go. They loved to have someone to tell them what to do."
"One time, my father was offered a supervisory position at his company and it meant a good deal more money but he turned it down. He said he didn't want to have to make all those decisions and be charged with that much responsibility. Believe it or not, Mom agreed with him!"
Cynthia was an outstanding student in school and graduated from high school when she was fifteen.
"I had this passion for reading," she explained. "That was about all you could do around our house. Once I started reading, I couldn't stop. Consequently, I was ahead of my class."
Cynthia was a virgin when she married Hal.
"I dated quite a bit in my last two years of college. Before that, I was too young for the boys in my class. I had the normal amount of heavy petting, but I never allowed a boy to go as far as intercourse. I wasn't a prude. Far from it, actually. I even learned how to (perform fellatio) when I was a senior in high school, and I did that on a lot of dates. I was scared to death of pregnancy, though, and that stopped me from going all the way."
When they were first married, Hal and Cynthia had a difficult time adjusting. Hal assumed the passive role in their marriage.
"Hal wanted me to make all the decisions and take the responsibility for running the house," Cynthia said. "I didn't mind that. After all, in a way I had been doing that at home. In fact, I really rather enjoy taking all the responsibility."
"The main problem we encountered was in our sex life. Hal wanted to be passive there, too. He wanted me to initiate it all and do everything, while he just laid there. I tried, but it didn't work for me. I could stimulate him and make him reach several orgasms, but it was all mechanical on my part. I wasn't stimulated, and I never even came close to a climax. I know that I was frustrated and irritable because we began having long talks about sex, and that's a danger sign in any marriage. I tried to explain to Hal, but I couldn't get through to him. My dreams were all about big strong men, who threw me on the ground and raped me."
"To make a long story short, Hal read a book about wife-swapping, which had several chapters devoted to bondage, discipline and domination. The thought of all this excited him and he made me read the book. To be perfectly honest, it excited me too! I knew that he wanted to experiment with swinging, so I told him that we should join one of the clubs and try it out."
"We joined and wrote letters like crazy, but it took about six months to come up with a couple we wanted to meet, and who didn't sound too far out for us. We exchanged some letters and then we invited them over to our apartment."
"They were just marvelous people. We were initiated to bondage that first night. I agreed to let them tie me to the bed. I can't deny that I had lots of misgivings, but it all worked out beautifully. The wife performed cunnilingus on me, and that was the first time I had ever had another girl touch me. When she had me stimulated and she did, believe me her husband climbed in between my legs and took me. There was nothing I could do about it. I couldn't stop him; I couldn't even move. It was marvelous! I had two orgasms while he was on top of me."
"Hal didn't enjoy the first night much. They didn't offer to tie him up, and he was too embarrassed to bring it up. He and the other man's wife made love, but Hal said that he didn't have a climax."
"There was a single girl who liked to put men in bondage listed in the club, and she lived in Newark. Hal wanted to invite her over, and I finally agreed to it."
"She was a tall brunette, fairly attractive, and she loved to make a man her sexual slave. We had a few drinks and then she asked me to help her tie Hal up. We undressed him and the girl really tied him up so that he couldn't move. Then we both started doing all sorts of things to him. She sat on his face and made him perform cunnilingus. While he was doing that, he had an erection. The girl told me to get on him. I did, but after a while she pushed me aside and climbed on herself. She rode him without mercy. Hal climaxed twice, but she wouldn't stop. She went back to her old position and made him perform cunnilingus again. He refused, but she held his penis up and slapped it when he refused to obey her. She did that twice, and he didn't refuse her again!"
Later, Hal told Cynthia that this was his most exciting and satisfying sexual experience to date. They talked about it and decided to join a bondage club.
In this couple, we find two opposed personalities. Hal was subjected to discipline when he was young. He became dependent on his mother and sister, and was not made to face responsibilities. As a consequence, Hal sought the same security of female domination when he was married. Cynthia fell into the image of his mother and sister, and replaced these two secure images when she became his wife. Hal's pattern was already set, and it is only logical, that he would not suddenly accept responsibility.
Hal's first sexual experience was a disaster. He was disappointed in sex, and subconsciously blamed this on the girl. The girl took the passive role, and in Hal's mind, women were the active personalities.
When he took his college girl friend to the mountains, he enjoyed himself because she "raped" him. This was no accident on his part. The girl had already bought the cheap wedding band and called the hotel for reservations. This pleased him, and he jokingly asked her to rape him. For Hal it was no joke; he wanted to be raped by a woman.
Cynthia's family relationship was just the opposite. No one in her family was willing to accept the dominant role, and Cynthia took this position in the family. A clue to Cynthia's reaction is found in her words, "My parents were weak." Here she is telling us that she doesn't respect weak people. The natural desire, however, is to respect people who are strong.
At this point Cynthia's personality becomes more complex. She obviously took the aggressive role in her sexual contacts on dates, if she performed fellatio. It can be assumed that the men involved reached sexual climax, but it is doubtful that Cynthia did. She very possibly rationalized that as the aggressor, she was to be denied sexual fulfillment.
Couple the fact that Cynthia's remarks about her parents indicated that she wanted someone of strength in her life, and the fact that she constantly dreamed of large men raping her, and you can understand why Cynthia had a compelling desire for a strong personality to be her sexual master. She was willing to face the responsibilities of running their home, but in sex Cynthia felt that she must have a master.
It should also be remembered that sex was the one relationship missing in Cynthia's life with her parents. It is only natural she would feel that this is the one area she is not competent to handle by herself.
It is immediately apparent that Hal and Cynthia are a poor marital match. Both need to be the sexual slave of a dominant person. The only way they can achieve this is in the path they are now following: having sexual experiences with others and taking the completely passive roles.
Dr. Minden, the noted sexologist, states, "In every case bondage is a form of punishment, and this punishment takes the form of both sadism and masochism." This punishment can be mild, as in the form of simple bondage, or severe, as in the form of flagellation. No matter what form it takes, bondage must be considered abnormal sexual behavior.
In order to understand bondage and its many variations, we must first understand its two basic ingredients, sadism and masochism. It is only then, that we will understand the active and passive roles in the sex act, and what makes bondage so popular with so many people.
CHAPTER TWO
SADISM
Traces of sadism and masochism are present in almost every love relation between two human beings. This is true of heterosexual, homosexual, married or unmarried, normal or perverted love relationships. The famous sex psychologist, Dr. Havelock Ellis, traced the love-sex relationship between two humans from inception to completion, showing that the male almost always assumes the forceful or active role, and the female assumes the passive or submissive role. The individuals themselves are often not conscious of the role because, in most instances, there is no element of individual choice. Society assigns the roles, and traditionally the male dominates the social structure.
In the most natural sex act between a man and his wife, the man takes the active role, is ordinarily in the position of incubus, sets the time and place for the sex act, and does the pursuing. The wife submits to the position of succubus, and accepts the passive role. In a very mild sense, the male is the sex master, the female the sex slave.
Pain can also be a very normal factor in the sex act. Love bites, scratches, forceful penetration and mild abuse are all considered normal parts of the sex act. Most red-blooded men think highly of a girl, who is so demonstrative in her love-making, that she bites and scratches him during the moment of sexual climax. In this case, the female's acts are sadistic and the male's masochistic. Yet, this behavior can hardly be considered abnormal.
When the lust for pain goes beyond these normal mild expressions, the practice becomes known as sadism. In the terminology of psychology, a sadist is an individual who derives sexual stimulation and/or gratification from inflicting pain on his or her sex partner. Thus the active partner is the sadist, whereas the passive partner is called a masochist.
Sadism was named after the famous Marquis de Sade, who lived a life devoted to sexual cruelty in France during the eighteenth century. Needless to say, de Sade did not invent sexual cruelty, which has been present since the beginning of mankind. De Sade, however, openly lived a life of sexual cruelty, refined the art of sexual torture and wrote a number of books and plays, which today serve as textbooks for practitioners of bondage and flagellation.
Donatien Alphonse Francois Sade, usually referred to as the Marquis de Sade, was born in Paris on June 2, 1740, and died at the Charenton Insane Asylum on December 2, 1814. Little is known about de Sade's early life, except that he saw considerable military service beginning at the age of 14. When he was 26, de Sade returned to Paris and his sexual escapades became notorious. De Sade was devoted to pain, and it was only by inflicting or receiving pain that he could find sexual satisfaction. He was known to hire a group of prostitutes, strip them naked and whip them severely before having sexual intercourse with them. On one occasion, de Sade hired a group of prostitutes, served them deadly poison in a drink and took his sexual pleasure with them as they were in the throes of dying from the poison.
De Sade's acts became the scandals of France, and he was finally arrested at Aix in 1772 for an unnatural sex act and poisoning. He fled to Italy, but was arrested again when he returned to Paris. He was returned to Aix, found guilty and sentenced to death. After several escapes from prison, de Sade was placed in Charenton Insane Asylum. It was there that he wrote his famous works including, JUSTINE, JULIETTE, BEDROOM PHILOSOPHERS, and LOVE CRIMES among many others. De Sade was released from the insane asylum in 1789, but was again committed in 1803, an incurable lunatic.
De Sade's works were replete with stories of sexual exploits and adventures involving bondage, flagellation and torture.
In JUSTINE, one of his most famous books, de Sade gives several descriptions of characters who represent the archtype disciple of bondage and flagellation. In one instance, Therese, the central character, and a niece are secretly watching the headmaster of a private school torture his students. Therese is told that the headmaster, Rodin, will only accept attractive young pupils between the ages of 12 and 16, and that each pupil receives punishment regularly often for invented or imaginary crimes. The following passage describes his bondage and flagellation acts with several students:
"Meanwhile, Rodin, greatly aroused, had seized the little girl's hands, tied them to a ring fitted high upon a pillar standing in the middle of the punishment room. Julie is without any defense ... and save the lovely face languishingly turned toward her executioner, her superb hair in disarray, and the tears which inundate the most beautiful face in the world, the sweetest ... the most interesting. Rodin dwells upon the picture, is fired by it, he covers those supplicating eyes with a blindfold, approaches his mouth and dares kiss them. Julie sees nothing more, now able to proceed as he wishes, Rodin removes the veils of modesty, her blouse is unbuttoned, her stays untied, she is naked to the waist, and yet further below ... What whiteness! What beauty! These are the roses strewn upon lilies by the Grace's very hands ... what being is so heartless, so cruel as to condemn to torture charms so fresh ... so poignant? What monster can seek pleasure in the depths of tears and suffering and woe? Rodin contemplates ... his inflamed eye roves, his hands dare profane the flowers his cruelties are about to wither...."...." Finally, his mounting wrath exceeds all limits; at first he gives vent to it through invectives, with menaces and evil language, he affrights this poor little wretch trembling before the blows wherewith she realizes she is about to be torn. Rodin is beside himself, he snatches up a cat-o'-nine-tails that has been soaking in a vat of vinegar to give the thongs tartness and sting. 'Well there,' says he, approaching his victim, 'prepare yourself, you have got to suffer.' He swings a vigorous arm, the lashes are brought whistling down on every inch of the body exposed to them; twenty-five strokes are applied; the tender pink rosiness of this matchless skin is in a trice run into scarlet."
"Julie emits cries ... whereby Rodin is made all the more furious ... He puts his hands upon the molested parts, touches, squeezes, worries them, seems to be readying them for further assaults; they follow fast upon the first. Rodin begins again, not a cut he bestows is unaccompanied by a curse, a menace, a reproach ... blood appears ... Rodin is in an ecstasy ... He can contain himself no longer, the most indecent condition manifest his over wrought state...."
At this point, Rodin is fearful that he will reach a sexual climax and lose the powers he will need to deal with other students. He orders the young Julie to dress and leave. He then brings in a young boy. He guides the boy to the center of the room and strips him naked, fondling and caressing all parts of the young body, as he lectures him. Rodin makes the boy fondle him in the same manner. During this the boy has an erection:
"'Very well,' he cries, spying his success, 'there you are in the state I forbade ... I dare swear that with two more movements you'd have the impudence to spit at me ... '
"But too sure of the titillations he has produced, the libertine advances to gather a homage, and his mouth is the temple offered to the sweet incense; his hands excite it to jet forth, he meets the spurts, devours them, and is himself ready to explode, but he wishes to persevere to the end."
"'Ah, I am going to make you pay for this stupidity!' says he and gets to his feet."
"He takes the youth's two hands, he clutches them tight, and offers himself entirely to the altar at which his fury would perform a sacrifice. He opens it, his kisses roam over it, his tongue drives deep into it, is lost in it. Drunk with love and ferocity, Rodin mingles the expressions and sentiments of each."...." The whips are picked up, Rodin flogs; clearly more excited by the boy than he was by the vestal, his blows become much more powerful and far more numerous; the child burst into tears, Rodin is in seventh heaven, but new pleasures call, he releases the boys and flies to other sacrifices. A little girl of thirteen is the boy's successor, and she is followed by another youth who is in turn, abandoned for a girl. Rodin whips nine: five boys, four girls. The last is a lad of fourteen, endowed with a delicious countenance. Rodin wishes to amuse himself, the pupil resists; out of his mind with lust, he beats him, and the villain, losing all control of himself, hurls his flame's scummy jets upon his charge's injured parts, he wets him from waist to heels...."
Rodin embodies almost every sadistic trait, latent homosexuality evidenced in his preference for boys, sexual stimulation from placing his victims in bondage, pain lust as evidenced in his excitement when he causes blood to flow on his victim's body and the desire to foul the victim's body with his ejaculation.
It is also interesting to note that Rodin evidences some masochistic traits in that he humiliates himself in front of the pupils by performing fellatio on the young boy.
Psychiatrists have pointed out that every sadist has some masochistic tendencies, and every masochist some sadistic traits. De Sade is reported to once have gathered a company of waterfront bums and their slatternly girl friends, brought them to a special room where he had his valet strip him and perform anal intercourse on him in front of the assembled guests. This is a clear indication of masochism in his personality.
Sadism then, is the sexual deviation of inflicting pain either mental, physical or both as a means of obtaining sexual gratification. In the example of Rodin, we have an extreme of this psychological perversion. Milder forms of sadism occur in our everyday life, and often the sexual behavior pattern of the individual is not detected or considered abnormal. It is important that we understand some of these forms of sadism, if we are to understand the role of the active partner in bondage.
During our interviews in the swinging world, we encountered a number of individuals both male and female who evidenced strong sadistic tendencies:
Herb B., a farm equipment salesman in Salt Lake City, is typical of many men who practice mild forms of sadism in their sex lives. Herb has a low opinion of women and has practiced rape on six occasions. He has never been apprehended or arrested, is married and has three children.
"Women like brutal men," he said, "and I always try to oblige them. They put on this coy act and try to tell you they don't want to have sexual intercourse, but they enjoy it as much as a man and the rougher a man is, the better they like it."
Herb was born and raised in Salt Lake City. His parents were very religious, but did not belong to the Mormon church which is predominant in the area. Instead, they were avid followers of revival meetings, and would often drive several hundred miles to spend a week at a tent revival. Herb remembers these meetings as "hell-fire and damnation," but continues to attend revivals in his adult life. He once thought of studying theology and becoming a preacher, but gave this up in favor of studying agriculture.
In his youth, Herb was severely scratched on the leg by a neighbor's cat. From this incident, Herb became distrustful of all animals and launched a behavior pattern of extreme cruelty to cats. Herb was proud of the fact that he had killed seven cats and completely dismembered two others, by the time he was eight. His father caught Herb in the act of dismembering a cat when he was ten, and Herb was severely punished with a whipping in the garage.
Herb and his father were close, and often Herb worked side by side with his parent. He said that his father was the absolute master of the house; his mother seldom spoke and was careful to please her husband at all times. If she failed to carry out an order from her husband, Herb's mother was subjected to a whipping in the garage, the same as her children.
On several occasions, Herb saw his mother and father engaged in the sex act.
"I remember once she said something like, 'No, not tonight, dear!' My father picked her up, threw her on the bed and pulled her skirt up. Then he just fell on her and penetrated her. She screamed, and he slapped her across the mouth."
Herb and his family were good friends with their next door neighbors, a couple in their late twenties. Herb was sixteen, when a dramatic incident involving the neighbors profoundly affected his mental attitude.
"Martha was a good looking woman with a real sharp figure, and she didn't mind showing it off, either!" Herb said. "I used to watch her all the time, and I'd masturbate thinking about how I'd like to have some of that. She used to walk around the yard with hardly anything on, and boy, that really got to me!"
"Martha was a tramp! She'd sleep with anybody! Not too many people knew that, but I did. I watched their house a lot. Marty, her husband, left for work about nine and came home about seven. He never showed up for lunch. She'd have at least one man visit her every day, and some days she had two or three at different times. I snuck over in their yard and listened at the bedroom window. She was getting it all right, and from what I heard, she couldn't get enough. I heard one man ask her, "What does it take to satisfy you, baby?' She said, 'More than you've got.'"
Herb relates that Martha's husband came home one afternoon and caught her in bed with a man. They had a terrible fight and Marty chased the man out of the house, waving a pistol at him. When the man was at the front gate, Marty took aim and fired the gun. According to Herb, Marty aimed high and deliberately missed his wife's lover. The other man ran off. A few minutes later, a police car arrived, and Herb was questioned about what had happened. He lied to the officers and told them that he hadn't seen or heard anything. That night, Marty packed his bags and walked out on his wife. Herb liked Marty and blamed Martha for ruining Marty's life.
"That bitch went down for anybody, and I was determined that I would teach her a lesson. I went over to her place the next morning. I didn't ring the bell, but just went to the back door and walked in."
"She was in the living room, wearing one of those loose fitting robes. She asked me what in the hell I wanted, and I told her I wanted to talk. She told me to get out and started yelling at me. That made me sore, so I grabbed her and hit her in the face. That shut her up, and it made me feel good. She was scared of me then, and wanted to know what I was going to do to her. I told her I was going to lay her to get even for what she had done to Marty. She said that she'd kill me if I tried it. I reached out and yanked her robe off her. She was naked underneath, and her body was even better than it looked in clothes. She screamed and slapped me. I hit her on the chin, and she fell back on the couch. Then I went to the kitchen and brought in some twine. She was unconscious, and I tied her hands behind her back. Then I threw some cold water in her face I wanted her to see what I was going to do to her."
"She came to, and then pleaded with me not to hurt her. She was scared stiff. I took my pants off, took my penis in my hand and waved it at her. Then I slapped her on the face a couple of times and got on top of her. She had her knees tight together, but I pressed them apart and looked at her vagina for a while. She was so scared she was trembling. Then I rammed her. She wasn't ready for love and she was dry. I like that the best. When they're dry, you can really feel it!"
"All of a sudden she started getting all excited. She began panting and told me to keep it up. She groaned a couple of times and then cried out. I was right with her."
"Afterward, I cut the twine and let her up. She wanted me to do it again, but I wanted to get out of there. She said she would call the police, but I told her that I would spill the beans about all the men she kept seeing while Marty was at work. That shut her up!"
Herb had sexual relations with Martha several times after this first contact. On each occasion, Martha allowed Herb to slap her and tie her up.
Herb was eighteen and in college when his father died suddenly. His father was the victim of a household accident, slipping on a freshly waxed floor, when he was rushing to answer the telephone. As he fell, he hit his head on the sharp corner of a table and was dead instantly. The loss of his father profoundly affected Herb. He moped around the house, lost interest in his studies, and blamed his mother for his father's death. His reasoning was that his mother should never have waxed that floor and made it so slippery.
The following week Herb returned to college, and never returned home again.
His next sexual experience came with the rape of a young coed at college.
"She was a little bitch, and nobody liked her," he said. "She had one of the ground floor rooms in the women's dorm, and I used to spy on her a lot. One night I was watching through her window and I saw this gal and her room mate going at it. They were performing cunnilingus on each other, and neither one of them had a stitch on. She was a queer, but no one else knew about it. I took my camera along with me for the next few nights and, when they went at it again, I got some shots of them in the act."
"Then I waited for the right opportunity to get that bitch alone. She took her car and went downtown one night and I followed her. She went shopping at a dress shop, and I hid on the floor in the back of her car. She didn't see me, and when she had the car on the road I sat up and scared the hell out of her. I made her drive out to a lonely place I knew. Then I made her give me the keys. She was scared silly and wanted to know if I was going to rape her. I told her that that was exactly what was going to happen. She tried to get out of the car, but I grabbed her arm and twisted it behind her back. She screamed, and I twisted harder. I told her if she made one sound, I'd break her damned arm."
"We got in the back seat, and I made her take all her clothes off. She fought a little and I slapped her a few times, but she took them off. Then, she made a quick movement and jumped out of the car. I caught her outside, threw her on the ground and really poured it to her. She cried a lot and even scratched me while I was giving it to her. When I stood up, I had to urinate, so I just stood there and urinated all over her."
"She threatened to go right to the police. That's when I told her about what I had seen between her and her room mate. I showed her one of the photos, and she broke down and cried. I told her that if she said one word about what had happened there, I'd dump the photos all over the campus and send some to her parents. She made me promise to keep it to myself if she kept quiet, and that was that."
During the next three years, Herb engaged in four more rapes. In each case, Herb had something on the girl and used it to make her keep quiet about what he had done. Three of the women he raped were housewives with children.
Herb found his match in a complete female masochist who enjoyed being beaten and could only achieve sexual orgasm when she was tied up and raped.
"Lane and I were perfect together," he continued. "She wanted a man to be a man. The more I slapped her around, the more excited she became. Then, she told me she liked to be tied up and raped. We did it that way for a few months, and then we decided to get married."
In Herb's case, we find a good deal of expressed sadism. His only ventures into sexual intercourse have been in the form of rape. Even he and his wife practice an imitation form of rape in the everyday sex life now.
A number of factors influenced Herb's behavior pattern. The early incident with the cats can probably be interpreted as an outlet for sadistic traits already present in his personality structure. Certainly the environment at home had a bearing on Herb's adult development. He admired and respected his father, but one would also assume that Herb felt some competition with his male parent. He resented his mother, and very likely blamed her for not speaking out against his father's tyranny.
The incident with the next door neighbor, Martha, added to Herb's contempt for women. It seems obvious that Herb felt that all women were evil and weak and should be hurt. The fact that he deliberately urinated on the college coed offers proof of Herb's desire to humiliate women.
Perhaps the single greatest motivating force behind Herb's acts was a desire to assert and prove his manhood. In Herb's mind, a man must prove himself through the use of brute force. Herb doubted his own manliness and rape was his one method of proving himself.
It is doubtful that Herb could ever enter into a normal relationship with a woman. Probably his greatest fear is the ability of a woman to castrate him: not physically, but mentally. If a woman freely entered into a sexual relationship with him, he would lose his one opportunity to prove his manhood.
There are thousands of men like Herb, who hold the female in contempt, and express this contempt in their overt sexual sadism with the female. Some of them do not go to the extent Herb did in elaborately planning the rape (and it's interesting to note here that Herb never told his victim what he had discovered about their private lives until after he had raped them; other men might have used the evidence they had as a wedge to force the girl to consent to intercourse, but Herb's object was not sex per se, being rather his desire to assert his manhood), many simply take pleasure from hurting their sex partner during the act.
Although we did interview several women with sadistic tendencies, these were in a definite minority. Generally, it is accepted that sadism is more often found in the male, and our studies tend to confirm this.
The male is also most often sexually stimulated by stories of sadism. Dr. Kinsey, in his report SEXUAL BEHAVIOR IN THE HUMAN
FEMALE, published in 1953, reported that he and his group had interviewed 3,096 individuals (2880 females and 1016 males) with relation to sexual arousal from sadomasochistic stories. In this sampling, twice as many males reported sexual arousal than females. Although it had long been believed that the male could more readily associate a sadomasochistic act with the sex act, this report gave sexual researchers their first concrete evidence of the distinct difference between the reactions of males and females to this material.
There is nothing too unusual about the differences in these percentages when one remembers that the male is conditioned by society to his active and dominant role. The sexual reaction itself is not abnormal; but when man moves beyond the thought to overt action, his behavior becomes abnormal.
The father of modern psychology, Sigmund Freud, said of sadism:
"The roots of active algolagnia, sadism, can be readily demonstrable in the normal individual. The sexuality of most men shows an admixture of aggression, of a desire to subdue, the biological significance of which lies in the necessity for overpowering the resistance of the sexual object by actions other than mere courting. Sadism would then correspond to an aggressive component of the sexual instinct which has become independent and exaggerated and has been brought to the foreground by displacement."
"The concept of sadism fluctuates in everyday speech from a mere active or impetuous attitude towards the sexual object to an abso-lue maltreatment of the object. Strictly speaking, only the last extreme case can claim the name of perversion."
Sadism is at the base of all bondage; for in bondage there must be the master before the slave can be bound. Oddly enough, most psychologists agree that almost every normal male would enjoy sexual relations with a female who was bound in such a way that the man would have complete freedom of her body. This is simply an extension, or step beyond, the normal aggressive and active role the male is expected to assume.
In sadism, we are again faced with that fine line between normal and abnormal behavior. For the purpose of definition, it is best stated that when the infliction of pain becomes a necessity for stimulation, or an end unto itself, the behavior is sadistic and abnormal.
CHAPTER THREE
MASOCHISM
The masochist is also a basic ingredient for any situation involving bondage. Briefly defined, a masochist is one who receives sexual stimulation and/or sexual gratification from having pain inflicted on the body or mind. At times, masochism is referred to as "the punishment complex," because the average masochist believes that he or she must be punished.
Whereas, the sadist always assumes the active role in any sex relationship, the masochist assumes the passive role. And, because society has assigned the active role to the male, the females are usually the masochists.
The term masochism is derived from the name of the famous Austrian writer, Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, whose many books spoke eloquently of his love to be punished by women. Sacher-Masoch was known to pay a prostitute to pluck his pubic hairs out one by one. He also hired women to strip him naked and whip him until his body was one mass of welts. In his books, Sacher-Masoch tells of how he hired a male prostitute to rape his bride on his wedding night. Sacher-Masoch said that he disguised himself as a servant and forced himself to watch the male prostitute, who had shown himself to be exceptionally well endowed before he was hired, defile his wife.
For a clearer understanding of the masochist, let's again turn to Sigmund Freud, who offers this definition:
"Masochism comes under our observation in three shapes: as a condition under which sexual excitation may be aroused: as an expression of feminine nature: and as a norm of behavior. According to this one may distinguish an erotogenic, a feminine, and a moral type of masochism. The first, the erotogenic masochism, the lust of pain, is also to be found at the bottom in the other forms; the concept of it can be supported on biological and constitutional grounds; it remains incomprehensible unless one can bring oneself to make certain assumptions about matters that are wrapped in obscurity. The third, in certain respects the most important form in which masochism appears, has only lately, as a sense of guilt that is for the most part unconscious, been properly appreciated by psychoanalysis; it already admits, however, of full explanation and of co-ordination into our previous knowledge. Feminine masochism, on the other hand, is the form most accessible to observation, least mysterious, and is comprehensible in all its relations."
Then it must be agreed, that a certain amount of masochism on the part of the average female is normal and expected. Dr. Kinsey provided further information in this area when he reported in SEXUAL BEHAVIOR IN THE HUMAN FEMALE that a higher percentage of females indicated sexual response to the love bite than males. It is interesting to note that twice as many males had responded erotically to being bitten as had responded to sadomasochistic stories. There were over four times as many females who had responded erotically when they were bitten as had ever responded to sadomasochistic stories. One facet of this report is that it provides data to show that males may be aroused by both physical and psychologic stimuli, while a larger number of females, although not all of them, may be aroused only by physical stimuli.
Phyllis G., of Boston, is an active member of a bondage club whose adult sex life has been devoted to practices involving bondage. Her parents died when she was eight and Phyllis was raised by her grandparents. The age gap between the child and her guardians was great, and understanding was lacking. Although we spent over four hours interviewing Phyllis, we learned little about her childhood with her parents and grandparents. Her only statement about this period in her life was: "They (her grandparents) were too old to raise a young girl. We lived in two different worlds."
Phyllis masturbated frequently from the age of fourteen on. At sixteen, she had a homosexual experience with a girl who lived on her block.
"It wasn't lesbianism," she said. "I suppose you would call it mutual masturbation. We were very close friends, and we masturbated each other one afternoon. It only happened that one time."
Phyllis was constantly in trouble at school. She was expelled for smoking on the school grounds, and only reinstated when her grandfather made a special request of the school board to reconsider. Her grades were poor, and Phyllis refused to study. She was sent home one time because her blouse was cut too low and the teacher considered her exposure indecent. Another time, she was sent home because she refused to wear a bra and her sweater was too revealing.
"I guess that I was a real problem for them (her grandparents), but a teenage girl just doesn't sit around and knit or play dominoes! They couldn't understand that, or that the world had changed since they were young. I don't blame them; it was just a bad situation all around."
Phyllis got into serious trouble when she was eighteen. She was attending a party with people her age who were smoking marijuana. It was a combination "kicks and sex" party.
Phyllis smoked a marijuana cigarette and began necking with a boy. The police raided the house, and when they arrived Phyllis was found naked from the waist up in a boy's arms. She was arrested with a number of other teenagers and taken downtown. She remained as a guest of the city overnight and was released on bail the following morning. The police called her grandparents shortly after Phyllis was arrested. The news caused her grandfather, who had a weak heart, to have a stroke, which paralyzed him. He was rushed to the hospital, and her grandmother stayed with him until his life was out of danger. She then went downtown and made arrangements for her granddaughter's bail.
"She didn't say a word to me on the way home," Phyllis reported. "She didn't have to. I hated myself as much as any one human being could. Anything she could have said would have just made it worse."
"Let me set the record straight. At that point I was a 100% virgin. I'd had plenty of opportunities for sex, but I had never weakened. Had the police arrived a half hour later, I probably wouldn't be able to say that. I had made up my mind to let John have me right there, if he wanted me. It wasn't the marijuana. Sure, I freaked out a little, but I knew what I was doing. I was just tired of being a virgin when all my friends looked at me, like I was some sort of a nut. As far as I was concerned, it was a calculated move. The headlines about
'Sex Crazed Kids' doesn't quite tell the truth about the party. There was plenty of sex going on, but that goes on in cars, motel rooms, and even behind bushes."
"I'm not defending the party. It was wrong, and I was wrong. I don't know why I did it. Maybe I was just trying to get kicks, or maybe subconsciously I wanted to hurt my grandparents. They seemed to think so, and they may be right. I was just sick of my life the way it was, and I guess I would have tried anything."
"I'm pretty cold-blooded, but what this all did to Granddad was more than I could bear. He was paralyzed and had to stay in the hospital, until he died a few months later. The doctor told me that it could have been anything that caused the stroke, but he was just trying to let me off the hook."
The case against Phyllis was dropped and she borrowed two hundred dollars from her grandmother and moved to New York. She tried to get a job, failed, and finally allowed herself to be picked up by a strange man in a bar. She became a prostitute and remained in the business for two years.
"I was busted a few times, but the last one looked bad because the John had turned out to be a vice jockey. My lawyer got me off with a suspended sentence and I quit the racket."
This time Phyllis moved to Philadelphia. She was hired as a file clerk for a local lawyer, and took a small apartment. A few months later she met Pat W., a salesman for a New York dress manufacturer. They dated often and were married not long after they met. Before they were married, Phyllis told Pat all about her past life.
"I thought it would break us up, but he said it made me more interesting."
Phyllis celebrated her twenty-first birthday one month after they were married.
"It was difficult to believe I was only twenty-one; it seemed like I had lived fifty years of my life already."
From the beginning of her marriage, Phyllis experienced sex problems.
"When you're a whore, you have no feelings in the sex act," she said. "Most of the time it's pretty mechanical. You get the John excited, get him on and off as quickly as you can. It's very rare when some guy will turn you on."
"With Pat, I had trouble. I didn't get stimulated, and I couldn't climax. I tried to hide it, but he knew I wasn't getting anything out of it. I kept telling him that I would adjust and that all I needed was time. We had some pretty bad fights over this, but there just wasn't much I could do about it."
"About six months after we were married, Pat was transferred to Boston. I didn't want to go back there, but he couldn't give up his job just because I had some silly notions about a city. We moved up there in the summer and took a nice apartment not Back Bay, but nice."
Her husband suddenly had to travel extensively for his company and Phyllis was left home all week alone. She wanted to take a job, but Pat wouldn't allow it. She said that she began reading a number of sex books to see if she could learn anything about her own problem.
"When I read about bondage, it excited me. I even masturbated and reached an orgasm when I read all about the various bondage clubs. I went downtown and bought one of those tabloid papers and sent my name in to three bondage clubs whose ads were in the back of the tabloid."
"A few weeks later, I began getting some letters from couples and single men who said they had seen my ad."
"Later I found out that the clubs had made up ads and put them in the bulletins, when they first received my inquiry. The letters I received were exciting. Up until that time it had all been in the thinking stage, but I knew that I had to make up my mind if I really wanted to try it."
"I was a little afraid of getting tangled up in something I couldn't handle ... There was this one young married couple who wrote me, and they seemed perfect. They loved bondage and didn't mind a threesome. Also, they lived in Boston. We exchanged a couple of letters and they gave me their name and phone number. I called them one night and we talked for an hour or more. Pat was out of town and they asked me to come over the next night for dinner."
"The minute I met them, I felt like I had known them for years. They were just real nice people. We had a lovely dinner, and sat around with cocktails afterward. The conversation promptly got around to sex, and after a while they asked if I was willing to have a little party with them ... We all went into the bedroom and I had to stand in the middle of the room while they both undressed me. I got a little scared after they had all my clothes off, but they wouldn't let me back out. George held me tight while Jane tied me up."
"At first they just tied my hands behind my back. They took their clothes off and started making me do things to them. (Here she describes how she was forced to perform fellatio on George and cunnilingus on Jane.) They were the masters and I was the slave. If I didn't obey what they told me to do, I'd be punished. I had never been gay with girls, and the idea of performing cunnilingus on Jane didn't appeal to me. I said I wouldn't do it, and George said, 'Guess we'll have to punish her.' Jane agreed, and George held me in a way I was forced to bend way over. Jane took some sort of hard rubber thing out of a drawer and inserted it in the anus. "This thing is 12 inches long,' she said, 'and you're only getting two inches this time. Next time you disobey, you get half of it!' It hurt like hell, and she didn't show any mercy in the way she moved it around! She wanted to know if I was ready to do what they wanted, and I told her, yes."
"They must have kept me that way for a half an hour. I reached one climax while I was performing cunnilingus on Jane. George was behind me and performing digital intercourse. He was rough and it hurt, but it excited me and took me over the hill."
"Then they tied me to the bed. George put a nylon rope on my right wrist, ran it under the bed and tied it to my left wrist. They had two hooks installed in the ceiling over the bed, and they tied my ankles to these. It wasn't very comfortable. I was on my back, but my legs were so high my tail barely touched the bed."
"From that point on, they did just about everything to me you can imagine. They both performed cunnilingus, George copulated, both of them used their hands all over me, and Jane put on a big dildo and copulated with me just like a man would. I didn't keep score, but I know that I must have reached a half dozen climaxes."
Phyllis also relates that she refused to do some things and that they punished her with the rubber instrument a number of times. She described this in detail, and admits that she experienced one climax when they were punishing her in this manner.
When Pat came home that weekend, Phyllis confessed what she had done.
"There just wasn't any other way. We weren't getting anything out of sex together," she said, "and I had enjoyed the bondage party. I could go on and deceive him, but that wouldn't have been fair to either of us."
Pat was amazed at his wife's activity, but at the same time intrigued. He read some of the books she gave him, and then decided that he wanted to experiment in bondage with her. She suggested that they make a date with the couple she had met and he agreed.
"It turned out perfect. Pat didn't want to be tied up, but Jane loved to be the slave. So, the men tied Jane and me up, and we had a party that lasted for over three hours. Pat had a ball, and was willing to make this a part of our married life. We use bondage at home and I can reach a number of climaxes with Pat that way and we belong to three clubs."
Phyllis is an excellent example of a masochist. It would be difficult to pin-point exactly where all of this began in her emotional development, but certainly the party she attended and her subsequent arrest were contributing factors. Phyllis felt directly responsible for her grandfather's stroke. One can safely assume that she blamed the weakness of her body for what happened. She had made the decision to have sexual intercourse that evening, which would have heralded her fall from purity, or the loss of her virginity. Although this did not come to pass, Phyllis may feel that the decision itself brought about the circumstances. It is altogether possible that she blames herself for the legal misfortunes of the other people at the party.
Phyllis then decided to run away, rather than face the moral situation at home. She drifted into a life of prostitution, a very real means of punishing her body. After several arrests, Phyllis suddenly realized that she was bent on self-destruction and again tried to run away. This time she made a serious effort at beginning a new life, only to find that she was unable to receive or give true sexual satisfaction in her marriage. The transfer to Boston was a dramatic event for her. She had great reservations about returning to her home. Once there, she fell into her old life one of frustration and anxiety.
Bondage provided a compromise for Phyllis. She was able to achieve sexual gratification, and at the same time punish her body to relieve her feeling of compelling guilt.
Doubtlessly her mental condition was influenced by a number of incidents in her youth, but Phyllis was not willing to discuss this area of her life. It should be noted that Phyllis was "punished" a number of times in her first encounter with the married couple. She admits that she experienced a mild orgasm during this punishment. One must assume that she purposely refused to obey in order to be punished, which was her prime motive in the sexual encounter.
In our interview with Pat and Phyllis, we learned that they belong to three bizarre sex clubs in the greater Boston area. Each club is small, with between 5 and 12 members, and made up of an equal number of married couples and single people of both sexes. In one of the clubs the members have regular meetings where flagellation is practiced. Pat and Phyllis attended one of these meetings and Phyllis was chained to a wall and severely whipped. She said that she enjoyed it, but that her body was over a week healing from the wounds inflicted. Pat did not enjoy this and decided that they would not return to any future club meetings. Phyllis reluctantly agreed, realizing that she could be seriously injured. Their description of the party or meeting they attended will appear in Chapter Six.
In our study, FEMALE AGGRESSOR, we noted that there were a number of men who enjoyed being sexually dominated by women. Many of these men are masochists and find sexual gratification only when a woman inflicts pain on their body. Many feel that these are weak or effeminate men, but nothing could be further from the truth. People are often amazed to find that the male masochist is very often what society refers to as a "he-man." In their social life these men are lions, but in the bedroom, they are lambs. The motivations of the male masochist are varied, but often it is simply a case of the man finding the dominant role he is assigned, too much to bear. When this happens, the man relieves his frustration by engaging in a number of masochistic acts with a female sex partner.
Several New York prostitutes have told the story of one of the nation's leading industrialists, a forceful, dynamic leader in the world of business. This man regularly visited several prostitutes who understood his special need. He would pay the girl $250.00 to tie him to a bed, straddle him and urinate on his face. The girl would then hold his penis in one hand and slap it soundly with the other until he had an erection. Then, and only then, would the girl mount the man for a normal act of intercourse.
This case is by no means an exception. We have recently had a rash of ex-prostitutes pen the stories of their lives for various publishers. These books are filled with the masochistic exploits of their former male patrons. A Chicago Madame reported that she maintained two rooms in her "house" specially designed for bondage and flagellation. A San Francisco call girl said that she specialized in spanking and had over 70 regular clients!
So, masochism, which is basically a feminine trait, is also practiced widely by males.
Masochism is not limited to sexual behavior. Think of the many people who continually propel themselves into situations which will bring them mental anguish and suffering. The "everything-happens-to-me" individual is also a masochist, deriving his or her special pleasure out of life through suffering.
Psychologists tell us that in most instances, the masochist has a very powerful subconscious desire to be punished. In our society, children are taught that sex is an evil thing. As a result this philosophy is often deeply ingrained in the personality, and sexual thoughts and actions are repressed with a deep sense of guilt. From this, many people feel that any satisfaction they receive from sex should be punished, and from this tiny seed the true masochist grows. Sex is bad: ergo; I should be punished for the sexual side of my personality.
Each sadist must have a masochist, and bondage must have both. There are cases on record of extreme sadism being practiced on unwilling human beings such as in Nazi Germany during the Hitler regime. Brutal rape on an unwilling victim is not an infrequent occurrence, but these cases of sexual sadism have no bearing on the widespread practice of bondage in this country today. There are thousands of individuals who desire and enjoy punishment, and these are the male and female masochists who make up at least half of the bondage club's memberships.
CHAPTER FOUR
DOMINATION
Domination can best be defined as the exerting of the will of one person on another. To understand bondage we must understand domination, for this is the basic element in any bondage relationship or behavior pattern.
The urge to dominate has been present in the majority of human beings since the beginning of mankind. Closely related are the feelings of superiority and inferiority. In order to feed a very basic psychological need, man must feel superior to something. And, in order to calm any anxieties created by an obvious lack of perfection along with the multitude of human failings, man must create a being or beings superior to himself.
At first man was content to consider animals as his inferiors. Animals were made dependent on man, turned into beasts of burden or domestic pets, and slaughtered for man's consumption. Scientists long perpetrated the myth that what separated man from the animal was the ability to reason, and still claim this, despite the mounting evidence that certain animals do possess the ability to reason not as refined as man's, but the ability nonetheless.
Then man created a social system with class or caste distinctions, which enabled him to have his inferiors and superiors among his fellow men. Man found that it was all right for other men to spit on him and order him about as long as he himself had someone to do the same to. Life on the bottom rung of the ladder could be quite miserable, however, if there was no one below to be dominated.
Kings, queens and all manner of royalty were created, and domination became a matter of birth. But man made allowances and designed a system where he could win domination over others by acquiring: (1) an education, (2) a performing skill, (3) success in business or enterprise, or through the sheer power of personality.
The female of the human species was traditionally assigned a secondary role in society and served as an outlet for man's desire to dominate.
God, religion, the Supreme Being, the Universal Law, and belief in the supernatural became the superior of man, when no substitute could be found.
As man became more intelligent and his ability to reason became more refined, his prejudice progressed. Now he singled out whole races or religious orders of his fellow man to act as his inferior. Members of the Jewish religion were persecuted for centuries, becoming whipping boys in their fellow man's quest for superiority. The Negro and the Oriental were singled out as inferiors by the Caucasians because of their color. In a fanaticism unequaled in history, the Nazi's tried to eliminate the Jews from the face of the earth.
The urge to dominate is a basic part of our everyday life. Each human being has a desire to feel superior to another human being. To what end each of us pursues this desire dictates whether our behavior pattern is normal or abnormal. Mild forms of domination are perfectly acceptable in society. In fact, our very social structure is built on domination.
It is small wonder, then, that this basic drive is carried over into man's sexual behavior. The need to dominate is no less strong in sex than it is in life. If anything, the desire to dominate is stronger in sexual behavior than in any other social function of man.
It is perhaps easy to understand how the sadist performs his or her sexual domination, but what about the masochist? Actually, the masochist dominates the sadist in his or her own way, for without the masochist the sadist is incapable of true expression, other than in criminal acts for which he or she will surely be punished.
Domination, like sadism and masochism, is a necessary ingredient for bondage; and bondage, like domination, can be either physical, mental, or both. Generally, people think of bondage as a practice involving ropes, leather straps and chains, but countless adults participate in the sexual master-slave relationship without any form of physical binding. In these relationships, the individual is mentally bound to his or her sexual master; the psychological bonds being equally as strong as steel chains. If the slave disobeys the master, discipline is generally used to enforce the slavery.
Ralph N., a minor executive at one of the independent studios in Hollywood, has been married and divorced four times in a span of three years. In his last divorce action, Ralph's wife charged him with mental cruelty and a number of counts of adultery. In each divorce Ralph was charged with cruelty by an angry wife, but his last wife unleashed her story to a Los Angeles newspaper. She contended that Ralph forced her to remain nude in their home, made her perform "unnatural" sex acts on him and on his business associates, forbid her to leave the house except to go grocery shopping once a week, and brought home young starlets and performed sex acts with them in front of her. Ralph did not contest the divorce nor answer his wife's charges.
The authors became acquainted with Ralph in 1965 and conducted several interviews with him and his wife, prior to the divorce and subsequent publicity. Ralph's case is an interesting study in domination.
Born in Santa Barbara, California, Ralph was raised in a wealthy family. He had four older sisters, all of whom were honor students and above average in achievements. In many instances the youngest child, and the only male child, receives special treatment and an honored place in the family. This was not so in Ralph's case. He was born late in his parent's life, and always thought of as a mistake. There were six years between Ralph and his closest sister, and almost twelve years between he and the eldest. His father died when Ralph was seven, leaving the young boy as the only male in a house of five women. Less than six months later, his uncle died and Ralph's aunt brought her two daughters and moved in with Ralph's family. His description of these early years is revealing in light of his future development.
"Some guys think that living with eight women would be the biggest blast of all times," he said, "but it was no damned bowl of cherries for me I don't think any of my damned sisters were cherries since they were thirteen anyway."
"They all acted like I was some sort of bad news. Most kids have one or two parents to boss them around. Not me; I had five women who just loved to tell me what to do. And when my aunt and her two monsters came to live with us, it was eight. If there was any damned chore to be done no matter what kind it would be 'Ralphie, do this or do that!' They'd even argue among themselves what I should wear, or how long I should be allowed to play outside."
"When the family was going anywhere a movie, a drive, or even a picnic someone would say, 'We've got to get a sitter for Ralph, we simply can't take him with us!"
"Sounds like the Cinderella scene in reverse, doesn't it? In many ways, it was. Maybe we ought to do a movie of it, but who in the hell would believe it?"
"I'm sure a whole lot of this was in my mind, but it seemed like my sisters would go out of their way to bug me. When I was ten, I had a bellyful of it and flipped my lid. I don't remember what started it, but I just flipped. I went around the house looking for each of my sisters. When I found one, I hauled off and smashed her in the face with all my might. I got my oldest sister last. She was climbing out of the shower when I walked into the bathroom. She was naked, and that was the first time I had ever seen her like that. She started yelling at me, and I just walked over and popped her one."
"I ran like hell because she was twice as big and twice as strong as I was, but she caught me. She didn't wrap a towel around her or anything. The other girls heard all the running and came upstairs. They were all madder than hell at me, and they wanted to haul me downstairs to Mom and tell her everything My oldest sister told them she had a better idea. She twisted my arm behind my back and forced me down the hall to my room. They all went in and locked the door. Then my oldest sister held my arms behind my back while each of the others walked up and hit me as hard as they could in the face. I got a bloody nose on the second punch they hit me as hard as they could and I went into a rage. I broke loose from my sister for a moment and spun around. I reached up and pinched her breast as hard as I could. She screamed bloody murder, and two of the girls grabbed me and held me from behind. My oldest sister had tears in her eyes when she walked up to me. She said, "Ralphie, I'm going to teach you a lesson you'll long remember!' Then she knead me as hard as she could in the groin. I lost my breath and started to double up, but she held me up and did it again, harder. Then she slapped me backhanded across the face."
"She told me that was just a sample of what I would get if I ever laid a hand on one of them again. Then she told my sisters to let me go, and they all left the room. I'm not too sure what happened for a while. I doubled up on the floor and rolled around moaning for a while. Then I ran into the bathroom and threw up. I didn't stop hurting for two days! Can you imagine a guy's sisters doing that to him?"
"From that point on, life around the house went downhill. I joined the army when I was sixteen a friend got me a phony birth certificate down in Tijuana and I haven't been back since."
Ralph had one homosexual contact in the army, but quickly decided that his personality was not sexually inverted.
"Man, that was creepy!" he continued. "There was this big hairy guy who was as queer as they come. He kept talking queer stuff to me all the time. He had a thing about performing fellatio on me, and so I finally let him. It was a pretty icky scene, I can tell you, and one-time-no-revenge was all I could go."
When Ralph returned to Hollywood, he went to work in the production end of the motion picture business. He dated frequently with career girls and young starlets.
"The gals didn't mean a damned thing to me," he said. "But it was good for the image to be seen out with some curvy mouse."
Ralph's first sexual experience took place in the Orient while he was in the service. He reports that he visited a "house" with some of the men from his outfit. He said that he was disappointed with his introduction to sex, and that he only went to a "house" with the men on one other occasion.
"I wiped out with a WAC," he said. "We got pretty friendly when I was in the hospital not from some wound for bravery, but from tripping over a garbage pail and we dated once after I was released. She wanted to shack, but she wanted me to whisper sweet nothings in her ear and pet her until she purred, you know the type. Well, I just couldn't do it. That phony crap makes me sick. I'd have liked to sack her, though, because she had a good figure."
Ralph said that the majority of his sex experiences with the girls he dated in Hollywood were disappointing. He states that he seldom reached a climax, and that "it was hardly worth all the effort."
He then met a girl he liked.
"She let me slap her around a lot, and that excited the hell out of me. We'd make love after I slapped her and I usually made the grade with her."
They were married a few months after they met, and divorced six months later. Ralph said that she changed completely after they were married, and walked out on him when he slapped her one night. She returned the next day and they tried to make the marriage work. After walking out four times, Ralph's wife sued him for divorce.
"She took me to the cleaners," he said, "but I wised up quick. The next time I got married, I had my bride sign a pre-marital agreement before we went to the justice of the peace."
The story of Ralph's next two marriages is virtually a re-run of his first. In each instance Ralph found a girl he felt he could dominate, married her, and soon learned that she would not put up with his behavior.
"After my third wife, I was pretty sour on women and marriage. That's when I met Louise."
Louise came to Hollywood for a screen test, had one minor part in a western and found she didn't have what was required for stardom. She went to work in the office at the studio and began dating Ralph.
"She'd been the route," Ralph said. "She'd had it on the couch, the floor and even the desk in every casting director's office in town. She was disgusted with herself and with Hollywood."
Louise was a true masochist. She blamed her failure on her body, and went to great lengths to abuse herself. Louise was very close to being an alcoholic when she was only twenty-one. When they began dating Ralph was abusive to her, and she immediately fell in love with him. Louise made Ralph order her about and begged him to humiliate her in every way he could. On several occasions, Louise insulted Ralph until he beat her. Afterward, they had sexual relations. She pleaded with Ralph to make her his sexual slave, and they decided to get married.
Louise gives us a description of their married life.
"At the beginning it was fun," she said. "We pretended that Ralph was the master and that I was the slave. He made me stay in the house all the time, and I wasn't allowed to wear any clothes. I wasn't allowed to eat my meals with him. I'd eat first, then I had to sit on the floor and perform fellatio on him while he ate. That was three times a day. If I stimulated him, we'd have intercourse after he was finished eating. I had to take showers with him and wash him all over. I did everything you can imagine for him and to him. If I didn't do what he told me to, he'd take one of his belts and beat me. I didn't even mind that I sort of liked it."
"When Ralph got this idea that he wanted to try wife-swapping, he didn't even tell me. He just invited a couple over for dinner. I wasn't even allowed to wear any clothes then. He let me eat with them, but right after dinner he told me to get on my knees and perform fellatio on the other man present. The man's wife and Ralph just sat there and watched me do it. Then the man wanted to commit anal intercourse, so Ralph told me to get up and stretch out on the couch face down." He and the man's wife left and went into the bedroom.
"Ralph would bring some strange couple home every two or three weeks. He also brought men from the office home. I'd be naked and they would just sit in the living room having a cocktail. I had to wait on them. If Ralph liked the man, he'd make me perform fellatio on the man. They'd just go right on talking about business while I did it!"
Ralph said that he was extremely happy in his marriage. He claimed that he reached sexual satisfaction for the first time in his relationship with Louise. The marriage came to an end when Ralph began bringing young starlets home and forcing Louise to watch him have sexual intercourse with them. He also forced her to submit to, and perform, homosexual acts with the girls.
"That's what blew the scene," he said. "Louise just wasn't gay, and she hated that. I didn't have enough sense to stop it. The first time it happened, the starlet was a double-gaited little blonde. She wanted to go down on Louise and I made Louise let her. The next day we had one hell of a beef about that. I brought another one home about a week later and made Louise perform cunnilingus. She did it, but the next day Wow! She even slapped me and ran out when I tried to discipline her. From there on it was finishville."
When the story of Ralph's domestic life hit the papers, he was dismissed from his position at the studio. He moved East and went to work for a TV producer.
Ralph's case illustrates a form of sexual bondage without the use of any physical bonds. Ralph developed a dislike for women from his experiences at home. Undoubtedly a number of factors were present in the build up to the incident where Ralph went through the house hitting his sisters in the face. He states that he "flipped his lid," which indicates that he lost all control during that period when he sought a release for his pent up frustrations. His sisters' retaliation was more than he could take. His first act was to attack his naked sister and try to hurt her sexual organ. This was certainly a clear evidence of his sexual sadism, and his sister's retaliation cemented his resolve for sexual cruelty to women. By inflicting pain on his sex organs, his sister launched Ralph on a career of overt hatred for females. This was already present in his mind, but her act probably firmed his resolve to humiliate women in every way possible. Her act also was more than likely responsible for Ralph's subconscious desire to humiliate women sexually.
Ralph found it impossible to enter into any meaningful relationship with his first three wives. When they recognized his true personality, they left him.
Louise, however, appeared to be the perfect mate for Ralph. She wanted to be dominated, "enjoyed" being the sexual slave, wanted to be humiliated and took pleasure in being disciplined. By forcing her to perform sex acts on others, Ralph was humiliating Louise. He seemed to go out of his way to humiliate her by bringing home other woman and forcing his wife to watch him make love to them.
There seems little doubt that Ralph's every act toward women was gauged at getting even for the treatment he had received from his sisters. He said that he "wiped out" or failed in an attempt to seduce a WAC, and states that this was because he refused to play the standard courting game. His experiences with pros-titues were disappointing to him, and this is somewhat surprising in that most men of Ralph's character enjoy hiring prostitutes, because they can order them to perform certain acts and because by paying them they are actually humiliating them. It is possible that Ralph felt that he was being humiliated by having to pay for the sexual charms of a woman, which could explain his behavior with prostitutes.
Early this year we learned that Ralph had formed a bondage club in New York. His interest in bondage began when he was invited as a guest to a meeting of another club. Taken with the practice, Ralph immediately formed a club of his own and persuaded a number of married couples and single girls to join. He throws lavish parties once a week, and absorbs all the cost on his own.
We have learned that the step from simple domination to bondage is a short one for many individuals. Actually, the two practices go hand in hand, and the step between them is one of progression.
Some forms of domination can be very subtle. We interviewed one woman who assumes the passive role in the sex act with her husband, but at the same time completely dominates him. In this particular case, the wife constantly made her husband beg for sex. She would give in only after he had made her a promise to do something for her; a new dress, a movie, a new washing machine, etc.
In the sex act itself, the husband was the active partner, his wife submitting to whatever he wished to do to her. He was only allowed these liberties, however, after he had bargained for sex. He forced her to engage in analingus, fellatio, intercourse and anal intercourse. In every act he was the aggressor and she the sexual slave. The wife stated that she reached a climax on "every third or fourth" sexual contact with her husband. The husband, however, reached one or more climaxes on each contact.
In this case the obvious sexual domination is with the husband over the wife. The less obvious, or subtle, domination is on the wife's part, in that she will consent to the sexual contact, only after her husband has served her in some other fashion.
An amazing sidelight to domination is that the individual who dominates in the family, social and business life often seeks the submissive role in a sexual contact. This reversal of roles is contradictory, but relatively easy to understand when it is recognized that in the dominant roles the person is assuming the superior character, which results in an offsetting need for at least one submissive or inferior role.
Female domination has recently received a great deal of publicity, and there is an amazing movement in this direction today. In our book, A STUDY OF FEMALE DOMINATION, we outlined the basic causes for this movement and predicted that it will gain momentum in the years ahead. Briefly, the underlying motivation in female domination is a rebellion against the traditional secondary role society has assigned women. In striving for equality some women are taking the step beyond and asserting superiority, and sexual domination may become the battlefield for the much heralded "battle of the sexes."
With domination, sadism and masochism we have the three basic ingredients of bondage. Each of these elements is present in every bondage relationship. In the succeeding chapters, we will examine some of the various blossoms which grow on this tree.
CHAPTER FIVE
SPANKING
Kansas City, Missouri, is the home of one of the largest bondage clubs in the United States. Called "Naughty," this club operates very secretly and is devoted to members whose interests center around spanking. Naughty has 186 active members in the Greater Kansas City area, and over I,000 associate members in other parts of the country. On the local level, the club holds regular meetings for members and helps schedule out-of-town jaunts for those interested in a weekend sex spree. Local members must be recommended and are thoroughly screened before they are allowed to attend any of the club meetings. These meetings are held in one of three different locations (which we have been requested not to disclose), and everything is conducted with enough secrecy to make the CIA ashamed of its elaborate spy ruses.
Nationally, Naughty operates under a different name, as a mail order house based in Canada supplying motion pictures, books, magazines, photos and literature dealing with bondage and spanking as a means of sexual stimulation and gratification. The wholly owned Canadian business had a gross of close to $90,000.00 in 1966. Once a customer purchases three or more items from the mail order company, he or she is sent an associate membership card in Naughty. In December, 1966, there were over I,000 associate members.
Naughty is the brainchild of three married couples in Kansas City. The club was formed in 1963, and is so large today, the owners are considering opening branch clubs in other major cities. Its success story is built around bondage and spanking as a form of sexual behavior. The club's local activities are briefly summed up in this exclusive statement by one of its members:
"We have regular bi-monthly meetings. Usually, fifty or sixty members show up, but this is because everything is handled so secretly. The announcement of the meeting isn't made until the day the meeting will be held, and then everybody is called on the phone. Naturally there are some conflicts with other plans, but this is the only safe way to handle it."
"Absolutely no sex is allowed at the meeting. For one thing there are too many members present; and, if we allowed anything like that, it would place the club in jeopardy."
"Each member pays two dollars to attend, and cocktails are served all through the meeting. The first hour might be called a seminar on sex. We discuss sexual freedom, the sexual revolution, bondage, sex technique and a number of related subjects. The second hour is taken up with movies, usually involving spanking and sex. Nudist films are also shown, but these are only used as fillers between spanking movies. Many of these movies are made here in the Kansas City area, and some of the members appear in them."
"Immediately after the movies, we all break to private parties. Most of these are held in private homes and have from six to ten people. These are never announced, but invitations are made and accepted during the meeting. If you go to a meeting, you're sure to be invited to a party afterwards."
According to the owners, the two dollar charge for the party barely covers the cost of the drinks and the rental of the location. The profit made by the club on the local membership comes from the sponsored weekend trips and the annual membership fee of $25.00.
A description of the activity which takes place at the private parties after the meeting will appear later in this chapter. First, let's examine the practice of spanking, which is the most popular form of sexual behavior in the bondage set.
Spanking is a mild form of flagellation, and is often used as a form of discipline in cases of sexual domination. There can be no doubt that spanking is a means of punishment, and in its milder forms is used as a sexual stimulant. The psychology of spanking begins in the childhood of the individual, and the punishment is instilled through the parent-child relationship.
Eleanor S., a Denver bookkeeper, belongs to two bondage clubs and travels extensively to meet men and couples who will spank her and then engage in sexual contact with her. Eleanor states that she has to be spanked before having sexual intercourse in order to be stimulated enough to effect orgasm. Eleanor is a twenty-seven year-old widow, and lives alone. Her husband was killed in an airplane crash several years ago.
Born and raised in El Paso, Texas, Eleanor was one of six children. Her father was a ranch-hand, and the family was very poor. Here is Eleanor's description of her life, edited only where the material was not relevant or language not suitable for print:
"We lived in a two room shack near the base of the mountains outside El Paso. Dad was a cowboy, and somewhat of a drunk. Mom was Mexican; she met Dad when he came to Mexico one time to try and smuggle some horses across the border. They had a grand romance and really loved each other."
"I had three brothers and two sisters, and I was exactly in the middle; my two oldest brothers were twins. I have mixed emotions about my childhood. When I lived it, it was awful! We were poor and dirty, had no clothes, and ate rice and beans all the time. I hated it, and the only dream I had was getting away. Now, I look back with some fond memories. It's true we had nothing, but we had very few worries and fears. The burdens of everyday life were light compared to those in this world."
"Sex was a pretty open subject around the house. It was so crowded Mom and Dad had to do it in front of us. We were told that we could watch, but we weren't allowed to say anything. As kids, it quickly dimmed and became uninteresting to us. There were no secrets between my sisters and brothers. We all saw each other naked, and sometimes we'd see the boys masturbate. The girls tried to be a little more secretive about that, but it was pretty much common knowledge. Our mother taught us that we should never engage in incest with each other, but I guess we all played with each other once in a while. There wasn't any intercourse, but we girls would masturbate the boys, and they would play with us and penetrate us with their fingers."
"My mother caught my oldest brother doing that to me, and when Dad came home, we really got it! He took my brother outside and whipped him, and then he gave me quite a spanking...."
"School was a pain; we were poor country kids and everybody made fun of us. We were half Mexican, and in Texas that makes you less than a human being ... Our school wasn't in El Paso, and it was a real country school, which adds up to a big nothing! The twins studied hard and each earned scholarships for the University of Arizona."
"The first time I went to El Paso, I was seventeen. I was a lousy student, but we made a field trip to El Paso for a visit to the medical center. Well, a young girl's impressions of her first big city are probably tiresome, but I must have stood there with my mouth open. I couldn't get over how people dressed so nice, and how pretty the building and gardens were. It was like being in another world! When we climbed in the bus to go back home that night, I had my mind made up that I was going to run away and live in a big city...."
"I started hitting all the ranches for odd jobs, and in a few months I had saved up $40.00, which was a large fortune in my mind. Then I wrote a long note to Mom one night and left the next morning."
"That $40.00 lasted less than three days. I bought a cheap dress and shoes, rented a room in an old hotel, ate a giant meal at a restaurant and I was broke. I had tried to find a job, but that wasn't as easy as it sounds...."
"I met Larry on a street corner. I was stepping off the curb and he almost hit me with his car. He stopped and asked if he could take me anywhere. I knew it was a pick-up, but I was desperate ... He had me tell him the story of my life, and when I was finished, he said that he would arrange to take care of me. He was pretty blunt about it. He said that he would put me up in an apartment, buy me some clothes, and give me some spending money. My part of the deal was to do anything he wanted me to do, and he came right out and mentioned sex...."
"It took me about ten seconds to make up my mind. I wasn't going home, that was for sure; and Larry was the best and only offer I had. He was good looking, and I figured that it was a fair offer all the way around."
"It worked out well for a while. We didn't lose any time; Larry helped me search for an apartment that same afternoon, and took me shopping for all the little things you need. That night he introduced me to sex ... He taught me everything and I do mean everything about sex during the next few weeks. Sometimes we'd stay in bed all day just [copulating]. "
"He even helped me find a part time job, so that I could have a little income of my own."
"About five months later, the inevitable happened, Larry's wife showed up at the apartment! I had no idea that he was married! He told me that he lived at home, and that his parents were very strict. I was pretty damned innocent, or I would have suspected that he was married, but it just never crossed my mind."
"I was getting out of bed, when she showed up. She didn't ring, but just walked in. She said that she had found Larry's key to the apartment and taken it. I didn't even have time to put a robe on, and felt silly standing there naked. She told me who she was, and I didn't believe her. She opened her purse and showed me her driver's license and some photos of Larry and their two children. I could have died right then."
"She became hysterical and started crying and screaming. She said that I had ruined her life, and that I was responsible for taking her children's father away. She said some terrible things, and then she started hitting me. I was still naked and she reached out and hit my breasts as hard as she could. Then she pushed me down and started striking hard blows on my [vagina]. I tried to protect myself, but she hurt me hurt me bad."
"I grabbed a shoe and started hitting her in the stomach with the heel. That must have hurt, because she suddenly straightened up, looked at me, gave me a hard kick between the legs, spit on me and turned and walked out."
"She had really hurt me down there; I bled quite a bit and was scared that there was some permanent damage. Then, all I could do was hate. I hated her for what she had done to me, and I hated myself for what I had done to her and her family. She had screamed, 'Look at that filthy tit!' when she hit my breast; and she said some worse things, when she hit me in the [vagina]. "
"That afternoon I got the shock of my life! It came over the radio that she had gone home, taken Larry's pistol and shot herself. She died before they could get her to the hospital. The next morning the newspapers were filled with the story, and they printed a note she had left. It said that 'Larry and his Mexican whore-slut could take care of the children.' I sat in my room and cried all day. Larry didn't call or come over, which was good because I would have done something I'd have been sorry for, if I had seen him that day."
"I had about $300.00 saved up, and I took off on the first bus I could get. I wasn't headed anywhere; just out of El Paso."
"I've never gotten over that. As I described it just now, I lived every minute of it over. It was awful!"
"The bus I caught was headed for Denver, so I went to Denver. I took an apartment and started looking for a job. Luck was with me, because an insurance company hired me the first day. I started as just a file clerk, but they let me work nights to learn bookkeeping so that I could replace a girl who was being transferred the following year."
"Sexually, I was washed out. I still hated myself, and all Larry's wife had said about my body kept ringing in my ears. I didn't even date for about five or six months. When I did, there was no sex unless I really cared for the man and knew positively that he was single. When I did sleep with a man, there was nothing in it for me. I wasn't repulsed, but I didn't become excited or have a climax. I was beginning to worry about that."
"Then Bob came into my life ... We met at a party and started dating right away. I slept with Bob on our first date, and for the first time I became excited. I wasn't able to reach a climax, but at least I responded. Bob was wealthy, and he had patience. He courted me in the grand manner and swept me off my feet. I didn't tell him that I couldn't reach a climax, thinking that it would work itself out and it did."
"We were married and bought a home. I guess that was the first real security I had ever had. I was so much in love with him I felt like I was going to burst! Bob wanted children, but we found out that I was sterile. He took it in his stride, and we talked about adopting some."
"My sex problem worked itself out in a funny way. Bob and I used to kid around a lot. We'd play jokes on each other and chase each other around the house. I guess all young married couples do the same thing. Bob hated to get up in the morning, and I was always an early riser. One morning I brought a glass of ice water into the bedroom and poured it all over him. He was furious. He jumped up and caught me before I could even get out of the bedroom. I was naked and he pulled me down on his lap and started spanking me. In a way he was mad, but he was mostly just kidding. Suddenly, I realized that a funny thing was happening. I was excited sexually. While he was spanking me, I reached down in his lap and took hold of his [penis]. It was as hard as a rock, but I didn't know if it was because he was excited or hadn't been to the bathroom yet."
"It didn't make any difference to me! I was as hot as I had ever been, and I had to have it then! I struggled with him and pushed him down on the bed. Then I climbed on top of him, and we both acted like a couple of wild people! I reached an orgasm, but Bob wouldn't let me stop. He put his hands on my waist and made me keep going. I reached two more orgasms, one right after the other. Bob had two himself, and that was a record for the length of time we were at it!"
"Those were the first orgasms I had experienced with Bob. Oh, man, was I ever delirious! You just can't imagine."
"That night we tried it the normal way, and nothing happened for me. Bob wanted to know what was the matter. I had thought about it all day. Spanking was one thing Larry and I had never done. Maybe that was why it excited me so. Anyway, I told Bob to try spanking me. He did, and this time I became even more excited than the first. We had quite a night of it, and Bob admitted that spanking excited him. He was so happy that I had finally found a key to unlock the door."
"Two weeks later I lost Bob. He was flying in a small craft with a good friend and they crashed ... That was the unhappiest day of my life...."
"Adjustment without Bob was slow and painful. I sold the house and went back to work. I didn't need the money, but I had to have something to do to occupy my time. I really wasn't worth a damn to anyone, including myself, for a year after Bob died."
"After a while I started dating, but it was the same old story ... Then I heard about a bondage club here. A girl friend at the office told me all about it. She said that she had gone to one of the parties. She didn't know what it was, and when they stripped her and tied her up, she kicked up a ruckus. They spanked her and two of the men made love to her before they let her go. She was telling how awful it all was, but just listening to it excited me. I didn't let on that I was interested, but I got the name of her friend who was a member. He worked for the company and I set out to date him."
"It was pretty easy, he had been looking at me with those quick little glances a girl recognizes, as measurements for bed, for some time. We went out together and he asked me a lot of questions about my sex life. I told him that I liked to be spanked, and he immediately asked to join him at a party with some friends of his. He didn't tell me it was a club, but I knew that it was the same thing he had taken the other girl to."...." When we arrived there were about five girls and three men there. It was just like a normal cocktail party for a while, but pretty soon everybody let their hair down. The men all took their shirts and ties off, and the girls started stripping down to bras and panties. I'd had just enough to drink, and I followed suit. Then, without any warning, two of the girls grabbed me and held me while one of the men took my bra and panties off. They tied my wrists together and then bound my ankles. The same thing happened to another girl, and they put us on the couch. Then, everyone stripped down and the party got underway."
"One of the men came over and made me lie on his lap. He started spanking me very hard, and I was so excited I couldn't stand it. It hurt, and I struggled, but I couldn't do much the way they had me tied up. He was blistering me, and then he suddenly untied my legs, turned me over and mounted me. It felt so good, I screamed. This man was a real tiger, and he took me three times before he weakened."
"Then my legs were tied together again, and another man put me on his lap. One of the girls sat down next to him and held my head in her lap. She spread her legs and told me to [perform cunnilingus]. I refused, but the man who had me on his lap told me that if I ever wanted to sit down again, I'd better do what she told me. He hit me hard with a ping-pong paddle and she pushed my head down even further. I started kissing her and they made me keep it up until she climaxed. He spanked me all the time I was doing it. I was all excited again, and when she climaxed he untied me and [had vigorous intercourse with] me...."
"I wasn't untied until it was time to go home. It was pretty obvious to me by that time that I had to be mistreated and spanked in order to enjoy sex. I'm not kidding myself. I know that what I do is abnormal, but I enjoy it and it sure beats the hell out of prolonged treatment with some head-shrinker."
We felt it best to present Eleanor's discourse without interruption because it gives great insight into her character. Today Eleanor attends regular meetings of two such clubs in the Denver area, and often travels to other cities and other states to meet people interested in bondage and spanking. She recognizes that her behavior is abnormal, but flatly states that she prefers it to normal behavior which, in her mind, is incapable of giving her sexual satisfaction.
Eleanor's case is rather obvious, but briefly: she accepted Larry because she had an overpowering desire to break away from her home life, found sexual happiness with him, had a traumatic experience with his wife which unsettled her mind and established her future behavior pattern, fell in love with Bob (who was a part of her new life), and suddenly found that the memory of the incident with Larry and his wife was standing in the way of her realizing sexual fulfillment. There are possible incestuous overtones in Eleanor's childhood, but the incident with Larry's wife seems to dominate her adult behavior. The wife shouted invectives at Eleanor and blamed Eleanor's body for ruining her family. It seems obvious that Eleanor had a strong moral sense at this point, and she too blamed her body for the misfortunes that befell Larry's family. Subconsciously, she realized that her relationship with Larry was based on sex, and therefore created a block for her own enjoyment of sex. Her tremendous frustration was released when Bob spanked her. She then felt that she was being punished sexually, and this aroused her.
The spanking became a fixation for Eleanor, and she then created an image of sexual gratification which could only be achieved when she was first stimulated by spanking. Her experience at the bondage club served to heighten this image for her. It is evident that Eleanor's condition is entirely mental. She can and does reach orgasm in the actual sex act, but she does so only when she is sexually stimulated by spanking. This mental block is of her own making, and can probably only be destroyed through psychiatric treatment.
Dr. Roger Blake, in his book, ENCYCLOPEDIA OF ABNORMAL SEX, tells of a man he interviewed who could only be sexually stimulated by spanking his sex partner:
"My biggest thrill," the man related, "takes place when I spank a real sexy and pretty girl just before intercourse. I spank hard, but I don't like to use a belt or whip unless the girl makes me, because I don't want to really hurt them badly."
"Three young women I have known loved for me to spank them. Altogether, I guess I've spanked a dozen or more. I usually have had to persuade them with some call girls I've had to pay them a lot extra to let me spank their bottoms, with other girls it's been a gift or promise of something else special."
This individual is the counterpart of Eleanor, in that his stimulation comes from the active side of spanking.
It will be noted that in the cases thus far, the individuals used spanking solely as a means of sexual stimulation. In a number of cases, the spanking becomes the sex act in itself with the individual or individuals achieving orgasm from the act. This can take place with either the active or passive partner, but in the majority of cases becomes a behavior pattern of the active person.
Mavis L., a Kansas City housewife and a member of Naughty, supplies a description of the average party which takes place after a Naughty meeting. This young lady has requested that we withhold information about her personal background. Suffice it to say, that she and her husband are a very sophisticated couple who enjoy bondage and spanking.
"Well, I suppose that some might call the parties sex-orgies, but none of us think of them as such," she said. "All of the members are sexually sophisticated and interested in all forms of bondage. The parties themselves are just informal get-togethers. We have drinks, snacks, dancing and sex games. Some people have bridge parties, bowling parties, poker parties and even ping-pong parties. Ours are simply sex parties. At almost every party people talk about sex and make sick little jokes, or half serious passes. At our parties we don't talk sex, we do it."
"Most of us are devoted to spanking, and that's the main activity at any of these parties. After everybody has a drink or two, we all get undressed. Then certain ones volunteer to be tied up, and the rest do it. You can be tied to a chair or a bed, or even to a door. Sometimes just your hands are tied. Once you're tied up, the rest can do what they want to you. You get spanked, but there are some pretty unique ways to be spanked."
"I remember at this one party that they tied a man and a woman together. The man had to lie down on the bed and the woman got him excited and then climbed on top of him and mounted him. She then leaned forward and placed her breasts against his chest. The others tied their arms together in a way that they couldn't separate their upper bodies. Then they tied her ankles to his knees so that they couldn't separate there either. The woman had to remain still, but the man was told to [copulate] her by moving his hips. When he did this, two people began spanking her bottom, one on each cheek. After a while, she couldn't take it any more and she went wild, almost grinding the man out of his mind with her excitement.
"There are some people who don't engage in [copulation] at all. Jack gets his kicks just from spanking a girl. He makes the girl lie on his lap and he tucks his [penis] under her tummy. Then he spanks the girl until he reaches a climax. I've seen Jack at a dozen parties, but I've never seen him engaged in intercourse There are others like that. Some of the girls get their kicks when they're being spanked They'll go the route with a man, but just to satisfy him. They only have their climaxes while being spanked."
"The parties are not wild, nobody gets drunk, there's no rowdiness and if someone gets hurt it is strictly because he or she wanted to get hurt. I think that's terribly important A lot of people think that we go around looking for people to tie up, violate and whip. That's ridiculous! The people who come to our parties know what they want, and nobody will do anything to you that you don't want done. Oh sure, we make noises like we are being outraged or tortured, but that's just part of the game."
In her description of Jack, Mavis has supplied an interesting illustration of the individual who makes the spanking act a sexual end in itself.
The psychological make-up involved in cases of this nature is generally that the individual feels sex is evil and is punishing others for arousing sexual images. He or she will seldom derive any pleasure, or even engage in the normal sex act. The sexual release comes from the act of punishing a sexual image. People of this disposition can be very dangerous; for it is often this same characteristic which leads to necrosadism (lust murder). Homosexual traits are also present in this personality, with the person ridding the world of impurity by punishing members of the opposite sex.
The least understood facet of spanking is that the people who engage in this sexual perversion sincerely believe in what they are doing, and actually do become sexually aroused from the act.
The person who---likes to spank others receives a very real form of sexual excitement from the act, and sincerely believes that his sex partner receives the same stimulation. It is extremely difficult to convince a spanker that the person he or she spanks does not become sexually excited. The same holds true of the individual who enjoys being spanked. He or she receives a very real stimulation from the act, and feels that the person spanking him or her is similarly excited.
Many psychologists believe that spanking as a form of sexual behavior is directly linked to parental spankings during childhood. This is not to be interpreted to mean that any child who receives a spanking in youth will become a person devoted to bondage or spanking as an adult. This condition can only be developed with the assistance of a number of emotional factors, but the childhood spankings do have an effect on the adult behavior pattern in many sexual perversions.
CHAPTER SIX
WHIPPING
Flagellation ranges from spanking to whipping, and one is merely an extension of the other. Whereas spanking seldom, if ever, leaves serious bruises or lacerations of the skin, whipping often results in hospitalization. The other major difference between the two practices is that spanking is often accomplished without the use of bondage, but whipping almost always requires the victim to be bound in some manner. The reason for this is that the pain is so great the victim might well try to escape.
The two practices, in most other respects, are alike. Both are definite expressions of sexual sadism, and both are considered abnormal behavior. One can readily see that whipping is simply one step beyond spanking, for both the active and passive partner. The process, motivation, and behavior patterns are similar, and the individuals react to much the same stimuli. A majority of today's psychologists feel that the spanker and the whipper are one in the same personality; but the spanker is in better control of his or her emotions and able to repress the stronger sadistic side of the personality, and contain this within the framework of the milder practice of spanking.
We are often asked, "Does this type of thing really go on?" We can answer most affirmatively that it does. There is ample evidence that whipping is practiced by a number of people as a form of sexual behavior. As opposed to spanking, whipping does not enjoy widespread popularity. In the Kansas City club, Naughty, for example, there are "Less than a dozen" people who engage in whipping. This would account for less than ten per cent of the members. In surveying other bondage clubs, we learned that a ten per cent figure would be high. Many bondage clubs reported that none of their members engaged in whipping. In almost every instance, the entire memberships of these clubs reportedly engaged in spanking at one time or another.
Our estimate, and this is strictly an educated guess, is that there are between 5,000 and 7,500 people in the United States who actively engage in whipping. The key words here are "actively engage." Many more read about the practice, dream about it and talk about it, but few actually engage.
One bondage group in Boston, with eight active members, practices flagellation on a relatively regular basis. Pat and Phyllis G., whose case was discussed in Chapter Three, attended one of the sex parties this group held. Phyllis was tied to a wall and whipped. Although she claimed that she enjoyed the experience, Pat refused to let her attend any more parties with this particular group and decided that they would limit their activities to simple bondage and spanking. His description of the party gives us some insight into the activities of these groups:
"These cats were real weirdoes kinky type people," he said. "The women I think that there were three others besides Phyllis all dressed in real severe clothes and wore kooky make-up. They had long straight hair, and the effect was something out of a Charles Addams cartoon. The men were the same. One guy had a little pointed beard that made him look like a devil from some flea-bitten opera company."
"We'd heard about them from some friends in another bondage group, and we called them. They invited us over for an evening of 'ancient sport.' I suppose that's some sort of code language between the weirdies."
"The party was in an old, two-story, brown-stone house. The place belonged to one of the couples in the club, and I'll have to admit that it was pretty nicely done inside. We sat in the living room and talked. Would you believe they never offered us a drink? Staring at what looked like the rejects from a bad day of casting for the Addams Family TV show, I needed a drink in the worst way. I even asked for one, but was politely told that none of them drank because it 'dulls the senses.'"
"They asked all about us, and told us a lot about themselves. After a while they seemed almost human, and I started to relax. Then, Morticia that's a name I gave this one gal said that they had all better go upstairs and get dressed for the party. They told us to relax and enjoy ourselves and that they would be right back. While they were gone I tried to talk Phyllis into getting the hell out of there, but she wanted to go through with it and see what happened."
"When they all came back downstairs, I almost burst out laughing but it wasn't the least bit funny. I've just got to describe what they had on, then I'll get on with what happened in the garage. Morticia was the first to come in. She had some very, very high-heel boots, black leather, that came up to the middle of her thighs. On each arm she had a two inch black armband. Now, that's all she had on. The rest of her was au natural. Oh, yes, she had shaved the pubic hair around her vagina into a sort of shield shape. It was weird! Her husband had on a leather pouch which hung from a leather thong around his waist. It was shaped to fit skin-tight over his penis and testicles. That's all he had on. Another man was wearing a leather apron type thing that just covered his genitals. One of the gals had on a black mask, the type you use for a masked ball or Halloween, and very high-heeled shoes nothing else. The last girl had on a bright-red, satin cape and high heels and that's all."
"These high heel shoes the women were wearing were not the type you see on the street or in stores. The heels must have been six or seven inches tall."
"You can't possibly imagine the effect unless you were there. It was the damnedest thing I had ever seen. What impressed me was that these were all adults, fairly intelligent and responsible people dressed like something out of a weird book. They looked silly, but you could tell that this was all very important to them."
"They took us to the garage, which had been converted to a large playroom. At least, it looked like anything but a garage. They asked if I wanted to participate, and I told them that I would sit this round out. Phyllis was stripped naked and taken over to the wall. Her .hands were tied together above her head, and then she was tied to this ring high up on the wall. She was facing out. The girl with the black mask was tied to another ring near Phyllis."
"I was tied to a chair, so that I wouldn't 'be tempted to interfere.' The rest is like some kind of fiendish nightmare. Some long whips were brought out and they each took turns whipping Phyllis and the other girl. First, the person would walk up to Phyllis or the girl and put their hands on all the sex organs. It's probably better if I describe what good old Morticia did.
She walked up to Phyllis and grabbed her breasts. Then she reached down and took Phyllis's vagina in her hand. All the time she was saying, 'What lovely breasts, what a nice vagina, these are too pretty, my dear, they must be punished.' Those probably aren't the exact words, but it was something like that. Then, she stepped back and let fly with the whip. I could see the ugly red lines on Phyllis's body, and I tried to get up and stop this stupid torture. I couldn't move, and they told me that if I made too much noise, they'd take care of me. The girl with the cape came over and started playing with me. She took my penis out and performed fellatio. When I was erect, she held it and hit it as hard as she could with a small leather strap. That hurt, and I shut up. They had Phyllis tell me that she was enjoying it, and for me to be quiet."
"After a while, they turned the two girls to face the wall. Two of the men got behind them and performed anal intercourse." [At this point, Pat describes how the girl in the boots walked up behind Phyllis and inserted the handle end of a whip in Phyllis's vagina, letting the whip itself trail to the floor. The rest of the evening was spent with this whip in that position. It fell out several times, but Morticia put it back.]
"Phyllis had red streaks all across her body, and she was bleeding on several places on her back. Finally they untied both of us and I took her upstairs. Morticia came with us and gave me some salve to put on her body. Just as we were leaving the garage, one of the men was tied up in Phyllis's place."
"The garage must have been soundproofed because the man was screaming as they whipped him, but when we got back in the house we couldn't hear a thing."
"It was late, but Phyllis was in pretty bad condition, so I took her to a doctor I had heard about. He did a lot of abortions and had the reputation of not asking any questions and keeping his mouth shut."
Phyllis's body did not completely heal for almost two months. Today she still carries two or three small scars from where the whip cut deeply into her skin. She told Pat that she had enjoyed the experience and was willing to go back. Pat, however, set his foot down and convinced her that she could be seriously injured in sessions like that.
No understanding of the personalities involved in this group can be attempted, inasmuch as we have only Pat's brief description of the party itself and no information on the background of any of the participants. Pat's description of the woman he called "Morticia" provides some evidence that this individual was a latent homosexual and a necrosadist. The description of the attire used by the club members leads one to believe that the whipping incident is some part of a ritual, where all of the participants must dress for a certain ceremony. Pat's description lacks the answers to some important questions, such as: Were the participants sexually excited during all of this, and did they reach orgasms while the whipping was in progress? From the nature of the party we must assume that these two elements played a major role in the activities. Phyllis did state that she reached an orgasm when one of the men was performing anal intercourse on her. This is understandable in light of her psychological condition, which we outlined in Chapter Three.
We have used this case history, inasmuch, as it is one of the few eye witness accounts of a whipping incident at a bondage club at our disposal. Cases of this nature are relatively rare, and those who participate seldom wish to talk about their activity. These individuals are seriously disturbed and generally anti-social. Society considers them dangerous, and laws relative to their behavior are usually strict. In Mexico, for instance, during 1965, a group of flagellists were arrested. Evidence was presented which indicated that this group had lured two young girls to an abandoned house, whipped and brutally raped them. The two girls died, and the flagellants were sentenced to life imprisonment.
Three girls in their mid 20's made headlines in Argentina in 1966 for kidnapping and whipping an appliance salesman. The salesman was calling on a large industrial firm when he was overpowered by the three girls in the parking lot. They drove him to a small home in a remote area, stripped him, tied him in the center of a room by running a rope over a beam in the ceiling, whipped and sexually assaulted him. The man was left for dead, but managed to escape with the aid of a cleaning woman who happened by. The authorities found his story too incredible, especially when he recounted the many sex acts the women forced him to perform.
They dismissed the case until a similar incident was reported a few months later. The search is still on for the three Argentine girls who operate their own special Bondage Club.
The United States had its own case in the New Jersey club mentioned in Chapter One. Other private clubs like this exist in San Francisco, Seattle, and Chicago (and there are undoubtedly clubs in other major cities with which the authors are not familiar.)
Flagellation, from spanking to whipping, is symptomatic of serious mental illness, and individuals who find sexual stimulation and gratification from these perverted practices should seek psychiatric assistance. Competent psychologists and psychiatrists can cure this condition and return the individual to a normal behavior pattern.
In the meantime, we must recognize that these practices do exist and that the members of the many bondage clubs from coast to coast are seriously emotionally disturbed. Most of all, we must recognize that they are sincere in their beliefs.
CHAPTER SEVEN
LEATHER
Pat's description of the attire worn by the members of the bondage club in Boston brings up an interesting point. Almost all sexual perversions in one way or another involve fetishism. In flagellation cases, the fetish is often leather. It will be remembered that the women at the whipping party wore "very, very high-heel shoes" and boots. One man wore a leather pouch and another sported a leather apron.
Often these leather items provide sexual stimulation, and even gratification. In a number of interviews with individuals who participate in bondage, we have noted that a high percentage rely heavily on the use of special clothing and objects in their practice. In the majority of cases, leather seems to be the favorite fetish.
Fetishism itself is the practice of directing sexual devotion or preference to one particular part of the body or to some particular object. Fetishism can range from normal behavior to abnormal perversion. Normal fetishism adds interest to sex. Think of how dull life would be if every human being desired his or her mate to have the same type of figure or wear the same type of clothes. "I'm a leg man," or "I'm a T man" are very common expressions of normal fetishism. People come assorted, and have different---likes and dislikes. The face of one particular girl may excite one man, and have absolutely no effect on another man. Some men like long blonde hair, others like short brunettes. If life wasn't this way, we'd be in a fine pickle because every human being would have to be exactly the same. America is almost preoccupied with the female bustline, while other countries take pains to de-emphasize this part of the female anatomy.
When the fetish becomes a sexual end in itself, the behavior pattern becomes abnormal. There are men who steal the shoe from a woman's foot on the street and use it to masturbate with; and women who steal carrots from the supermarket, scrub them and then insert them into the vagina for masturbation. These are the true fetishists, and obviously mentally disturbed individuals. In these cases, the fetish is its own sexual end.
Fetish, which comes from the Portuguese word feitico (meaning charmed), was coined as a term for psychology first in 1888 by Dr. Alfred Binet. The original root of the word was the Latin word facere (to make), and the combination gives us to make charmed. During the 15th and 16th centuries, the Portuguese were impressed with the importance West African natives placed on certain trees, fish, stones, plants, etc. The Portuguese compared this with the use of amulets or talismans and described the objects as feitico.
Primitive people believed that certain objects could make their wishes come true, or served as personal good luck charms. They allowed their minds to endow the article or object with certain magical powers. A rabbit's foot is a modern hangover of this type of fetishism.
In sexual behavior, fetishism is the practice of believing that one particular item, part of the body, or article of clothing is the center of sexual attraction, and the means of sexual gratification. The case of the man who could only reach a sexual climax when he was kissing a woman's foot is an example of fetishism. Often the fetish simply serves to provide sexual stimulation prior to the actual sex act, and this is the type of fetishism most often practiced in sexual deviations, such as bondage.
The House of Milan in Chicago is one of many manufacturers of specialty leather products which often find their way to sexual use. The House of Milan specializes in "custom leather clothing for men and women," and advertises in a number of the "swinging" correspondence club bulletins and magazines. An ad in the May, 1966, REBEL MAGAZINE described a special catalog of leather items which would be sent upon receipt of one dollar at the House of Milan headquarters in Chicago. The authors sent for the catalog and were amazed at the number and type of articles offered. The top of the line were "custom tailored, skin-tight leather garments for both men and women." These suits covered the individual from head to toe, except for the sexual organs which were left open. The material used was "fine, supple leather that's exciting to touch." Other items offered were: leather pouches for males (like that described by Pat in Chapter Six), leather mini-skirts, leather aprons, and a number of soft leather jackets. Several pages were devoted to special boots for women. These had heels beginning at 4 inches and going up to six inches!
The specialty leather business is big and profitable. Two companies specialize in manufacturing whips, and the majority of this merchandise is sold mail order.
Psychologists tell us that each fetish has a special meaning. Fur, for instance, represents pubic hair, and when a person feels sexual stimulation from the touch of fur, it is simply an association of the pubic hair which surrounds the genitals (or sex object). It is generally accepted that leather is a transference for human skin. The feel of leather, to those who are addicted to it as a fetish, represents the feel of human skin.
Perhaps this is best illustrated in the case of a young man we interviewed in 1964. His name was Roland P., and he was an extremely introverted personality. Roland had a number of traumatic experiences in his youth which caused him to withdraw into himself. He was shy, had few friends and feared associations with other human beings. At the same time, Roland had a strong sex urge. He spent hours on street corners, watching pretty girls, but shying away from any contact. Because he had had several serious emotional set-backs with members of his family, Roland feared rejection by other human beings. He built a fortress around him and protected himself against rejection by denying himself any association with others.
Roland frequented motion pictures often. Female movie stars excited him, and he longed for sexual contact with a female. He practiced masturbation often, and dreamed he was making love to beautiful women. One day Roland found a long, black leather glove on the street. It was obviously an elbow-length glove worn by women in the evening. The glove was of the softest leather Roland had ever seen. He dreamed about the woman who lost the glove, and in his mind she was a beautiful young girl. He held the glove in his hand as he masturbated, then began rubbing the leather of the glove against his genital organ. He said that he pretended that the glove was the soft skin on the thigh of a woman he had seen. Soon Roland found that he could not reach a climax in masturbation without the use of the glove. He also found that the touch of leather excited him sexually. Then he began buying special soft leather garments and items, whenever he could.
Roland married when he was twenty-two, and suddenly found that he could not enjoy the sex act with his wife. Seeing her naked excited him, but he was unable to reach a climax in the normal sex act with her. He began sneaking into the bathroom and masturbating immediately after they had completed the sex act.
Roland sought psychiatric help and was cured after three months' treatment. What had happened was that Roland's desire to avoid contact with other human beings made him find a substitute as a love object. He first used the glove as an object that had touched the skin of a woman. Then he began creating the fantasy that the glove represented the soft thighs of a woman. Soon, the glove and other leather items were the sex object. When he married, his wife's thighs were not as sexually stimulating as the leather objects he had used to represent them.
The fact that leather plays a big role in bondage and flagellation is not surprising, for we are dealing with human skin. The flagellant always beats naked bodies, bringing the whip down on bare skin. The whips themselves are almost always made of leather, and the association is obvious. In a whipping incident, leather always remains soft and supple, whereas human skin is lacerated, torn and bruised. In almost every description of a whipping incident, the flagellant first feels the skin of the victim.
The high-heeled boots serve a variety of purposes. Usually the boots are mid-calf, and sometimes mid-thigh, in length. They are tightly laced with heavy leather laces, a form of bondage in itself. By nature, these extreme high-heels are difficult to wear and often painful for the person, which serves the masochistic side of the sadist's personality. Many psychologists feel that the primary function of the extreme heels is to serve the desire to dominate. Height and size have always been associated with domination. The tall person dominates the short person, and the high-heels serve a psychological need for height.
Many men associate having their penis inserted in a woman's vagina when they wear the soft leather pouch to cover their genitals, and this provides a certain amount of sexual stimulation.
Finally, leather has a certain amount of cruelty associated with it. Leather is the tanned skin of an animal which has been killed by man. Many of the ancient torture devices were made of leather, and leather was used as protective wear in war during the dark and middle ages.
All of these things are subconscious connotations, but they do influence the choice of leather by the sadist.
CHAPTER EIGHT
HOMOSEXUALS
Thus far, we have looked at bondage from the heterosexual aspect only. Each bondage club has a percentage of homosexual members, and there are certain bondage clubs devoted entirely to sexually inverted personalities. Domination, bondage, sadomasochism, spanking and flagellation are by no means limited to heterosexual relationships.
Fetishism, which plays a large part in bondage, is basically a homosexual trait. The homosexual, either male or female, is often not conscious of his sexual inversion. This is called latent homosexuality. The sexual inversion is present in the subconscious mind, but for a number of reasons, the conscious mind rejects and represses this side of the personality. When this happens, the individual, unable to be completely involved in or obtain total satisfaction from, a sexual contact with a member of the opposite sex, transfers the sex drive to a sexual object such as a fetish.
We often find in bondage that the passive partner may be denying his or her latent homosexuality by submitting to bondage and allowing a member of the same sex to "force" sexual attentions. Such is the case of Harvey P., of Los Angeles. Harvey is a moderately successful automobile salesman, has been married and divorced twice, and is an active member of a homosexual bondage club.
Harvey was born and raised in Santa Ana, California, not far from the sight of the present Disneyland. Harvey's father and mother were divorced when he was seven, and Harvey lived with his mother in a medium-sized, two bedroom apartment. As a young boy, Harvey enjoyed participating in sports and was popular at school. His mother worked as a secretary to supplement the alimony and child support she received from her ex-husband. Harvey and his mother were very close. She told him that with his father gone, Harvey would have to accept the responsibility of being the man of the house. Harvey took this quite seriously, even insisting that his mother give him the money when they went anywhere, so that he could pay the bill.
Harvey's mother seldom dated, and the two settled down to a relatively normal life. Events conspired to change their entire life when Harvey was thirteen. His mother got into an argument with her employer and was fired. The same week, Harvey's father, two months behind on child support and alimony payments, fled the country and took residence in South America.
"Mom had just bought a new car two months before all of this," Harvey related, "and she used all of her savings for the down payment. She was desperate. She tried to find another job, but didn't have much luck. I remember she used to come home and cry half the night."
Desperate, Harvey's mother took to prostitution. She managed to hide this from her son by explaining that she had found temporary part-time work. Soon, however, she began receiving clients at home and told Harvey that these were men she was dating. Harvey found out what she was doing, but never let her know that he knew.
"Gossip! That's one thing you can't avoid in life, gossip. It was all over the neighborhood, and I heard it. The men used to come by late at night. I'd pretend to be asleep, but I heard. I heard what she did with them. The walls between our bedrooms were like paper. I could hear what they said. The men would tell her to do awful things to them. I heard her sob when they hurt her. I heard the bedsprings creaking. I heard. I heard and I cried."
This lasted for almost two years. Then his mother found a job as a secretary and quit prostitution.
"I was so happy," he continued, "that I wanted to shout! I wanted to tell the world that she was no longer a slave for sex hungry men!"
Harvey states that he did not begin masturbating until he was fifteen.
"I had some 'wet dreams' but I never played with myself. At that age, sex and girls just didn't appeal to me."
His first homosexual contact took place when he was fifteen. Harvey went on a Boy Scout expedition into far northern California. The boys set up a camp at a mountain lake and spent two weeks there. At the camp, he met a boy from a small Oregon town near the Northern California border. This boy's home was less that fifty miles from the campsite, and Harvey went home with the boy for a night.
"I wanted to get an Oregon driver's license. I was too young for a California one, but this boy had it rigged so that I could get an Oregon one and use his address. We got permission from the scoutmaster to spend one night at his house."
During that night, Harvey had his first homosexual contact. He and the boy slept together in a large double bed, and during the night Harvey woke up to find the other boy performing fellatio on him.
"I must have awakened right at the end," Harvey said, "because right after I opened my eyes I felt myself let go. The boy said, 'llmm, you taste good!' I closed my eyes and pretended that I was still asleep, and he didn't bother me any more."
This had a profound effect on Harvey. It was right after this, that he began masturbating. He felt that what the boy had done to him was wrong, but cleared his own conscience by rationalizing that he had done nothing in the contact.and was not in control of himself when it happened.
Harvey met a girl in his second year in college and had his first coital contact. Six weeks later the girl announced to Harvey that she was pregnant.
"It put me in a real bind. I didn't know what to do. In the first place, I really doubted that the baby was mine. I had slept with her three times, but I never reached a climax. Also, she had somewhat of a reputation at school.
I still had to face the possibility that it was my fault. We talked about it until we were blue in the face, and finally decided that the best thing to do was to get married."
They went to a small Mexican town, falsified their ages and were married. A month later, the girl had a miscarriage. They had agreed not to disclose their marriage to anyone and were not living together. By mutual agreement, they decided to get a divorce in the same small Mexican town.
Harvey graduated from college, was hired as a salesman at an auto dealership and continued living with his mother. Harvey's mother began worrying about him and encouraged him to date. She told him that he would have to find a girl, get married and settle down to raising a family of his own.
His dating was frequent, but Harvey claims that he slept with only two girls during the next two years.
"I guess sex was a pretty serious thing as far as I was concerned," he said. "I'd only sleep with a girl when I knew her very well, and had a deep feeling for her. I had a sexual relationship with one girl for about three months. At the beginning, I couldn't reach an orgasm with her at all. Then, once we were very close, I began to relax and I had an orgasm every second or third time we slept together."
"It's always been very difficult for me to become aroused. Both of the girls I slept with were sexually aggressive, and I had to force myself to go through it."
Harvey became interested in body development and began frequenting a gym near his office. Soon, he was working out there every noon hour.
"It was a slow process for me. I was very thin and adding inches on my chest was my big problem."
Harvey said that he suspected that a number of homosexuals hung around this particular gym, but he wasn't sure. He and his instructor became close friends, and Harvey was asked to come to the gym one night for some "special" instruction on expanding his chest. That night Harvey was initiated into bondage and homosexuality.
"I guess I was pretty dumb, but I had no idea of what was going to happen. I got there about nine, and they were closing the gym for the night. Pete (my instructor) told me to slip into some trunks and wait until he finished closing. A couple of friends of Pete's were hanging around the gym, but this didn't seem odd to me."
"After he had closed up, Pete showed me some exercises with a special expansion device mounted on the wall. Then he got to kidding around about my body and running his hands over my muscles. Pretty soon he asked me if I had ever tried a certain tension technique for muscle toning. You had to place yourself so that you couldn't move and then flex your muscles to a certain count and rhythm. Somehow he talked me into letting him tie me to some bars. The top bar was between my arms and my back, and my legs were tied to the end bars, which meant that they were spread as far as they could be. He tied me tight, and I couldn't move an inch!"
"About this time, his two friends come over and started admiring my body. They took their trunks off and started playing with each other's penis. Pete came up to me and said, 'Let's have a little party, Harvey.' I told him not to touch me, but he reached out and pulled my trunks down. He took my penis and started massaging it, saying, 'Doesn't that feel great, Harvey?' I told him to stop, but he just kept at it. Then he kneeled down and performed fellatio. I was so ashamed of myself. I had an erection, and I reached a climax while he was doing that to me.
"Then the other two took turns playing with me. The same thing happened again, both times. Pete got behind me and tried anal intercourse, but he couldn't do it because of the way I was tied. The two friends then untied my arms and held me. They bent me forward and Pete performed anal intercourse on me. He used some sort of cream or something, and it only hurt a little. One of the men was playing with my penis while he did it. I had another orgasm, and it felt like my whole body had melted."
"Then they wanted me to do things to them, but I refused. They held me and tied my hands behind my back and my ankles together. One of them started putting pressure on my arm and twisting it. I'll break your goddamned arm,' he said, 'unless you get busy and perform fellatio.' There was no doubt in my mind that they meant it! I did it to each one, and they untied me and let me go."
"During all of this, I cried and struggled quite a bit. I felt dirty and was ashamed of myself. When they untied me, I ran into the shower room and took a long shower. I didn't say a word to them. I got dressed and rushed out. When I left, the three of them were having some sort of an orgy in the gym."
Harvey quit the gym after this experience, but Pete kept calling him. Pete told Harvey that he had been invited to join a very special club, and he wanted Harvey to join with him. He refused to tell Harvey what kind of club it was, but said that he would enjoy it. He told Harvey that it was a big honor to be invited, and he wanted Harvey to take advantage of it.
In his subconscious, Harvey knew that this was a club for homosexuals, but he justified his action by maintaining he had no idea what it was.
"Pete said that there were several movie stars who belonged, and that a lot of important people were at the parties. I finally gave in and met him for dinner. After dinner, we went over to Hollywood to meet some of the members at a party."
"I was amazed that there were two pretty well known TV actors there, and I relaxed when I saw that it was just a normal cocktail party."
Harvey related that a number of the guests left about midnight and the host locked the door. There were about "a dozen" men left, and soon everyone was in the nude. Pete and another man grabbed Harvey and a third man undressed him.
"They told me to cooperate or they would rip my clothes off. The same thing happened to three other guys, and we were all completely stripped. Then they blindfolded us and tied our hands behind our backs...."
Harvey goes on to describe what happened at the party. He and the three other men who were bound were forced to kneel down and submit to anal intercourse. They were also forced to perform fellatio on other men, and allow fellatio to be performed on them. One of the bound men fought against performing fellatio on one of the other men and was spanked by two or three men.
Harvey is a reluctant member of several such clubs and said that he now attends these bondage parties "every month or so." He claims that he does not know that the party will be a homosexual bondage affair, and that each time he is "forced" to commit the homosexual acts.
Harvey is a homosexual, but he is not willing to admit this even to himself. He still believes in his conscious mind, that he is a normal man who is continually forced into homosexual acts against his will. He refuses to admit that he has homosexual desires, and always says that he feels "dirty and ashamed" after the act.
There can be little doubt that Harvey's mother's entrance into prostitution was a contributing factor to Harvey's sexual inversion. He was close to his mother and felt that they were a team in life. When he found that she had become a prostitute, he blamed his father, her employer and himself for her dishonor. He also became intimately concerned with the heterosexual sex act by listening to the sounds in his mother's bedroom at night. At this point, Harvey more than likely associated the heterosexual act, a sex act between a male and his mother.
Many young men create a fixation that sex with a female represents sex with their mother, and this is probably what happened with Harvey. Any sex contact between Harvey and a female represented to him the act of having sex with his mother. This can be broadened to say that he may well have associated any heterosexual act between two people as a sex act with his mother. Sex became distasteful to him. He even states that he thought of sex as a very serious matter.
His sex drive then had to be channeled in some other direction. His mind refused to accept his homosexuality, but unconsciously Harvey began seeking a homosexual contact. He took up body building (which served two purposes in his mind: (I) to make the male body more attractive, (2.) to seek possible homosexual contact), and agreed to a clandestine meeting with his instructor after the regular gym hours. When the instructor wanted to tie him up, Harvey let him, his subconscious mind certain that a homosexual contact would take place.
Because he is unwilling to admit his sexual inversion, Harvey has to be "forced" to commit homosexual acts. This allows him to preserve the illusion that he is not homosexual, and to enjoy the sex act at the same time. He pretends to be reluctant about the practice. He states that he does not know what kind of parties he is attending, but all of this is simply a defense mechanism on his part.
We have found that a number of married men with latent homosexual tendencies enter wife-swapping and purposely attend sex parties where bondage is practiced, in order that they can be "forced" into a homosexual contact. This will be covered in the next chapter.
Lesbians, female homosexuals, are subject to much the same psychology. Jean L., a twenty-seven year-old Chicago dental technician, belongs to a "swinging" club which makes bondage a regular part of their activities. Jean claims that she is bi-sexual and states that she enjoys the sex act with both males and females. In our opinion, this is a defense mechanism on Jean's part to cover her true homosexuality.
Jean's childhood was spent in Skokie, Illinois. She was an illegitimate child and never knew her father. Jean's mother was addicted to alcohol at an early age, and lived a sexually promiscuous life. When Jean was born, her mother asked her aunt to raise the child. For the first seven years of her life, Jean looked at her aunt as her mother. At this point Jean's mother became active in religion, stopped drinking and returned to raise her daughter. Jean had a difficult time understanding the relationship.
"I was only seven, and I had always thought of my aunt as my mother. She told me that my father was dead, and I assumed that she was my mother. I realize now that she never told me that she was, but I just naturally assumed it."
"Then, when my mother showed up, I was really confused. My aunt explained it to me, but I don't think that I could really accept it for quite a while. I started living with my mother, but I took all my problems to my aunt."
"I didn't understand the whole story until I was fourteen. That was when my mother told me everything. She explained how she had been an alcoholic and slept with a lot of different men. She said that she had no idea who my father was, but that I would just have to adjust to not having one."
Jean and her mother became very close, and Jean entered into church work at her mother's request. A year after she confessed everything to her daughter, when Jean was fifteen, Jean's mother began drinking again and ran off with a man she met in a bar. Jean returned to her aunt's.
"They said that I was always a very sensitive child," Jean remarked. "When my mother left without a note or anything, I cried and cried. For some reason I hated everyone, even my aunt. I had very little security in life, and suddenly that was gone. My aunt told me that I wasn't like other girls. She said that I would always have to take care of myself, and that I couldn't depend on anyone. That made a big impression on me, and I've shifted for myself ever since. Some people think that I'm selfish, but if I don't take care of myself first, nobody else will."
Jean's aunt could not afford to send her to college, so Jean took a part-time job when she graduated from high school and studied nights at a business school. When she completed her business training, Jean began buying the Chicago newspapers to search for a good paying job. One day she read about her mother's death. She had died in the county hospital in Chicago, a victim of narcotics.
"I can't really explain how I felt," Jean said. "I loved her, but at the same time, it was like reading about a stranger. I hadn't seen her or heard from her in over three years, and somehow I had pushed her out of my mind."
Jean borrowed $200.00 from her aunt, went to Chicago, found a job as secretary and took a room in a boarding house for young career women. Jean's first sexual contact was with a girl at this boarding house.
"The first time was pretty harmless, but when it started getting involved, I cut it off," she said. "This girl and I became very chummy. We worked in the same building, and we rode the bus to and from work together. We made it a ritual to have our dinner out and see a movie every Thursday evening."
"We used to hang around each other's room at the house, swapped books and all that sort of thing. One night we were talking about a book we both had just read. It was about these two girls who had fallen in love with each other and had an affair. Mary wanted to know what I thought about lesbians, and I told her that I had never even thought about it. We talked about sex a lot after that. She wanted to know if I still masturbated and I told her that I did. She told me that she did too. One night she wanted to know how I did it. When I told her, she said that she knew a much better way, and she suggested we do it to each other. We had both just seen a love picture at the movies and were feeling pretty sexy. I didn't want to I guess I was too embarrassed but she was insistent. She had me lay back on the bed and she opened my robe." [Jean describes here how Mary masturbated her by digital manipulation of the clitoris. Jean did the same thing to Mary afterward.]
"We did that to each other about once a week. I couldn't see anything wrong with it. It wasn't like we were two lesbians. We weren't in love, or anything like that. We both masturbated anyway, all we were doing was doing it to each other."
"Mary started getting other ideas after about a month. She wanted to perform cunnilingus on me, and she wanted me to do the same to her. I knew that was wrong, and I refused to do it. I told her that we had better stop doing what we were doing, anyway. It seemed like we might just be heading for trouble. She got mad and we had a fight, and that ended that. We still lived in the same house, but we didn't speak."
Jean began dating some of the men at her office and had her first coital experience a few months later. The circumstances and the act had a profound effect on her.
"I was sorry I dated Chuck from the minute I accepted, but he was one of the office wolves, and he was very persistent. He wouldn't let me alone, so I consented to go out to dinner with him."
"I was never a drinker, and I refused to drink on every date. Chuck said he respected me for this and that he didn't admire girls who drank too much. He insisted I have a little wine with dinner, and said that it was mild and wouldn't affect me at all. He ordered champagne, and we drank two whole bottles with our dinner. I didn't think that it had had any effect on me at all. That's why I kept drinking it whenever he filled my glass. When I stood up to go to the powder room, I felt like a ton of bricks had hit me! I still thought that I was sober, but I could hardly walk straight!"
"The rest is straight out of a grade "b" love story. He took me to his apartment, suggested that what I needed was a good cold shower, helped me get undressed, and left me in the bathroom. When I climbed out of the shower, he was right there! He started rubbing me down with a towel, picked me up and carried me into the bedroom, put me on the bed and seduced me. He had a very big penis and was proud of it. He even showed me with a measure that it was eight inches long. When he got on top of me, he didn't try to ease it in, but just jabbed me with it like it was a weapon or something. It hurt God, how it hurt and I bled a lot."
"Afterwards, he called a cab and sent me home. He didn't even have the courtesy to drive me home!"
"The next morning well, you can guess what size hangover I had! That was my first time drinking, and the champagne really hit me. I was so sick I couldn't go to work. I was terrified that I might be pregnant it would just be like what my mother went through, but I wasn't. I bought a wedding band and got a prescription for birth control pills right after that."
Although she started on the birth control pills as soon as she was certain that she was not pregnant, Jean did not have another coital contact for eight months. She said that she did not enjoy the first contact, and felt that she would wait until she felt a strong attraction for a man or fell in love. She formed another close friendship with a girl at the boarding house who also worked in the same building. They rode to and from work together and ate lunch together each day at a cafeteria in the office building. Jean did not let this friendship reach an intimate basis with sexual contact, although she suspected that the other girl wanted that.
"She would start talking sex every now and then, and I'd just cut her off. I didn't want a repeat of the situation with Mary."
The company hired a new salesman during this period and he was very interested in dating Jean. She refused him a number of times, and one day he shocked her with a personal question.
"He was always kind of fresh," she said, "and one day he asked me, 'Say, are you a lesbian? I see you have lunch with that dyke every day and the two of you act like inseparables.' I was furious, and I slapped him. He said that he was sorry, but if I wasn't a lesbian, why wouldn't I date? It was like he was daring me to date him, so I did."
"After we left the lounge where we had been dancing, he asked me if I wanted to go to his place with him. I thought about it for a moment and then told him that I did. You see, he ended up being sort of a challenge to me, and I really believed that I wanted to sleep with him."
Jean states that she had a sexual experience with this man and found it enjoyable.
"I didn't reach a climax, but he did stimulate me and he was nice to be with. It was a far cry from that first experience."
Jean was disappointed when the man failed to ask her for a second date, but suddenly her life became very busy. She met a girl in the cafeteria at work, struck up an immediate friendship, began going to movies, art museums, and the ballet with the girl, and finally agreed to share an apartment with her.
"We were just perfect for each other. Neither of us drank, and we liked the same things. I had never had a sister, but this was what Andrea was to me. I was sick and tired of the boarding house, and when Andrea found a darling, small apartment, I agreed to share it with her."
The apartment had only one bedroom, but the girls used twin beds. One night, about a week after they moved in, Jean discovered that Andrea was a lesbian. Andrea had waited until Jean had gone to sleep, then tied her up and made love to her.
"You can't imagine what it was like! I woke up and my wrists were taped to the headboard on the bed. One of my legs was taped to one corner of the foot of the bed, and Andrea was just taping my other foot. She had it finished before I could say anything! I was scared to death! She had used regular adhesive tape, and I couldn't move!"
"I said, 'What are you doing?' She said, 'I've hinted to you for a month, now I can't wait any longer. I have to have you!' That's all she said. Then, she started kissing my body and running her tongue along my skin. At first it tickled, but when she put my breast in her mouth, I began to get excited. I told her to stop. She said, 'Don't be silly. I've got you just the way I want you, and I'm not going to stop until tomorrow!' I felt her hand go down between my legs, and I couldn't control myself! I started moving up and down, and she said, "That's it, darling, enjoy it!' She leaned down and kissed me on the mouth. I felt her tongue on my lips and I opened my mouth. I gave in then. She went down between my legs and [performed cunnilingus]. I had an orgasm, and then [Jean described in detail all of the homosexual acts Andrea performed, causing Jean to have several orgasms]. "
"She said she'd untie me if I would do the same things to her. I told her that I wasn't a lesbian and that I would never do those things to her!"
After a while, Jean was untied. She went into the living room and slept on the couch. Strangely, Jean did not move out. She had a long talk with Andrea and said that she would stay if Andrea would forget the incident and didn't expect her to do any of these things again. Andrea agreed and they remained together. Andrea tied Jean up after she was asleep about once a month. She performed homosexual acts on Jean and then let her up. On each occasion, Jean spent the rest of the night in the living room, but did not move out of the apartment. Jean never dated men during this period. She said, "I just didn't meet anyone I was interested in."
A few months later, Andrea introduced Jean to a lesbian bondage group. Jean still maintained that she was not a lesbian, and said that she had no idea what went on at these parties. At her first party, Jean was tied up with rope while four women made love to her body. She agreed to return if they would promise that she would not be required to engage in any of their activities. They agreed, she attended, and she was again tied up. This has been going on for over two years now. Jean always makes them promise that they won't do it the next time, they always agree, she is always stripped and bound.
At one party, Jean was tied to a bed and one of the women used a dildo on her.
"They broke their word again," she said, "and tied me to a bed this time. Then one of the girls put on this artificial penis, it looked just like a real man's, and climbed on top of me and did it just like a man would!"
Jean's is another case of latent homosexuality. She is a sexual invert, but absolutely will not admit this to herself or anyone else. She makes everybody play the game with her by pretending that they will not molest her, but she knows full well that they will and returns anyway. If Jean is to be believed, she has never reached a climax with a male, but has repeated ones in homosexual contacts.
Jean's personality is quite complex. She began her life believing that her aunt was her mother and that her father was dead. Suddenly, at age seven, she finds a new mother a total stranger. A few years later, after she and her mother have formed a close relationship, Jean learns that she is illegitimate, and that her mother was an alcoholic. When she is just adjusting to her new mother, she loses her. Her mother was first abused by a man, who left her pregnant with Jean. She then runs off with a man and returns to her old life. Jean is forced to again change her home.
Rather than blame her mother, Jean identifies with her. She feels that men have been responsible for all of the problems which have brought so much misfortune to both her and her mother.
Jean states that she never touched alcohol, indicating that she would avoid her mother's downfall. She unknowingly gets intoxicated and seduced on one of her few dates. She said that she was terrified that she was pregnant, and we can imagine that she was more terrified that she was about to follow in her mother's footsteps. Jean said that she was a sensitive girl, and we can imagine how she must have suffered mentally in trying to live a life without a father. Men and liquor ruined her mother's, and consequently, her life. Jean was determined that the same fate would not befall her.
In identifying with her mother, and by hating men, Jean took the first steps to sexual inversion. She permitted a homosexual contact with her girl friend, Mary, by justifying it in the light of being simple masturbation. When Mary wanted the relationship to progress into a full homosexual affair, Jean refused. She was protecting her image of normality. She even consented to a heterosexual affair with a man on a first date because the man had accused her of being a lesbian. The only Treason she agreed to go to bed with this man was to prove to him, and to herself, that she was not homosexual.
Andrea told Jean that she had hinted at a homosexual relationship between them for a month. Jean probably did not understand her friend's hints, because she did not want to understand them. Then, Andrea tied Jean up and raped her. Jean admits that she reached a number of climaxes in that encounter, and the fact is that she did not move out of the apartment indicating that she obviously wanted to continue the relationship, but make Andrea force her into each homosexual contact.
When she attended the lesbian bondage club, Jean must have suspected what was in store for her, but she went anyway. Even after she was bound and forced into a number of homosexual contacts at the club, she continued to attend their parties. Making them promise to leave her alone, was simply part of Jean's game to preserve her normality.
In our interview with Jean she stated that she was not a lesbian, but did admit that she was bi-sexual. When asked why she had never reached a sexual climax with a male, Jean responded, "Because I just haven't met the right man yet."
These two cases, Harvey and Jean, illustrate how latent homosexuals often use bondage as an outlet for their sexually inverted desires. In each of these cases, the individuals assumed the passive role. Many latent homosexuals assume the active role and, by punishing a member of their own sex, relieve their subconscious homosexual frustration.
A number of homosexuals receive their greatest stimulation from performing homosexual acts on unwilling partners. Motivated much like the male, who only wishes to seduce virgins, these individuals seek situations where they can initiate a person into the homosexual life. Recognizing the serious legal ramifications, however, many homosexuals use bondage to create the illusion that their partner, or victim, is unwilling.
It should also be remembered that a homosexual love affair is very similar to the normal heterosexual love. Domination certainly plays a major role in every homosexual affair, providing the active and passive partners make up a homosexual romance. The material in Chapter Four on domination must be applied to any homosexual study. The same sadism and masochism also apply. Basically, the psychological motivations applying to bondage are the same in homosexual and heterosexual contacts.
An interesting sidelight on the stimulation received from hearing or reading sadomasochistic stories within a group of homosexuals is provided by a study of the material presented in SEX OFFENDERS, recently released by the Kinsey Institute. Using a control group of convicted homosexual offenders serving prison terms, the Kinsey group learned that those homosexuals whose offense involved a child, reacted in a greater percentage to sadomasochistic stories; those whose offense involved minors were next, and those whose offense involved adults were lowest.
It is also interesting to see that the Kinsey sampling of normal society in 1963 provided a higher percentage of response than the sampling of convicted homosexual offenders. Amazing as it may be, the facts are there, and they clearly show that the contention that literature and stories dealing with sadomasochistic themes contribute to sex crimes is absolutely false.
The actual number of bondage clubs devoted to members of one sex is difficult to ascertain with the information presently available. What evidence we do have, tends to point to the fact that these are few in number, accounting for perhaps less than ten per cent of all of the bondage clubs in the country.
Each bondage club, however, has a number of active homosexual members. Many of these are latent homosexuals who refer to themselves as bisexuals.
CHAPTER NINE
WIFE-SWAPPING
As we have indicated in several of the previous chapters, the wife-swapping groups all have splinter groups within, who practice bondage. In SEX REBELS, we pointed out that there are close to eight million Americans today engaged in what many refer to as "swinging."
"adultery with consent," or "wife-swapping." These people come from all walks of life, all income levels and all age groups. They embrace sexual freedom in rebellion against the traditional concept of sex as a sacred practice confined to marriage. They claim that they have been sexually liberated, and that they have separated the physical sex act from love.
The "swinging" generation use the "adult" correspondence club as a meeting ground. At the writing of this book, there are 36 "swinging" correspondence clubs operating nationally. Among the major clubs are: LA PLUME, Brooklyn, New York C & W, Chicago, Illinois SWING, Dallas, Texas SELECT, Camden, New Jersey CORYDON INSIDER, Denver, Colorado CONTINENTAL SPECTATOR, New York, New York CLUB JOY, Brooklyn, New York PERSONAL APPROACH, Harris-burg, Pennsylvania and COUPLES Hollywood, California.
One of these clubs mails bulletins to 155,-000 members each month! Memberships in the others range from I,000 to 50,000. Although married couples seeking swap arrangements predominate the clubs' memberships, each club has a large number of single people seeking various and bizarre sex contacts. The majority of the clubs publish monthly bulletins listing personal ads with a coded box number. Mail is forwarded from member to member by the club for a fee, and all report business is brisk. Even postal inspectors join the clubs and pay the forwarding fees in the hopes of entrapping a private citizen into sending obscene material in their personal mail.
Often these married couples find their sexual freedom a heady cocktail, and once the newness of wife-swapping has worn thin, these people begin searching further afield for their sexual stimulation. It is at this point that many couples experiment with the practice of bondage.
An excellent example of the progressive steps some couples take in their pursuit of sexual freedom is illustrated in the case of Sandra and Dick W. of Atlanta, Georgia. Both Sandra and Dick are 27, college graduates and financially independent. They were married, in the fall, after they graduated from college and now have two children.
Dick has his own business as a manufacturer's representative, and Sandra is active in community work. Prior to marriage, Dick had a number of coital contacts in both high school and college. Although Sandra engaged in petting and fellatio, she was a virgin when they married.
"I guess it was what Playboy calls a 'technical virgin,'" she said. "I dated all the time, engaged in what you might call mutual masturbation and [performed fellatio] on some occasions, but I drew the line at intercourse. I had some silly notion that I was saving that for marriage, and I stuck with it."
Neither Dick nor Sandra had an extramarital contact during their first three years of marriage. During their fourth year, however, both became sexually restless.
"We had become too used to each other," Dick said. "I was looking at girls all the time, and wondering what they would be like in bed. Sandra was doing the same with good looking men. The frequency in our sex life had gone down considerably. When we were first married, we had sex almost every night at least five or six nights a week. Then it started downhill. It wasn't any less exciting, but the desire had just diminished."
They talked their problem out, even exploring the idea of an extra-marital affair for each of them with the consent of the other. This was ruled out because they both feared emotional involvement.
"We were very much in love, and what we had in our marriage was everything either of us could want. We certainly didn't want to endanger that."
"Then, one day Dick read a book on wife-swapping. He had me read it and then we started talking about it. It seemed like the perfect solution for our sexual restlessness. The main problem in our mind was whether we could disassociate the physical sex act from love. We felt that we could, but there was a nagging doubt."
They discussed this for some time and then decided to see if they could meet an experienced couple and get their reaction to wife-swapping. They wrote in and joined two correspondence clubs and sent letters to couples in their area. One couple invited them to dinner on a "no-commitment" basis, "They were a couple very much like ourselves," Sandra said. "Both were young and college grads, and they were very interesting. We talked till after midnight. I don't think that there were any doubts in our minds after that. Dick and I both had a definite sexual attraction for this couple, and we invited them over to our house for dinner that weekend."
"I had the grandparents take the children for the weekend, and we set out to be initiated into the swinging life."
"It was a very exciting evening. By then, we all felt that we knew each other quite well. After dinner we started dancing, and Dick made a big play for Anne. They stopped dancing and sat on the couch and started necking. Anne had no inhibitions, and before long she had Dick's penis out of his pants and was performing fellatio. There's nothing strange about that between a man and a woman, but it was right in front of Art and me. Dick had her stripped down to the waist and was playing with her breasts while she did it to him. Art and I were dancing, and I could feel that this had aroused him. He kept pressing it against me, which served to stimulate me."
"Well, from that point on it progressed pretty fast. Art and I went into our bedroom, and Anne and Dick took the guest room. I thought that I knew everything about sex until I got in bed with Art. I was a novice, but he taught me a lot...."
"The party broke up at about two in the morning. After they left, Dick and I cleaned up the place and headed for bed. We started talking about what each of us had done with the other partner, and before we knew what was happening, we were all excited again. We made love in the living room and then again in the bedroom."
Incidentally, this is common among wife-swapping couples. They often discuss their sexual experiences after the meeting and become stimulated. Usually, they make love to each other after the other partners have left.
For the next four or five months Dick and Sandra met couples for swapping contacts on the average of once a week. All of these contacts were conducted on a separate room basis. The next progressive step most couples take is group sex.
"Our first experience with group sex," Dick reported, "happened by accident. We took our vacation and drove down to Daytona Beach. We had been corresponding with a couple there, and set a date to meet them. We had a room at a lovely motel right on the beach, and they invited us over to their house for dinner. The idea was to get to know each other and see if we wanted to go any further. There was no question about that once we all met! We were just perfectly suited, and each had a very strong sexual attraction for the other."
"The problem was that none of us had planned to have sex that night. We had supposed that if we liked each other, we would set up a meeting for the following night. The wine at dinner had its effect and we all wanted to go that same night. Their children were home, so we decided to head back for the motel. They were sure that we could get an extra room without any problem, but the tourist season was on and there wasn't a decent room in the whole city."
"So, there we were, sitting in our motel room. I fixed us all a drink, and Don suggested we all go for a swim. They had their suits in the car, so we all took a moonlight dip. When we got back, Don and Sandra started necking up a storm on the bed. I took a shower, and when I came out Don had Sandra's top off and was kissing her breast. She had pulled his shorts down and was playing with him. Barbara had no intention of being left out and she put her arms around me. By the time we got to the bed, Don and Sandra were both nude and going at it. Unless you've experienced this, it's impossible to describe how exciting it is to see another man making love to your wife. All the old bromides about this sending a man into a murderous rage are silly! It gets you as hot as hell."
"Barbara and I made them move over and share the bed, and got our own session going. Each of us could watch the other while we were in the act, and that really puts you into orbit."
"Afterward, we even experimented with some threesome stuff. Sandra and Barbara made love to me at the same time, and then they did the same to Don. That's something else!"
Sandra and Dick agreed that group sex was more exciting than the standard separate room affair, and they began seeking contacts with other couples who enjoyed the same thing. From this point it is only a very short step to sex parties, where eight, ten and even twenty people engage in sex acts in the same room or general area. A large percentage of the wife-swapping couples progress to this stage, and sex parties become regular events.
It is obvious that as Dick and Sandra experimented with each new progressive stage of sophisticated sex, they had to look further afield for sex "kicks." From various couples they had heard a great deal about bondage. The practice did not particularly appeal to either of them, but they were willing to explore any new field of sexual behavior.
"A couple from Chicago came to Atlanta," Sandra said, "but we were just a little leery of them. We had seen some of their ads in club bulletins, and they leaned to the bizarre side of sex. When we met them, we found that they were a delightful couple. They asked us if we had ever tried bondage, and we told them that we hadn't. Then they described some of the bondage parties they had attended and told us how much fun they had had."
"After a while, they got me to agree to being tied up. Using some of my silk scarfs, they tied me to the bed. I was spread eagle, my arms and legs tied to each of the four corners of the bed. Then, all three of them began making love to me at one time. Dick and Ellen each had one of my breasts in their mouth, and Martin was down between my legs. They did about everything you can to me, including a fiendish little vibrator Ellen had with her."
"The whole effect was interesting. It was like being raped or ravaged. I couldn't do a thing, and they did whatever they wanted to me. I thoroughly enjoyed it. Dick said that he had a good time, too."
"We decided that we would start going to some of the bondage parties. There are always some going on, and we know quite a few people who are absolutely devoted to it. We'd been invited several times to attend one, but having never tried it, we were a little skeptical."
"Neither Dick nor I want to make bondage a full-time project. It's nice for a change, but I like to make love to a man when he's doing it to me, and in bondage that's not possible."
Dick and Sandra now attend bondage parties, once or twice a month. There seems little doubt that they will soon begin looking in other directions for sexual thrills, because the sex appetite becomes more jaded with experience for many.
Sandra told us that often homosexual acts are a part of the bondage parties. She reported that she had her first lesbian experience when a girl performed cunnilingus on her while she was tied up one evening. She said that the experience was "not unpleasant," but that she much preferred men.
In an interview with Joanne S., a Washington, D.C., housewife, we learned that she had suggested that she and her husband attend a bondage party so that she might have a homosexual experience. Joanne said that she had long desired a homosexual contact, but was afraid to admit this to her husband. She said the stories about lesbians sexually aroused her, and she was anxious to find out what it would be like to have a girl make love to her. She and her husband were regular members of a wife-swapping club in Washington, but had never attended a group sex or bondage party. Some friends told her about a bondage group that had regular parties in Arlington, Virginia. They said that most of the girls "went both ways," and Joanne wangled an invitation through some friends for the next bondage party. She then worked on her husband, to get him to agree to go.
At the party, Joanne was tied up and had a number of sexual contacts, including two lesbian acts. She reported that these contacts were the most thrilling she had ever experienced, and she made her husband agree to becoming regular members of the group.
Whereas female homosexuality is more accepted as normal by both society and members of both sexes, male homosexuality is usually frowned on. Many men fear that they will be thought of as a sissy if they engage in homosexual acts, even though the desire is present in their personality. Bondage offers these men, the perfect opportunity to experience a homosexual contact, which is "beyond their reasonable control." We have interviewed literally dozens of cases of this nature; men who have regular homosexual contacts, but only when they are bound and helpless. We would even venture to estimate that as high as one half of the couples who engage in bondage with others and take the passive role, are satisfying a subconscious urge for homosexual contact.
From the evidence at hand, it would appear that approximately ten per cent of the membership of the many wife-swapping clubs in the United States engage in some form of bondage. William and Jerrye Breedlove, in their book SWAP CLUBS, estimate that the number of people engaged in wife-swapping approaches 12 million. Our more conservative estimate in SEX REBELS places this figure at 5 million. If ten per cent of these people practiced some form of bondage, that would mean that between 500,000 and I,200,000 people were involved. Actually, we believe that this figure is perhaps too high. Many couples engage in bondage only infrequently, and some simply experiment with the practice once or twice. The 100,000 estimate given by some sexologists would be more accurate, when applied to those who engage in bondage on a fairly regular basis.
CHAPTER TEN
ALGOLAGNIA
Algolagnia, pain lust, is obviously present in the majority of human beings. Sadism and masochism play an important part in the personality of every human being, and are present in every love relationship. These two basic emotions motivate much of what each of us think, and often serve to generate our daily action.
For some, the lust for pain dominates their every move. The degree to which we control these desires dictates the normality or abnormality of our activity. In the majority of cases, the sadomasochistic urges are channeled into other than sexual behavior. Competition in business and sports, war, crime, and even freeway driving, offer excellent outlets for these drives.
Sexual response to sadomasochism is present in only a very few people. The Kinsey Institute, in their report SEX OFFENDERS, provided interesting figures on various samplings they made to ascertain sexual arousal from sadomasochistic material. The control group was a cross-section sampling from all walks of life. The prison group was confined to prisoners serving time for other than sex offenses, and the last group were a number of sex offenders in prison. The percentage of those aroused in each of the three groups was less than 5%, and the percentage between the groups differed only by less than I % .
This serves to indicate that sadomasochism, while definitely present in society, is sexually stimulating to a very small percentage of the overall population.
From this, one would gather that the increased bondage activity in this country is actually comprised of individuals seeking new and different sex thrills. Undoubtedly this is a direct result of the sexual revolution, wherein Americans are experimenting with a new-found sexual freedom.
For centuries, sex was hidden behind closely locked doors, and considered a sin. Sex was not talked about, and morality preached that it be used for procreation purposes only. The writings of the past indicate that the majority believed that sex was enjoyed by the male only, and that the female simply tolerated the act.
Morality, kicking and screaming, was dragged into the twentieth century, and sex was brought out into the open. Sex was talked about and studied, and new sexual attitudes were formed. Morality began to undergo change, slowly and reluctantly to be sure, but change nevertheless.
As sexual behavior became a matter of common knowledge and open discussion, widespread reports of its practice were made public. Then, the super-moralists pointed their finger at the liberals and screamed that the open approach to sex was bringing about complete immorality and promiscuous behavior. How ridiculous! Homosexuality was not invented in San Francisco, nor wife-swapping in Los Angeles. Wife-swapping was recorded in ancient Babylon, and we have stories of homosexuality dating back hundreds of years before the birth of Christ. What is going on today, has always gone on! Today, it's in the open and more freely talked about. That's the major difference.
There is no real new morality today; merely a re-evaluation of traditional morality. The sexual behavior today is little different, than it was in centuries past. The major difference is that today we express and expect sexual freedom, whereas past generations practiced sexual freedom behind a cloak of secrecy.
Many have expressed the fear that the various adult sex clubs in this country are a danger to society. The law, in many instances, has moved against these sex clubs in an effort to suppress the sexual revolution. History has recorded, however, that no society has been successful in maintaining the status quo, and that progress, good or bad, is inevitable in any society.
We feel confident that in the future, the law will recognize any sexual act between consenting adults to be free of legal restriction.
It is true, that when an individual tastes liquor for the first time, it is easy to go to extremes. The same applies with sexual freedom. Many perverted sex acts, such as bondage, will undoubtedly receive widespread experimentation in the current quest for sexual expression. We feel equally confident that the continued practice of these acts will be confined to those individuals whose psychological make-up is such, that they can find sexual expression in no other way.
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